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AIBU?

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To think my Grandma should leave me and DB something in her will?

95 replies

Cockapoo · 14/05/2012 21:05

Ok I realise I am probably being unreasonable here!

Basically my Grandma has recently changed her will to split half of everything between my mum and her brother. She had previously written my mum out of it because she didn't like her boyfriend, but when they split up after 14 years she was 'reinstated'.

My Mum went with her to change it and asked my Grandma to leave her half to my brother and I as my Mum is very well off. My Brother's family and my own are really struggling financially since the recession and still haven't managed to get on the housing ladder.

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gordyslovesheep · 14/05/2012 21:06

yes yabu - why can your mum just not give you it when you poor obviously much loved granny dies?

Pascha · 14/05/2012 21:08

You know the answer to this.

Its not your money, you have no rights over it, you have no future rights over it. If your mum wants you to have it once she has inherited thats up to her.

squeakytoy · 14/05/2012 21:08

of course YABU, and greedy and grasping.. it doesnt come across as very nice...

why not ask your wealthy mother for a hand out instead of wishing your granny dead?

MrsCampbellBlack · 14/05/2012 21:08

As Gordy says - your mother could surely just give you the money if she wants to.

Lots of people believe money should go to the children rather than grandchildren.

And its ultimately her money to do whatever she wants with it. Be grateful she's not leaving it to the cat's home.

KatieScarlett2833 · 14/05/2012 21:09

This is one of those thoughts that is probably left unsaid.

The correct response is to smile brightly and say "Great, Nana! I'm so glad you and Mum are happy again!"

SauvignonBlanche · 14/05/2012 21:09

YABVU

TartyMcFarty · 14/05/2012 21:09

Hmm Your Grandma's death isn't supposed to be an end to your financial woes. Yabu - let your mum pass her inheritance on to you if she sees fit. I really hope your Grandma doesn't get any inkling of your views.

bibbitybobbitybunny · 14/05/2012 21:09

Yabu. Sorry that times are hard for you, but you sound a wee bit grasping.

ApocalypseThen · 14/05/2012 21:09

She doesn't owe you anything. If she was leaving everything to a bunch of other cousins and excluding you and your brother, you'd have a point, but your mother can divide her inheritence if she wants to.

NatashaBee · 14/05/2012 21:09

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LentillyFart · 14/05/2012 21:10

How old is she? And when are you expecting her to fall off her perch? YABU, of course, but I'm sure you quite realise that. Greed is NOT good, despite what they told you in the 80's

mayorquimby · 14/05/2012 21:11

i think she should do what the fuck she likes with her cash.

AllYoursBabooshka · 14/05/2012 21:11

Yuck.

gnomeland · 14/05/2012 21:14

Surely, if your mother feels like that, she should just give it to you.

Where's the issue Confused

Debeez · 14/05/2012 21:49

YABU.

Granny's money and she can give it to the monster raving loony party if she wants.

"Ok I realise I am probably being unreasonable here! " Yet still you wrote this.

Look my Dad died last year, I didn't get a penny. In the hospice he asked me what I wanted. I could ask for anything in the world. I told him he didn't raise me to be like that. My brother gave him the same answer when asked. Someone dying isn't an opportunity to get on the housing ladder! Sorry I may be getting emotive on this, but seriously, fuck the money and enjoy your family. Please.

scarletforya · 14/05/2012 21:52

Horrible, YABVU.

How can you talk like this about your Gran? She's still alive and you're all circling like vultures. Sad

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 14/05/2012 21:54

YABU. Parents, IMO, should leave what they have for their children, then those children can use it to benefit their children if thy want to.

Does your uncle have children? Because it becomes more complicated if he does.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 14/05/2012 21:55

You know the answer to this already.

Financial worries are horrible but they are never an excuse to be money-grabbing.

wheremommagone · 14/05/2012 21:55

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ThreadWatcher · 14/05/2012 21:55

YABU

anniemcphee · 14/05/2012 21:55

OMG - I have met my fair share of grabby people, but they usually have the self control to wait till AFTER the death!
My Grandad is 92 this year, and although I know I am in the will (my late gran told me as I was an executer) I have no idea how much, and quite frankly I would love him to spend it all on himself enjoying what time he has left. He has worked so hard (as did my gran) for so many years, it is his money!
How can you be so selfish?! Basically wishing her life away - YABVU!

Teeb · 14/05/2012 21:58

You have zero entitlement to money your gran has today. Who's to say she will still have it tomorrow? Care fees, a once in a lifetime holiday or spending it at the bingo, she can do what she likes with her money.

DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 14/05/2012 22:03

Ofcourse you are being unreasonable! If your mum is so minted she can give you and your brother her half when granny dies. Or sod it and give it you both now. That's up to your mum. Your gran doesn't need to be worrying about your money troubles Hmm

I hate all this talk of who gets what should granny or whoever carks it. I know one charming woman (she's no lady) who keeps referring to her mother's money as "my inheritance". Err, no Love. It's your mum's money. She can do what she likes with it as she's still alive and kicking. It isn't your inheritance til she dies, and that's only if she chooses to leave you anything. you grasping hardfaced old cow

Primafacie · 14/05/2012 22:04

YABU

Floggingmolly · 14/05/2012 22:05

Yes you are being very unreasonable. Very distasteful thread. It would serve you bloody right if, as Teeb said, there was nothing left when the will was eventually read out.
Or she was just leading your mum up the garden path and has actually left it all to the local Cat's Home.