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AIBU to think that its ok for people not to want to attend an Ann Summers Party?

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cakeismysaviour · 05/05/2012 20:35

I have a friend on facebook, I am not particularly close to her but she is usually a really nice person.

Yesterday she posted an event on facebook, inviting all of her female friends to an Ann Summers party that she is hosting in a few weeks time. Everybody except her closest friends has said that they cannot attend (a couple of people are yet to reply).

Cue half a dozen or so status updates complaining about this, beginning with 'So annoyed about people not wanting to come to my party!' and working up to the most recent one - 'Well I know who my mates are now, don't I? Bunch of arsesoles.'

I actually have FiLs birthday dinner that night, although I wouldn't have been keen to go even if I were free that night. I'm not a prude, I just hate those parties where they try to make you buy stuff!

Most people have just simply said they can't come, some have given reasons such as prior commitments and a couple have said that they are broke and don't want to go when they can't afford to buy.

I suspect that many don't have the spare cash and/or don't like parties where they feel pressured to buy.

Is she being unreasonable to be angry at her friends for not wanting to go to her Ann Summers party?

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dondon33 · 06/05/2012 14:29

YANBU - your friend is.
I've been to a few when I was younger, was funny, had a laugh but you do feel mega pressurised to buy. I also don't particularly want my friends/ sisters (whoever I'm there with) to see my perversions purchases so I prefer to order from online sites - so much cheaper than AS anyway.

Empusa · 06/05/2012 14:29

I've been to two. One was good fun (close friends etc) the other was horrific. I only knew one other person there, the rest of the guests were doing copious amounts of coke, then they ended up taking the sample vibrators upstairs to try out on each other (the poor rep looked traumatised) - me and my friend made a very hasty exit!

insancerre · 06/05/2012 14:36

good god no, YANBU
I'm an introvert, don't you know Grin There is no way on this earth that I would ever go to one of those again.

cakeismysaviour · 06/05/2012 15:25

Seriously, this behaviour is really out of character for her. T'is why I am ignoring and letting it go this time. If she calls us all arsesoles again, she is being deleted. :)

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Thumbwitch · 06/05/2012 15:26

Any chance someone has hijacked her FB page then?

bettybigbumps · 06/05/2012 15:40

I am howling at freerangeeggs but cannot tell my son why I'm laughing so much!!! Who on earth would be showering and think 'I wish this was cum'??? Perhaps they will think of other new products based on this theory: have you ever been moisturising your face and thought 'I wish this was cum' - the possibilities are endless :o

Pandemoniaa · 06/05/2012 15:43

I hate Ann Summers parties and I'm no prude. I just find the whole, enforced, "fun with crappy sex toys" thing really excruciating.

Last summer someone I knew arranged an Ann Summers party through Facebook. Fortunately I had a genuine reason not to attend and sent apologies early. However it was quite clear that nobody else was keen on the idea either and a whole series of polite apologies soon filled her FB page. Did she take any sort of hint? No, apparently we were all "boring fuckers who didn't know how to have fun". Still, at least it helped cull her list of alleged "friends".

Most people I know thoroughly dislike parties which nothing more than sales opportunities. It is never unreasonable to avoid them.

cakeismysaviour · 06/05/2012 15:44

No its deffo her.

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lunamoon · 06/05/2012 16:35

The last thing like this I went to was a friend of a friend selling amongst other things jewellery and bags. Dear God, I nearly died when I saw the tat that was on offer.
try as i might to find something-anything that I could buy i just couldn't do it.
All the stuff was so awful.
Completely ott. Watches encrusted with cheap, tacky looking jewells. All the bags had attachments on them , fake flowers, heavily embossed, gold chains etc.
I left empty handed having wasted an hour or so of my life which I will never get back.

Sallyingforth · 06/05/2012 18:31

I always decline these "parties" now. Having been to a couple they were not particularly fun and I just felt under pressure to buy things that I (a) didn't want and (b) could buy much cheaper on line.

Anniegetyourgun · 06/05/2012 18:53

Maybe people who already know how to have fun don't need to pay Anne Summers a large amount of money for the same information.

I've been to the odd few sales parties to support friends but... sex equipment party? There are worse things in life than being thought a prude.

fuzzpig · 06/05/2012 19:03

Indeed... imagine looking at dildos with somebody you have to work with every day!

It was bad enough at our staff movie night last week - we were watching Bridesmaids and I was sitting next to the manager Blush

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