To leave Dd alone in hotel room?

[Shelby2010]

More of a WWYD really. We are going to be staying with Dd (18mths) in a hotel next month on holiday & then overnight for a wedding in July. How safe do MNetters feel it is to leave their sleeping DC in the room with either the listening service or a normal baby monitor while eating in the hotel restaurant or attending an evening reception?

Am I being very PFB to worry about how many members of staff could access the room (especially with programable card keys)? The fact that hotels do offer a listening service suggests that many parents are ok with this. I'm torn between thinking I'm paranoid and thinking that they always tell you not to leave valuables in you room except in the safe..... Help!

ami- i was giving my last words to people that hadn't done it before not to those that have already tried it.

Why? If you agree to disagree then why?
If I had ended with my advice to parents thinking of doing this you'd be up in arms.

It's not a even-handed post is it?

That's good TheRhubarb. I am a fan.

Erm.........thanks?

we had a similar scenario with a fire in our house, but started by a lamp. these things can happen at home they are no more likely to happen in a hotel or a rented cottage.

Pumpkin: But that's bullshit and achieves nothing but making people unnecessarily anxious. There's already far too much pressure on people, particularly women, to take the 'advice' of whining fuckwits incapable of either coherent risk assessment or keeping their noses out of other people's business.

Using a baby-monitor/listening service while you sit in a hotel bar or dining room is no more risky either statistically or conceptually than loads of other things people do, such as drive cars, cross roads, go swimming or answer the phone while cooking chips. Everyone reading this thread: take the risks that seem reasonable to you and don't worry about what any other random thinks.

Hell no!!

I think though it depends on each individual situation. Tiny B&B for example can be no different to sitting in your lounge at home. Massive hotel and wandering off to the bar 5 minutes walk away is totally different. You do have to judge each individual situation

I wouldn't even be able to do it even in a BnB. I'm a terribly paranoid person and I'd be constantly thinking up scenarios of lurking baby snatchers...

very grownup solidbrass-who is the one swearing?

and in a hotel i can be the same distance away as i am at home, if you book a room that is on the same floor as the bar, you can be less than 20m away in one hotel i could see the door to my room from the dining rm, as it was i only had ds1 at that point and didnt leave him as he wanted to be permanently attached to the boob, but had he been the kind of baby taht would have gone to sleep in a cot then yes i would have left him with a moniter.

and your scenario is slightly differerent as you say yourself you would have been i a DIFFERENT building. i am talking about staying in the same building less than 2 mins away in a different room with a moniter which is not that much different from at home in terms of getting to them if they cry or if there is a fire which seems to be your main risk.

But lequeen, if you were using a monitor you would have heard the bang that that alerted you to the fire on the monitor. No-one has suggested that people leave their children a five minute walk away or without a listening device (many of which also have a temperature monitor too). If you were planning to leave your child you would make sure you were by the bar and within range of the monitor (which isn't far in a hotel).

And a solidgoldbrass a question for you, if you do not care what "any random" thinks to tell people why go on mumsnet??
Sorry that i worry about lurkers it, maybe its because i actually care whether someone elses child out there somewhere may come to unessessary harm.

If you don't percieve that there is a massive risk to your child, then you will have NO NEED to stay in the room with them, lying in the dark while they can't get to sleep because they are distracted by your presence.

and i havent said you were paranoid, i think you are making your judgement on what YOU are COMFORTABLE with which is what we all have to do as parents.

what i dont like are the veiled and not so veiled comments that basically say as i have done this that i am a crap parent and i dont value my children, dont deserve to be a parent etc.

and with regards to cars, just how many parents do you think go on car journeys that are not essential how often does a parent get in the car to nip to the shops 5 mins away because its raining and they cant be bothered with coats and raincover on the pushchair etc? its not an essential trip in the car but we still do it and think its an acceptable risk?

I agree with LeQueen. There's no need, you're putting your want to go and enjoy yourself before the safety of your child.

This has already been mentioned, and it's an extreme example, but you'd think the Maddie Mccan case would put anyone off.

My other issue in modern hotels would be key card failure which in my experience happens quite a lot