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To be in shock four hour later

490 replies

Rhinosaurus · 01/05/2012 11:17

This morning, my son - the 15 year old

........ who cannot get out of bed.
........who misses two school buses a week because he gets out of bed at 0750 (bus leaves at 0800).
........who sits on the sofa and stuffs food wrappers down the side rather than walk across the room to the bin.
.........who goes to put something in the dishwasher, but when he sees it is full of clean stuff having just finished its cycle, stacks plates and cups up on the worktop waiting for someone else to empty it.
.........who puts clean clothes in the laundry basket rather than fold them up and put them away.

was downstairs in the kitchen today, dressed in school uniform, at 0730, emptying the dishwasher with a cup of tea made for me on the table.....
ConfusedShockConfusedShockConfusedShockConfusedShock

Is he on drugs?

Is there a major unreasonable request coming up, requiring girding of the loins......

Help!

OP posts:
WorkingItOutAsIGo · 04/05/2012 09:10

Oh what an ending...completely unexpected, and I am another with tears in my eyes. Hope things get better for Dave, and well done Kevin. I think he deserves that festival ticket now!

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 04/05/2012 09:33

Rhino - you have son to be proud of, he sounds lovely.

gettingalifenow · 04/05/2012 09:57

I too am sitting here with tea and tears - your boy is a great friend, Rhino, and it sounds like his group of friends are all boys to be proud of. Over e last 3 days of the unfolding story, I"m sure none of us guess it would go this way - truth is stranger than fiction, as they say.

Thoughts are with Dave and his family....

dondon33 · 04/05/2012 09:58

This made me laugh, I have 3 of the male variety :)
IME it usually means:
A- He's done something very wrong and is buttering mummy up to soften the blow
B-He wants something.
C- He's sick of the nagging (you're thinking yey my jaw can finally rest...he gets it?) Don't hold your breath...he will live on this (possibly over the next 12 months lol) next time you pull him for something.
Teenage boys=men in training.....says it all really doesn't it :)

dondon33 · 04/05/2012 10:05

Oops sorry didn't realise there were so many posts and replied before I read them all < Really must check in future>
What a sad story for poor Dave. What a lovely son you have to help his friend, bless him xxx

fenellamae · 04/05/2012 10:07

Please do keep us informed :o

WhiteTrash · 04/05/2012 10:14

Oh my this has had me really welling up. Poor Dave, and what a lovely, lovely Kevin you have raised. Sounds as though you've got a family of great Kevins Kudos to you.

I hope Daves Ok.

Mrsjay · 04/05/2012 10:25

has he been asked to go somewhere this weekend and not asked for a lift yet ? or maybe a cocert I am sure your son is a lovely boy but unless he has had a personality transplant over night he WANTS SOMETHING Grin

Mrsjay · 04/05/2012 10:28

oh good god this thread is 19 pages long a record for the teen section I thought it was 19 replies Blush somebody tell me the outcome what did he want/do

GinPalace · 04/05/2012 10:30

proper out-loud laughs and tears and smiles too...this thread has it all!!

Rhino I bet you were almost glad to him back to his normal self this morning!

Definitely kudos for your sleuth skills though. Grin

PoohBearsHole · 04/05/2012 10:49

mrsjay highlight op's posts and you will see - tis truly amazing! And massively unexpected by a bunch of mothers who have boys (albeit not yet all of them teens!)

ExitPursuedByABear · 04/05/2012 10:51

Wow - not what was expected but what a lovely story. Your DS sounds delightful and what an experience for them all to go through. A great life lesson and a challenge to which they rose fantastically.

Hope Dave is OK.

Mrsjay · 04/05/2012 11:04

oh dear what a lovely lad you have poor dave this has made me cry I remember your post from a while back about knowing about dave i think i replied to it , You must be so proud of your son and how kind he is teens get such a bad rap for being self centred and selfish look how we all replied , but this is kindness shown to dave from your lovely kevin shows that teenagers are not all bad ,

WilsonFrickett · 04/05/2012 11:07

Oh what a sad yet lovely story. I bloody luff your Kevins. I hope Dave is OK, it does sound like a positive move for him. We just have no idea what some poor kids go through. If you were looking to do something practical you could treat him to the odd phone top up? (Sorry, of course I know nothing about your own financial situation, just that it would be a good gesture to show you absolutely definitely do want Dave to stay in all of your lives).

JaxTellerIsMyFriend · 04/05/2012 11:14

OP, sorry, misread about Daves older brother voluntarily going into care. I hope both of the boys get a decent life now that they are away from the violence.

I would love to be a foster carer - and would happily take on teens, but DH doesnt want to. He thinks we would get too attached, it would/could affect our DC and we dont have room. All valid reasons but I have a need to help those poor kiddies. Sad

DumSpiroSpero · 04/05/2012 11:16

Jax - perhaps volunteering for Homestart might be worth considering?

OP - your lad sounds like an absolute star - you must be ridiculously proud of him!

Mrsjay · 04/05/2012 11:16

jax maybe wait until your own children are up a bit and consider fostering again maybe your husband will feel differently , I Did befriending with teens a few years ago through Barnados its hard work sometimes especially as some teens have harrible chaotic lives , but it was worthwhile to see them being kids again for an hour ,

Rhinosaurus · 04/05/2012 11:36

I am just as bad, my money was on the new girl in the village, specially as she is slim with long blond hair and quite big boobies

Perhaps I should ask MN to move this to the teen forum?

OP posts:
ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 04/05/2012 11:38

Jax depending where you live there are probably local charities and organisations which support young people who would be only too glad of your help.

Charities like these
london
south wales
kids company angel

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 04/05/2012 11:39

Rhino

Why don't you start a new thread
AIBU to be incredibly proud of my teenage son

CinnyCall · 04/05/2012 11:42

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

JaxTellerIsMyFriend · 04/05/2012 12:29

chaz I am in S Bucks.

CaptainHetty · 04/05/2012 12:37

Jax I'm in Bucks and I've done a bit of volunteering for homestart and a few other charities who work with children and teens. Last year I did a bit with a charity who organise days out and activities for children who care for a parent and get very little time to themselves, which was really rewarding. Perhaps until yours are a bit older and your OH perhaps a bit more agreeable you could look at something like that?

Do-it is really good for finding things local to you and you can narrow it down by what sort of thing you're looking for, as well :)

SpringHeeledJack · 04/05/2012 13:02

oh god

hadn't seen this since the first day, and popped on for a chuckle

now have tears hopping down face like a twat

what a love

MySweetPrince · 04/05/2012 13:10

Couldn't type for a bit as my screen has gone all blurry and I appear to have something in my eye....poor Dave but what a wonderful son you have Rhino..be proud.....Smile