pop across the road whilst baby is sleeping?

[mrsbuckett]

I HAVE NOT DONE THIS.However.DS School is literally across the road. Often, at pick up time baby is fast asleep.Snoring away.I feel bad to wake her up.

Would you dash across the road?

NovackNGood Your reply to my2centsis was pretty rude! Not least because your inferred she must be on drugs.

I have read her posts on here previously, although I didn't remember her name I knew that there was a poster who had documented her experiences here. She was reflecting on that in her answer. As in, she has already lived through 4 once-in-a-lifetime events, so shit does happen. She isn't saying that an earthquake will happen in the UK, just that things can.

And your focusing on example of the cot, rather than acknowledging the death of her dn was shameful.

I think you owe her an apology!

Condolences on your dn, my2centsis

treadwarily - yes horrible things happen, but you would similarly think "what if" an "if I only didn't take the baby this time" if you were actually hit by a car when crossing the road - which is also more likely to happen than a house fire. So I don't see why one, likely the safer option, is considered horrible and unthinkable here and the riskier option the one that everybody should take.

Statistics do mean a lot though. You need to think of ACTUAL risk, not all of the things that could remotely happen to you, but probably won't.

Yes it is possible that your house will go up in flames in the very 3 mins you left your baby alone. But its far far far far more likely that you will get hit by a car bringing them with you every day. That doesn't mean that you should do the former and not the latter, but you should be able to properly asess risk.

Thank you so much differentnameforthis

You are lovely

Hmm nope, HazleNutt, I have never thought I would get hit by a car and it would be better if baby was at home.

I have considered the plight of a friend who does leave her baby unattended while she drives across town to collect the older child. If she happened to get into an accident, who would know to check on the baby? How many hours would it be before the baby was retrieved and rehydrated?

Statistics mean statistics, that's all. Think of the nuchal fold test. You may receive a 1 in 12 odd of having a Downs baby. Your friend may have a 1 in 1800 odd. Your friend has the Downs baby and you don't. Statistically accurate (happened to two women I know) but of absolutely no help in forming decisions.

Or the odds of your cancer return. Bugger all use to have an excellent prognosis then go ahead and die of it.

I pop across the road to see my neighbour, a health visitor, from time to time for advice. I wouldn't go if the baby monitor was out of range though.

My road is also a tiny no through road - no chance of getting run over or lost.

Or this could happen ....

this

Depends on road and situation. If it was literally opposite the house ir was a road like the one through pur village, and same situation as ds school - parents wait outside, staff see responsible adult for child and let them go, then yes. I pop to the neighbours leaving dcs inside, sounds similar (i don't go in).

jaffacakeeater What's the name of the iphone app, it sounds very good.

treadwarily, do you really think statistics are no help in making decisions?

2 holiday destinations. One in which you have a 1 in 2 chance of being taken hostage by terrorists. One in which the chance is 1 in 100,000.

But you'd still look at them as equal?

People seem to get confused and think thhat when unlikely things happen, it means the probability was wrong in the first place, or that they're in some way meaningless. Stats have to be taken in context - the difference between two very small probabilities of some awful things happening may mean very little to an individual or family, but make a difference looking at the population as a whole. Things that have a very small chance of hppebing do happen to someone, somewhere, doesn't mean their chances are wrong. Reducing risk doesn't remove risk

Defintely not.

Was that to me or op?

clearly some people have no handle on statistics at all.

Yes of course I would, I used to run to the post box, chat to a neighbour, hang out the washing, sunbathe, do the gardening etc etc when my DS was napping.

Do all of you stay awake all night to be alert to your child's needs? I'm not sure what the difference is if you are in a deep heavy sleep at night.

No.

I'd get baby to nap in buggy and take with me.

Just feels wrong to me.

Fwiw, I a NEVER in a deep/heavy sleep anyway

If it's literally across the road, then yes, occasionally, if the baby is in a cot that they cannot yet climb out of. But asking another mum to bring your ds home while you stand at the gate will probably save your sanity.