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To leave Dd alone in hotel room?

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Shelby2010 · 13/05/2012 22:40

More of a WWYD really. We are going to be staying with Dd (18mths) in a hotel next month on holiday & then overnight for a wedding in July. How safe do MNetters feel it is to leave their sleeping DC in the room with either the listening service or a normal baby monitor while eating in the hotel restaurant or attending an evening reception?

Am I being very PFB to worry about how many members of staff could access the room (especially with programable card keys)? The fact that hotels do offer a listening service suggests that many parents are ok with this. I'm torn between thinking I'm paranoid and thinking that they always tell you not to leave valuables in you room except in the safe..... Help!

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TheRhubarb · 14/05/2012 17:03

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TheRhubarb · 14/05/2012 17:04

That's just some of the crap on this thread. I haven't put in bogeyface's comments or trawled much for anymore, but they are there if you can be bothered to look.

Not very nice comments are they? So Lisaro, your attempt to make me out to be cornering someone kinda pales into significance now.

oranges123 · 14/05/2012 17:04

What I think is most interesting from this debate is the obvious need for more hotels with interconnecting family rooms/suites which are affordable for average families. They would make a killing from all of us parents who are currently sitting in the bathroom sipping wine and talking in hushed voices!

Latsia · 14/05/2012 17:05

TheRhubarb I just haven't got time. I'm about to make dinner. Doubt it would make a difference anyway. You have a very unique approach to this thread.

Hullygully · 14/05/2012 17:07

I once knew someone who was hit by a car while crossing the road.

I would never ever cross a road again and nor should anyone else.

TheRhubarb · 14/05/2012 17:09

Of course I do Latsia. Enjoy your tea.

Hully, I never cross roads. In fact I never go out. It's dangerous and far too risky.

shockers · 14/05/2012 17:12

Wouldn't she be better off sleeping in her pram, with you, downstairs? We've done this at lots of wedding receptions when ours were younger. Actually, our DS2 still can't get through a full night do without nodding off on a few chairs pushed together, and he's 12 now. We rarely stay to the end of anything either.

shockers · 14/05/2012 17:14

Gosh... hadn't read the whole thread but just caught a glimpse.... Confused

Hopefullyrecovering · 14/05/2012 17:15

Full moon again?

Dunno why this is so contentious all of a sudden. The OP came back some time ago to say she wasn't going to leave the infant in the hotel room alone. We've all posted our thoughts and views and it was quite reasoned really. Even when the McCann word was mentioned.

andypandy30 · 14/05/2012 17:18

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ENSMUM · 14/05/2012 17:20

We've done it - at a wedding in a hotel where all of the guests were wedding guests. Monitor worked fine from the room to where we were and we couldn't hear it over the disco noise, but the lights flashed if there was any noise in our room so it was fine. Surely not that different from leaving baby asleep upstairs at home? Having said that, we're going to a wedding in a big chain hotel later this year and won't be doing it there as we won't know who is around and will probably be futher from our room anyway. So it depends a lot on the exact circumstances.

TheRhubarb · 14/05/2012 17:24

I have received your PM and emailed. I have put my name to my face.

It is not illegal andypandy so I doubt the doctor, HV or social services would think anything of it.

I've had quite enough of this thread now and enough bad parent accusations to last me a lifetime. It's chicken pasta for tea and it won't make itself.

Proudnscary · 14/05/2012 17:24

Yawn

Sooo on the one side we have: Anyone who woudln't leave kids in a hotel room are precious/clearly unable to enjoy life post children/hysterical

Aaaannd on the other side: Anyone who would leave kids in a hotel room are 'as bad as the McCanns'/not fit to be parents/scumbags

And we wonder why Mumsnet is a laughing stock.

