to wish i could have punched this woman in the face..

[MummySunshine]

Went to a kiddies birthday party with 7 week old DS and was sat with someone's MIL who is a strain at the best of times..

Comments included
'Your baby's feet are too cold you know'
'That won't keep the sun out of his eyes..why didn't you bring a better hat?'
'He's spit up quite a lot hasn't he? You should probably feed him less'

But what really got my back up was her asking me loudly infront of a room full of people I don't know, 'is the father involved?'
I am a single mum, but I am a 21 year old woman not some teenager that got knocked up. I see this woman once a year if I'm unlucky so AIBU to think it was totally inappropriate and rude for her to ask me that in that way?! Grrr!

(I answered a quick yes and carried on my conversation fwiw)

YANBU to be annoyed.

YABU to want to punch someone in the face.

Yeah, punch her lights out then nick her pension book

YABU for the 'teenager who got knocked up' bit

YABU for wanting to punch her in the face

YABU and you know it

Shit, I didn't realise you knew my mum....

Punching her in the face is probably a slight over reaction to be fair. She said some things you didn't like, you moved the conversation on, end of problem.

Whats wrong with hef asking about the father?
If its a touchy subject for you the thats your own issue, perhaps she sees no problem with it and so felt comfortable asking?
Or did she not know you were single and just assumed (correctly)?

When you have a baby,everyone has an opinion on him/her.

Apparently my 13 month old needs physio because shes not walking
Despite the fact that she is cruising around the furniture.

I would have been furious too - sounds like not one or two comments but a steady stream of nastiness.

Well done for the quick yes, rather than the 'do you know how rude you sound' she'd have got from me.

YANBU to be annoyed.

I'm highly amused by your user name given the thread title. :)

I don't get the 'knocked up' bit either

So you're two years older than a 'knocked up' teenager...what real difference is that going to make to anything?

She was rude though

Cross posted ... surely it is very rude to ask someone if their partner is involved with the baby?

I can't understand how that question isn't rude.

I would be furious, though probably not enough to punch her lights out.
People do ask the most inappropriate questions though. I used to look after my sisters twins as well as my son and had a triple buggy for them and once, when I was picking up my nephew from nursery, a mum asked me if I had conceived my triplets naturally or if I had IVF. That floored me.
Not only because it's a very personal question but also that my nephew and nieces are dual heritage and have lovely coffee coloured skin and my son is the colour of a milk bottle! maybe she thought he was an albino?

I am also loving the thread title - user name combination.

LRD-are you asking me? I think its a question that could be rude but could also be more of a 'is the dad giving you any help at all? Is he supporting you?'

Sorry, meant to say im assuming the old lady wasnt asking about op's 'partners' input, but that she was aware she was a lone parent.

I hate the term 'knocked up'.

Hahaha well yes I wasn't feeling so sunshiney at that moment

And of course I wouldn't actually punch this woman in the face..

The knocked up teenager thing was referring to the way she condescendingly spoke to me as if I were a child, when people usually assume the dad won't stick around. Nothing at all against young mums I know plenty.

Hahaha well yes I wasn't feeling so sunshiney at that moment

And of course I wouldn't actually punch this woman in the face..

The knocked up teenager thing was referring to the way she condescendingly spoke to me as if I were a child, when people usually assume the dad won't stick around. Nothing at all against young mums I know plenty.

I was a knocked up teenager. Am I unreasonable if I punch you in the face for that comment?

(Note i would never punch you in the face but that actually stung to be fair)

How rude! OP, YAalmostNBU. I might not have wanted to punch her in the face but if I'd have left her in no doubt whatsoever that I wasn't pleased with her ill manners!

you might know plenty of young mums but you're the one who used the phrase as a slur

low - it was a general question, not you particularly.

I just think it is very rude to question strangers about their domestic situation. If the OP were married to her child's dad and they were both 35, it'd still be rude to say 'and does he help you with the kids, eh?', wouldn't it?

I suspect the OP is quite right this woman was judging her for her age, too.

When someone asks me a question that they really have no need to ask, or know about. I tend to reply "why do you ask?" Instead of answering. Generally puts them on the hop. Of course this may not work with this woman, but she has no business asking these questions. I would have had to move to sit elsewhere tbh.

I don't see the difference between a 21 yo and a teenager getting "knocked up" either. You are obviously superior in some way???? That kind of lost my sympathy for you.....