To find it hard to believe that there are a lot of women out there who aren't what you'd term "old" who have to wear Tenna Lady panty liners?

[Perriwinkle]

I've just seen an advert for Tenna Lady Panty Liners. The woman featured in the add is a very glam woman, who looks to be in her early 30s, who keeps saying "oops", which I assume is a little euphemism for involuntary incontenence.

Am I just being naive about the extent of this problem among women under the age of 80, or is it just because they don't want to feature an 80+ year old woman in their advert?

Billy, I'm doing my pelvic floors whilst reading this I'm really pleased I've read this because it's never discussed in RL x

18biscuit yes, coughing caused me big problems in pregnancy. .

I think it's important to point out that exercises (and even physio) won't necessarily fix it (although it won't hurt). Lots of women suffer with some degree of prolapse and doctors won't intervene surgically except in the most extreme cases. Ergo, lots of Tena ladies.

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A hugely overlooked problem is incontinence in adolescents, at least a twenty-five year old can say she's had a baby, how does a fifteen year old explain it?"

Do many adolescent girls have this problem though?

So what is the proper way to do pelvic floors? I have never been told!

3 large babies later I have never had any leaks (thankfully) but sometimes feel things could be tighter during sex

Proper? Squeeze, hold, release I've been told

Giraffe-

Make sure you are sitting or standing straight and draw your belly button in and down towards the base of your spine (as in pilates).
Draw your back passage up and in as tight as you can, then hold.Draw your vaginal muscles in and up.
Remember to breathe.
Hold for the count of eight.Relax.
Repeat 8 times.

Do it every day, before pregnancy and during, as well as after.
I had bad tears and forceps, and a pretty bad birth, but i resumed exercises the day after birth, even though I couldn't actually feel what I was doing yet.
I have not had any incontinence, and could hold my urine mid flow by day 3 post birth.
Of course in pregnancy 2, I might be more unlucky, but keeping your pelvic floor strong is vital.
Tell your teenage daughters to get into the habit of doing them regularly. My mum told me to always do them, and I am sure it helped.

I pee a little when I have a bad chest cough and I've not had kids! Most of my friends do too lol. I would just use a panty liner though.

My mum needed them every day after having twins.

I got away with it after DS, did all my exercises etc.; but now I'm pg again with #2, I have no hope when sneezing or coughing (something I've been doing a lot of for the last 5w) so have resorted to knickerliners. Mind you, I'm 44 so not that young!

I'm in my30s. . . Ok late 30s, but have had urge incontinence all my life

I have no children.

This is the first time I have admitted that I have continence problems.

I don't know why it's an issue.

I'm a ex HCP

I KNOW that it is beyond my control

I hate that I look at all knickers wondering if the gusset will hold a pad.

I have never gone commando

I once spent over £150 to get a cab home rather than admit that the plan of sleeping over and then chillin' and sleeping over again meant that I would have to explain that washing my undies out and going commando was not an option. Cause id run out of pads.

To me it is a long standing issue, I was a bed wetter till I was 8 , I never went to sleepovers they were always at mine. Thankfully as I had so many older sibs my house was seen as cool.

Tena and the availability of the pads has been a god send.

While I am now admitily obese, this issue, problem, what ever started when I was a child.

As horrible as it sounds it is some was comforting to think there are others in the same position out there

May be should have name changed for this ?

- seems appropriate enough, Smells like!

SLCP ......... you are not alone !!!

have you been to gp and tried medication ?
Have you had urodynamic studies done?
Have you looked at what you drink. eg cut down / out caffeine for example.

Ive had an overactive bladder since i was 21. Ive had no children. Sometimes in the night im up every 8 mins (yes ive timed it) i wear TENA cos if i didnt i would have to do what i did before. After wiping myself EVERY 8 mins i would have to wash my hands EVERY 8 mins. They ended up red raw chapped and bleeding through having to wash them so much. So now when im up and down in the night i wear Tena to "catch the drips" its either that or chapped and very sore hands.

oh and im only approaching 39 so not that old.

so we're fat and old?

you wanna call us ugly too?

Thumbwitch. . . . Snort laugh, pee run to loo, snort thank God, Allah, Budda, thati had a Tena on. .

I have never spoken of this in rl and to be honest it is reassuring to find out that i am not the only one. Too embarrassed to buy tena lady so just use liners. Sad really.

sorry .... forgot to put

did wear TL for stress (and urge) incontinence courtesy of DC x 3 (including one over 10lbs), recurrent coughs and manual handling in nursing etc. Pelvic floor exercises certainly help prevent (so please younger ladies DO them) but there gets a point where they just cannot hold everything up if we continue to add pressure to the pelvic floor.

Fixed now ...25 years to go till 80 ... with surgery and medication. (hope both hold out for a good many years)

.. and no "oops" is not the expression used when leaks take place and usually not out loud ( would not be a lady then would I

Are some of these problems to do with bladder infections?
I had an untreated UTI when I was about 12, and had a horrible time, going to school will my pants stuffed with toilet paper, couldn't go into assembly, and wet myself in the street at least 3 times.
For about 3 years after that, even when it was going I could stand in a phone box, because I would immediately pee a little, and going to any place where you had to stand a long time was out too, such was the fear of losing control of my bladder.
God only knows why I never got medical attention. I think my parents thought it was "all in my mind" and it was literally only very recently that I thought duh! UTI!

that should read "gone, I couldn't stand in a phone box"

Not enough caffeine yet!

Clenching

Coughing and being sick cause leakage here and I'm 30

Smells, I'm 26 and have also had urge incontinence my whole life.

I remember when I was little (about 8) apologising to my mom when she had to take home a bag of my wet clothes (again) because I couldn't get to the toilet in time.

I remember being at a friend's house for a sleepover and wetting myself laughing at a joke with my friend, her brother and her brother's friend in the room (I was 14).

Things got much worse after having 2 DS's, when I was digging our garden out recently I wet myself twice in one day as I didn't have enough time to change out of my muddy wellies and run through the house to the loo.

The last straw came recently after I dropped DS2 off at pre-school and stopped in a sandwich shop to get some breakfast. I wet myself in the middle of the shop, not just a little bit, I emptied my bladder and I could not stop myself. Thank god there were no other customers in at the time! I had to wrap my coat round my waist and walk home with wet trousers.

Humiliated doesn't even touch it!

After that I couldn't put it off any more and went to the doctor.

She diagnosed me with an overactive/hypersensitive bladder and gave me medication - I have had an accident since! Also being sent for a scan just to check but I'm wish I had gone sooner as I could have saved myself so much embarrassment and the solution was relatively simple (unlike the prod-and-poke) fest I thought it might be!

Sorry for the mega post I just find it really hard to talk about this in RL :)

Sorry, meant to say haven't had an accident since!