5madthings · 14/05/2012 17:25

errmm my hv suggested it to me when i told her of my dilema about my cousins wedding she just told me to request a room close to the reception where the wedding was and to use a baby moniter, she said she had done it when her 4 kids were little, only they didnt have good baby moniters like we do so they just nipped back every so often, now we have really good moniters that pick up every little sound, i had one for ds1 that checked his breathing and an alarm would go off if he didnt breathe for 20 seconds? maybe 30?

are you going to pm me as well, do you want my addy so you can report me to the appropriate authorities?!!

i took ds to the dr recently and left dd asleep at home with ds1 (12) in the house, along with ds2 (almost 10) i took ds4 with me as well. the drs is literally 2 mins walk from my house, we were there and seen pretty much straight away, the dr knowing me asked where the others were, and said it was odd to see me without the whole gang, i explained dd was asleep so i left her with ds1 and ds2, if she had been awake i would have taken her with me but as she was asleep i knew she woudl be fine, if she woke ds1 would have gotten her up and given her a cuddle and put on cbeebies etc for her until i got home, she would have been fine, as it is she stayed asleep.

really every time you get in your car for that non essential journey, esp the ones wehre you could have walked you are putting your child in far more danger tahn leaving them 2 mins away in a room with a baby moniter, as i said does no one have the tv on in the evening so you cant hear, do you not take a shower when your baby sleeps or go and hang out the washing or put out the bins, etc etc

5madthings · 14/05/2012 17:26

oh and those of us like myself and rhubarb saying we would do this havent said the others that wouldnt are over protective at all, we respect their choice and equally it would be nice if they could respect ours rather than make comments, like 'you shouldnt have had children' you dont deserve children.

SardineQueen · 14/05/2012 17:29

Blimey andy you are a bit strange full on.

I think it is very odd to report people to the authorities on the basis of a thread. I can't really see that therhubarb has said anything to warrant it. What are you going to say "Someone on the internet did something with their children that is entirely legal and a service provided by hotels but I think it is wrong and so I'm reporting her to you. Oh and I think it was a few years ago and everything was fine".

ROFL if it wasn't a bit scary.

AnyFucker · 14/05/2012 17:29

I am reporting this thread, it's getting out of hand

agree to disagree, fgs

Hopefullyrecovering · 14/05/2012 17:33

Agree with AF

SQ - I can't see any threats to report anyone. No need for any words to be put in anyone's mouth. Time to stop the unpleasantness.

TheRhubarb · 14/05/2012 17:33

I have tried AF, I really have.

SardineQueen I keep hoping this will be one of those arguments like you and I had once, that probably got out of hand but didn't stop us from agreeing with each other on other topics.

I have to say, this thread has left a nasty taste though

SardineQueen · 14/05/2012 17:36

That was the whole point of PMing therhubarb, was how I read it.

therhubarb my memory is shit Grin which is helpful on here. I think you helped me a lot on a thread way back when I had a different name though Smile

Kayano · 14/05/2012 17:37

Sardine I think you will find Rhybarb did call is hysterical headless chickens

Hth

SardineQueen · 14/05/2012 17:38

Oh no has it got to CnP stage?

therhubarb:

"Seriously, I did this and I would do it again, so those of you who think I'm disgusting and an unfit parent, please do PM me with your views. I'll be happy to provide you with full details so you can make your report. Put your money where your large mouths are. Go on, do something if you are that bothered. Report me."

That was the point, to get her details to report her.

SardineQueen · 14/05/2012 17:39

And the fact that someone PMd to get them is bizarre and taking things TOO FAR IMVHO

OliviaLMumsnet · 14/05/2012 17:39

Do I need to post a reminder of our talk guidelines? Just cos its in AIBU doesn't mean it needs to be a bunfight.
OP has long since seen her answer
thanks all Smile
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Hopefullyrecovering · 14/05/2012 17:40

No, SQ, she sent Rhubarb a PM at Rhubarb's insistence:

"so those of you who think I'm disgusting and an unfit parent, please do PM me with your views. I'll be happy to provide you with full details so you can make your report. Put your money where your large mouths are. Go on, do something if you are that bothered. Report me."

Rhubarb, you've exploded across this thread unnecessarily. Stoppit now and go cook dinner. I think your blood sugar must be low. My infants are always quarrelsome when they are hungry.