pop across the road whilst baby is sleeping?

[mrsbuckett]

I HAVE NOT DONE THIS.However.DS School is literally across the road. Often, at pick up time baby is fast asleep.Snoring away.I feel bad to wake her up.

Would you dash across the road?

oh god morloth that is awful :( was the little girl ok?

It's up to you. If you feel fine about it, then no one is stopping you.

Probably she would be fine, but it is you who has to live with it if something did go wrong. And there is no need to take a risk because you could just pop her into the pram and take him over.

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Oh goodness morloth that is dreadful. What a hideous accident.

And about the nipping out of the bathroom to answer phone, please please never do. I promise you this, it is never worth it.

'I am an intelligent, responsible mother, I have weighed up the risks and decided they are small enough that the reward is worth it.'

Exactly.

Baby in hospital but should be OK.

I actually feel a bit bad about bringing it up, didn't mean to use it in am argument winning sort of way. I was reading this thread and the online newspaper at the same time.

Used to do the same school run she was on until we moved last year.

if you get hit by a car crossing the road surely its better the baby wasnt with you.

and how on earth have earthquakes popped into this thread? bizzare

Thanks for all your replies.I went to bed quite early and missed all the chat!
DD Will not sleep in pram.D is 5 and school will not allow him to leave alone.

I do try make sure she is not napping when I pick him up, but sometimes she just is. Honestly, my inclination, is that if she were asleep, I would just nip over and get him. However,having read the posts, I think that the potential reaction of other mums ie reporting me or just thinking I am a wierdo is just a risk I do not want to take!!!

Good I am glad you have seen the light mrsbuckett

I think that's a shame. Someone not making a perfectly sensible decision based on a realistic risk assessment just because of a fear of being judged is the epitome of 'health and safety gone mad'.

No chance.

Is there not another parent you could get to escort your son back from school to your house? It's not like you would be putting them far out of their way.

I would do it based on the distance and risks (short and very low) but wouldn't based on the tongues wagging in the school yard. I'd get chummy with another parent and ask them if on days DD is sleeping if they would mind picking up your son. Clear it with school and call them on the day to say someone else is picking him up.

Reading back through the thread, I'm actually quite shocked by the mum who left her baby alone in a car seat in the house while she collected the shopping, and he toppled over in it. She says that she couldn't leave him strapped safely in car while she took the shopping in first because there was a bigger risk that he 'might have been snatched'. WTF?? How would you work that one out? This is the problem. No one is making a balanced risk assessment. Ridiculous fears (paedophiles lurking everywhere, earthquakes etc) and paranoia (SS taking their children away or prosecuting them) win through each time. Tragic. Truly tragic.

"it is you who has to live with it if something did go wrong"

Exactly. And even though I don't have the relevant statistics, I would guess that the risk of the baby being hit by a car when crossing the road with mum is far greater than the risk that the house will burst into flames during those 3 minutes that the mum is away.

That's because in the world outside of MN people make sensible risk assessments all the time Hopeforthebest.

MN is full of the over protective and the over excitable, if indulged too much it can give you a skewed view.

People here would think I was crazy to wake a sleeping baby for a 5 min school run.

HazleNutt -I would guess that the risk of the baby being hit by a car when crossing the road with mum is far greater than the risk that the house will burst into flames during those 3 minutes that the mum is away

Statistics don't mean much though do they. There may be a teensy risk but when it happens to you it's real and terrible.

My experience is that my brother's house did exactly burst into flames when my sil popped down the road to fetch her 3yo. Her 3month old baby was sleeping and she almost left her, but decided to take her after all. The fire had started when a mouse chewed through a cable in the roof. This is apparently not an uncommon cause of fire (bizarre though it seemed to me).

They lost everything and it was of course dreadful but the baby is now a beautiful teenager. It's these sorts of things that stay with you.

Everybody who does it thinks that it will never happen to them, they are always the people it does happen to because they are not around to protect their child when the worst does happen.

And if it does you will be to blame.

If you can live with that, go ahead.

We had a fire like that treadwearily when I was a teenager.

Awful Imaginate

Actually, I shouldn't have compared it to your family, treadwarily. I am sorry I did, because your story is so much more awful I should have said we had a fire START like that. Actually we were home and so we caught it in fairly good time. It was a lesson in how quickly things can happen.

I have seen a house fire (someone else's) when it was in full blaze. I was walking home from school past it. It is the most terrifying thing.