to have a peek in a visiting childs bookbag?

[canthelplooking]

Just out of curiosity really. Interesting to know how other children are getting on compared to DD.

Are you generally a 'competitive mummy'?

Have you nothing better to do?

I have done it , not a rifle through but checking what reading book they were on when DD was in reception. It was just the once and I have kicked the habit. Didn't feel good about myself, wouldn't recommend it and is of no help to you or your child.

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah done it I think we just brave enough to admit it definitely happens all the time no you are not strange rude pathetic you are normal 'fraid to say....mums can do strange things.

There would be no point here, they don't bring home 'levelled' stuff.

which is why I would prepare a quiz

That's what I did too Lovelynewboots. Gained little from my curiosity and felt bad afterwards. Feel worse now for the flaming on here too.

You're not the only one.

Actually, tonight, picked up DD from friend's house. Mum told me she'd looked in DD's bag, and told me she thought her DD must be a bit thick, as her reading book was lower, and maths homework was easier than my DD's

this was my face!

Also then informed me she'd cleaned DD's shoes as they were in a state. Still face!

"mums can do strange things" is not an excuse for inappropriate behaviour

I did it once because DD's friend had to stay in an emergency (mum in hospital) and they both had reading. DD's friend asked to do her's as she said she was about to go up a level I said I'd hear 10 pages from DD and 10 pages from her friend. I didn't look in the reading diary though I just clipped a piece of paper to the front of her friends book to say what I'd done.

Otherwise I haven't / wouldn't do it

wheresmymilk DD' shoes are in a rotton state any chance of your DD's friend's mum having her for a few hours

OP, if you're that concerned about literacy then maybe you should learn how to use possessive apostrophes correctly.

Oh my god I just snorted at cleaning the shoes!

Do other mum's really look in bookbags? Sometimes I feel I've entered the Twilight Zone on MN. Good luck to any that look at my twins. In year 2 but at reception stage.

YABU. I think some people are being a bit harsh. You haven't stiched up someone up for murder. It is not the done thing and will onlu result in you feeliong insecure if the other child is ahead of yours of guilty for looking. It never occurs to me to do that but I will admit to quizzing DD on who is on her table for Maths and English so I can gauge which level she is at .Pathetic I know but some children are generally considered to be the 'bright' ones so I like to know if she is on the same table as them as they group them on tables according to abilities. Each time I have done it I have thought what a twonk I am. I will also admit to being a bit boastful about DD at times - I am proud of her and how she is getting on. I thought we have all been guilty of it at some point. I like to think I am more careful what I say these days and try to just look at what DD is doing rather than everyone else.It's the best way. It's too easy to get caught up in it though. One of the mums from school phones me within half an hour of my appointment at parents evening trying to find out what was said. I always enjoy being vague and nonchalant as I can almost hear her about to explode . Its a bit sad but its just insecurity stemming from the fact we want our children to do well. I am sure little of this went on when I was at school,it all seems so competitive these days but perhaps I am fooling myself.

Sometimes you have to......no really because they have different spellings and home work and stuff ........and yes you do get a shock DS's play date is on impossible spellings I can't do.

Canthelplooking

It never occurred to me to do this but I am a bit upset for you by the level of vitriol being directed towards you.

Bit sanctimonious, some people.

If everyone volunteered to help with reading in school there would be no need . Once knew the level of every child in the class and the ht was begging to start special sessions for the ones who needed extra help !

Quite true Trollop-I too have caught myself on several occasions boasting telling someone about DD-& now DS too

You do just want the best for your DC though, and do want them to be succeeding, so comparisons are natural I suppose. Just must keep gob shut in future.

But will send round all our shoes for cleaning next time :o

-Could-you-resist-reading-another-childs-homework-reading-diary? thread. Earlier this week, my DS and his classmate had their reading records mixed up. It details my DS's progress towards the literacy and numeracy goals. I feel very uncomfortable in another parent reading this. He is doing really well at the moment. Some people did say they would be tempted and I understand why. I didn't though.

WhereMyMilk cheeky cah.

Ah,have had a look at past threads regarding this. Inflammatory subject to say the least.
But now I know it's not as uncommon to do as it's made out to be on here.

If anybody ever asks me for a piece of advice when their children start school, I always say "Other prents lie. All the time. About everything"

I rest my case.

Blimey - reception? It's never even crossed my mind!

I'm clearly not much of a competitive parent

ha. i was just being all smuggery as it had never occurred to me, until i read marriedinwhite's post and remembered that i was a reading buddy and knew which book they were all on anyway. and whether they could read it or if it was hopelessly aspirational.

Of course its dreadful thing to do blimey no one thinks its a good thing to do and everyone feels stupid and silly afterwards ......but some of us do do it and yes everyone who professes smug innocence of such thoughts well they don't live in london.

Nothing wrong with making a guilty admission we all do stuff we are not proud of don't we?

Yabu, it would never cross my mind to snoop through another Childs personal belongings, and if they weren't doing as well academically in comparison to your child would you then act all smug? Get a grip.

YANBU in the slightest. I often look in my friend's purses to check if they have more money than me, and in their husband's trousers to check if they have a bigger 'package' than my OH.

insert eyeroll emoticon