AIBU to think that its ok for people not to want to attend an Ann Summers Party?

[cakeismysaviour]

I have a friend on facebook, I am not particularly close to her but she is usually a really nice person.

Yesterday she posted an event on facebook, inviting all of her female friends to an Ann Summers party that she is hosting in a few weeks time. Everybody except her closest friends has said that they cannot attend (a couple of people are yet to reply).

Cue half a dozen or so status updates complaining about this, beginning with 'So annoyed about people not wanting to come to my party!' and working up to the most recent one - 'Well I know who my mates are now, don't I? Bunch of arsesoles.'

I actually have FiLs birthday dinner that night, although I wouldn't have been keen to go even if I were free that night. I'm not a prude, I just hate those parties where they try to make you buy stuff!

Most people have just simply said they can't come, some have given reasons such as prior commitments and a couple have said that they are broke and don't want to go when they can't afford to buy.

I suspect that many don't have the spare cash and/or don't like parties where they feel pressured to buy.

Is she being unreasonable to be angry at her friends for not wanting to go to her Ann Summers party?

Urgh I went to an Anne Summer party years ago and it was the height of tack even back then. We were all cajoled into wearing nametags such as 'Wanking Wendy' and Tit Roll Tanya' and forced to watch some middle aged female(think along the lines of Mad Lizzie from GMTV) parade around in tacky scratchy lacey crotchless knickers whilst brandishing the latest line of dildo - It was my own personal nightmare!!

I did however drink an awful lot of the very cheap wine and then fuck off down to the pub to meet my DH ....still wearing my bloody nametag - Pearl Necklace Paula!!!!

"Bunch of arsesoles"

Are arsesoles an Ann Summers product?

Either way, I can't think of anything worse than an Ann Summers party. Except perhaps genocide.

Candle parties Sounds about as exciting as tupperware parties in the olden days when I was young

Sounds like I won't miss much then!

Sorry PatFenis, I laughed alot at those nametags. How embarrassing!

just post that there is nothing Ann Summers sells that you and your DH don't allready own. [wunk]

YANBU.
I carn't abide AS parties, or even going into the store, where there is usually an assistant younger than my vibes, trying to 'advise' me.

I've never been to a well attended one either, its always a few miss matched random friends

the" best" one (still a bit shit) was one I got dragged to by a friend who had been roped into going by someone from work, everyone there was either heavily pregnant or had small babies and whenever the rep tried to suggest spicing things up with some grim smelling body oil etc everyone just looked at her like she had 2 heads and said they'd rather have a nap, then carried on talking babies

still had the major cringe factors of any AS party:

• random missmatched individuals from different parts of the hosts life
• people visibly calculating how many seconds they had to look at the tat that was being passed round to be polite before chucking it along to the next person
• the order sheets handed back with the cheapest item in the book on them cause everyone felt a bit sorry for the rep. I ordered dildo wipes. I don't use a dildo.

AnnieArsehole Sh! maybe ?

DH reckons any type of party where you go and feel obliged to buy things is a type of pyramid selling. And I agree for once

On top of that Ann Summers is just grim. Everyone goes to LoveHoney now surely?

cakeismysaviour the worst bit was when we were presented with the catalogues and order forms - everyone was rubbernecking each others orders and it went something like this :-

Janice - 'Oh Valerie I see you are ordering the 14 inch Adonis dildo!'

Valerie - ' Ooooh nooo I seem to have made a mistake on my order form, I will be ordering the 4 inch 'William' model ...I'm very small down below don't you know!

Janice - ' yes I know what you mean dear .... I will also order the 'william' and I might just get a crocodile snapping pouch G string for DH - he does like fun in the bedroom'

I couldn't get my coat on fast enough!!

Thanks fredfred.I must say the 'wirly girly' 7 incher is looking promising...

Pat My problem with AS is not so much the subject matter, though the games are a bit - meh, but the underwear and stuff being a bit crap. I ordered, years ago, what looked like a reasonable crop top and pants (not cheap) and when it came it was really poor quality. Felt like I'd been ripped off. Which of course I had.

YANBU. I was all for saying, "you are unreasonable, Anne Summers parties are funny, and it's a night out!" BUT if she's grumping and bitching via status updates on Facebook at the people who have said they can't go, then she's being ridiculous and acting like a petulant 3 year old.
HATE those kind of status things on Facebook. If you're upset at certain friends, then why not SAY it to their face?! Not via 500 randomers in your friends list and getting everybody in on your business.
The people she invited have replied, if they can't go then that's up to her, she shouldn't be sulking about it via Facebook.
(Even if she is disappointed nobody is turning up. She should learn to suck it up and seethe inwardly, or tell them she's disappointed instead of passive aggressive shit on social networking sites. )

I definitely wouldn't go after that status update, and I would tell her why too. Does she really think that's going to make people change their minds?!

I went to an Ann Summers night once and it was quite shit. I'm pretty liberal but I found it uncomfortable and forced.

Also it's all a bit nineties, is it not? Ann Summers is just another shitty high street shop I don't go to nowadays. Someone bought me cream-filled chocolate cocks from there once which I couldn't eat because, well, eww. How erotic.

One other thing (somewhat irrelevant). The rep told us she was at an AS conference where the leader (CEO? MD? I don't know) introduced a new product - a kind of tingly shower gel stuff. She introduced it by saying "Have you ever been in the shower, rubbing soap on yourself, and thought, 'I wish this was cum?'"

Umm, no. And I would be put off buying any product that aimed to imitate spunk, especially for cleaning purposes

no yanbu. I hate those party things when you feel obliged to buy something regardless of what it is. I also detest with a passion, Ann Summers, tacky city.

YANBU at all. It's like a betterware party with extra enforced 'fun'.

I hope she's not on Mumsnet OP! She'll recognise herself right away!

YANBU, I don't like any kinds of selling parties. Even when there's 'no pressure to buy' there still is pressure to buy!

Reminds me that Facebook can be heaven for those of us of a passive-aggressive persuasion...

Arf at 'i know who my mates are now...bunch of arse holes' mate being 'really nice'

She sounds just lovely

I have been to three now and all of them were shite.

At one, the hostess had invited her 80+ year old GM. I was sitting next to her. It was awkward.

oh dear Grandma at A S candle parties are a bit shit too , tbh i think these sorts of parties are just an excuse for women to get together eat cheesy nibbles and drink , i know my mum did tupperware and a clothes party (cant remember the name ) was just screeching women laughing and nattering and buying tubs . why not just have friends over and cut out the selling shit stuff

Ann Summers is totoal crap.
The clothes are very cheap and tacky but expensive!
I ended up buying a huge dildo as I was pissed and felt sick after consuming cheap wine.
It cost a fortune and I have never used it.
Your friend is bu posting comments like that, hence why I don't do face book.

I don't get why anyone would want to sit around with 'friends' sucking a chocolate cream filled cock, wearing a badge that says 'Horny Harriet' and flicking through a dildo catalogue.
WHY?!! :o
YANBU OP!!