DH waking me up from a lie-in (glum, bottom lip poking, out referee needed)

[whatsallthefuss]

Dh wakes at 4.30 every weekday and goes to work. He never wakes me.
I wake up at 7 and get DD ready for school etc

On a weekend we like a lie-in, but he always wakes me at 9.
Now this pisses me off becuase technically he has a 4.5 hour lie in and i have a 2 hour lie in.

Also he KNOWs it will upset me becuase i've been asking him for 20 years not to.

Why does he think that his opionion (its time to wake up) is more important than my opionion (its time to sleep)

AIBU or is he?

Technically, relative to your DH, you have a 2.5 hour lie-in every weekday.

ah yes, but he goes to bed earlier than me. he goes at 9 i go at 11 so technically there is no sleep advantage in the week.

Do you choose to go to bed at 11pm? Are you relaxing up to that point?y DH goes to bed much later than me, but as he's playing computer games and having leisure time, we don't add up the sleep hours as its his choice to stay up.

Wake him up at 6.30 when it's his lie in :o

Why do you need to get up at 9am (in his opinion)?

yabu
9 oclock is half way through the day

YANBU he is!!

Leave the bastard.

How have you not throttled him??

belindarose I would have thought that that was the correct way to do it, each person is responsible for their own bedtime and their own amount of sleep.

thats why i'm complaining about my DH because he wakes me up because its 9. we didnt have to be anywhere till 12.

so shouldnt he leave me alone to sleep?

PS i dont mind if DD wakes me, she is a child and her needs come before mine, but he is just being an arse!

aw he probably wants to spend the day with you

who on earth can sleep past 9am anyway unless they're students or teenagers?!!

Oh, he's just waking you because you 'should' be up? Bastard. Unless he's having to look after a small child I suppose.

I dunno why GUMBY i've had a face like a smacked arse all day!

How does he wake you??? And what reason does he give each time?

tell him to fuck off

at the weekend, take turns to lie in to whatever the fuck time you like

Oh I couldn't bear that.

It would be curtains for that relationship for me, and that's my final answer.

does it matter why he wakes me?

He knows that I'd prefer to be asleep and that i'll be grumpy if he wakes me.

also if hes feeling a bit ahem amerous... what on earth makes him think that by waking me up... i'll be feeling frisky too?

what is it with all these men who wake up perfectly-happily sleeping women for sex

it's the ultimate in attention-seeking behaviour isn't it ?

if a child exhibited similar behaviour, they would get put on the naughty step

these men need putting back in their place

which is not quite where they think it is....every time we brush off such selfish behaviour, we reinforce to them it's ok to act like this

it is not

Buy a lock, fix it to the inside of your bedroom door and use it as soon as he gets up at the weekend. Problem sorted.

Asssuming you are having relaxing time until 11 at night (if it is housework time then this is different)... Looking at it from the other side your husband gets up at a weekend, and has to entertain your daughter, sort food for her etc. And maybe he would like to spend some time with you?

As the SAHP (currently) I still go to bed when DH does so that we are up at about the same time (sort of. The tea he makes me before he leaves for work is still a drinkable temperature when I drink it). Otherwise you get a time offset in your relationship: by sleeping/waking with a 2 hour time difference thats that much less time to spend together.

I dont brush it off though.... i've spent all day saying that its not ok, i actually say the words. DOnt wake me up i prefer to sleep.

now hes rolling his eyes when i say it, and i say 'you stop waking me up and i'll stop moaning'

I wondered what reason he gave as you said you've asked him many times not to wake you - so does he arrogantly ignore that? Or 'accidentally on purpose'make noise to wake you or nervously wake you hoping this time you'll be different?

tbh I think he sounds great for getting up at 4.30am everyday and never waking you

no way my dh would manage that one

and he must be knackered

crap life going to bed at 9pm every night too

MrsHoarder i kind of see your point, but why on earth would i get up at 4 just because he does? he leaves at 5 then i would be rattling round the house until dd gets up at 7,

I dont wake him up at all. on a saturday i get up with DD, so on sunday its his 'turn'

Agree with AnyFucker and I can tell you the kind of sex he'd get from me if he woke me up for it, the Bobbitt kind.

It's not about the length of the lie in, it's about being able to get up when you choose to get up.

DH gets up before me almost every day to go to work but on weekends we take it in turns to lie in. Being woken up by someone else 7 days a week soon gets annoying.