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pop across the road whilst baby is sleeping?

169 replies

mrsbuckett · 01/05/2012 19:31

I HAVE NOT DONE THIS.However.DS School is literally across the road. Often, at pick up time baby is fast asleep.Snoring away.I feel bad to wake her up.

Would you dash across the road?

OP posts:
my2centsis · 02/05/2012 04:24

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!

What if a big earthquake happened and you were across the road and upper defenseless dc is alone in a house that falling down? You may think I'm being dramatic but this happened to my SIL.

Your probably thinking why are the chances of that happening?
Well iv been through 4 earthquakes over a 6.0 and apparently they are all once in a life time events!

Please don't do it. You would never forgive yourself if something happened

NovackNGood · 02/05/2012 04:31

Chance of earthquake of any magnitude in UK...hmmm nil....chance you've ben on too much wacky baccy at this time of night.....HUGE

Lay of the crack it's doing you no good.

NovackNGood · 02/05/2012 04:36

Oh and you outside house means good chance of survival. Baby in cot means it is protected somewhat in case of roof structure giving way and not in your arms with debris falling around. You being alive and outside and able to alert others nearby that a baby is trapped with less fluid reserves than other adult trapped people is good information for the first place to start rescue and you will be able to say exactly what room of house the trapped child is in.

I do love how some people make everything into such a drama....

my2centsis · 02/05/2012 04:56

Um actually novac u idiot I live in chch nz where we have had several big earthquakes over the last 18 months, alot of people have died including my nephew who was having tummy time on the floor when a tv fel and crushed his skull!! How dare you say I am dramatizing the situation!!!!

As far as the the coy protecting the baby?? A friend of mines roof fell in and glass from the lightbulb and plaster covered her son and he had to be taken to hospital in her car as there were no fricken ambulances available!!

After what people like me have been through I find you a rude and disgusting hymen being to say I need to lay off the crack!! I wish I found going to my nephews funeral and seeing dead/ crushed people laying on the street as obviously ridiculous as you do!

Vile

my2centsis · 02/05/2012 05:01

Oh and btw in cases like an earthquake due to hundreds of people being stuck in building etc you are basically on your own to Try and save whoever you can! So the chances of you being able to pull enough debris aside on your own to find someone is pretty low And I know from experience do you?!

I'm so angry at your post!

Smurfy1 · 02/05/2012 05:15

Just read this thread and thinking its just aswell the OP was posting a hypothetical question

My2cents I am sorry for your loss and what you have been through and still going through I have friends in christchurch in my car forum x

NovackNGood · 02/05/2012 05:44

So the cot did protect the child. The chance of an earthquake in the UK is minute.

MushroomSoup · 02/05/2012 05:47

Would just like to add that as a Primary Headteacher I wouldn't call Social Services about this (and believe me, I am MORE than happy to call them at a drop of a hat). Not unless the OP was out of the house for AGES.
It's one of those parental decisions that I discuss with mums every day:
How old should your eldest child be before you leave them in charge?
How old should a child be before you give them a house key and key them come home when you're at work?
How old should a child be to walk home from school by himself?
There's no definite answer. All depends on the risk factor versus common sense.

HazleNutt · 02/05/2012 06:35

"like what happend if you get hit by a car when crossing the road???"

surely it's better if the baby is safely home then and not in this accident as well.

maddening · 02/05/2012 06:56

for the nap around hometime put baby to sleep in the carseat - most prams either fit or have adapters to fit the carseat to the chassis so you can plonk sleeping baby on to the pram and take with

breathedeeply · 02/05/2012 07:18

So pleased to see a primary school head teacher on here talking sense about SS and child protection. Sort of lost track on the earthquakes and plagues of locusts stuff!

5madthings · 02/05/2012 07:19

except maddening some babies dont stay asleep when you do that! my eldest three never did!

and an earthquake, yes they are horrible and my2centis i am very sorry for your experience and the loss of your nephew :( but the op is in the UK and the chances of an earthquake of any serious magnitude are miniscule! so yes in this case to say there could be an earth quake is over dramatising somewhat.

i go out into my back and front gardens when baby is asleep, hang out the washing, have a shower, and depending on the size of your garden you could be just as far away.

if someone tries to stop you for a chat you say 'sorry i am in a rush, speak another time' and keep walking!!

you could (presuming you can see the school from the house) time it so you go out literally when they open the doors and start letting the kids out, go grab your child and then dash back.

there is a school near me with houses opposite, you could very easily do this and be back home within 3 mins.

skybluepearl · 02/05/2012 07:27

ask a friend at the school to pop mhim back when they pass?

PatronSaintOfDucks · 02/05/2012 10:16

OP, I don't see anything wrong with it. Just use common sense. Is your baby in a cot where she is safe, cannot get out of, cannot reach dangerous objects, and does not have any dangerous objects in the cot? Is the house itself safe - e.g. no crazy neibours, dangerous dogs, loose tiles over the cot? Is the baby older than 6 months and therefore will not be emotionally scarred if left alone for 5 minutes (did she have an experience of being alone for 5 min before?)? I yes to all this, I can't see how being out for 5-10 minutes is a big deal.

northerngirl41 · 02/05/2012 10:17

Actually I wouldn't do this - but not because I think anything would happen, but because I live in a nosey parker area and I'd no doubt be reported for it.

The baby is probably safer at home in his cot than being pushed across traffic etc. Likewise if I got run over when I was out, chances are that the baby would also get run over. I definitely spend longer in the bath/working in my office/cooking etc than I spend picking up from school.

MarySA · 02/05/2012 10:21

No. I wouldn't do it. It only takes a few minutes for a disaster to happen.

Jaffacakeeater · 02/05/2012 10:25

Not sure about this one. I regularly leave dcs asleep in the car in the drive. Is this the same? I use a brilliant iPhone app that calls another phone when there's noise. Would SS brand me unfit???

TheSurgeonsMate · 02/05/2012 10:41

Not everyone lives in a bloody house ffs. So give it a rest with the smugging around with your bloody prams that you just push out the front door will you. Envy.

The one that's really getting my goat is taking the bin down the stairs to the on-street bin which is located about five six doors down our street. It would make life easier to do this sometimes when dd is in bed. I don't, mainly from a concern that I would fuck it up re keys. I find I'm most likely to lock myself out when I'm doing something new, unusual or out of routine.

5madthings · 02/05/2012 10:43

talking of locking yourself out, yesterday whilst dd was asleep and ds4 was watching tv i went out the front for a fag Shock and shut the door behind me, not realising the keys werent in it! so i was locked out, i called ds4 through the letter box and he got me the keys and posted them through to me (he is 4) good job they were somewhere he could reach them! Grin

melika · 02/05/2012 10:52

no.

Morloth · 02/05/2012 11:01

I do it almost every day, walk to the corner and collect DS1 while DS2 naps.

I am an intelligent, responsible mother, I have weighed up the risks and decided they are small enough that the reward is worth it.

HopeForTheBest · 02/05/2012 11:09

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LittleMissMcFartyPants · 02/05/2012 11:11

Nope

5madthings · 02/05/2012 11:11

morloth you bad mother you Grin

like you say its about weighing up the risks and i think some people havea rather scewed risk perception if they think leaving a sleeping baby in a cot for a few minutes whilst they nip across the road is that dangerous.

Morloth · 02/05/2012 11:15

A mum was killed in my area today, while carrying her 11 month old daughter, she was hit by the school bus.