DH waking me up from a lie-in (glum, bottom lip poking, out referee needed)

[whatsallthefuss]

Dh wakes at 4.30 every weekday and goes to work. He never wakes me.
I wake up at 7 and get DD ready for school etc

On a weekend we like a lie-in, but he always wakes me at 9.
Now this pisses me off becuase technically he has a 4.5 hour lie in and i have a 2 hour lie in.

Also he KNOWs it will upset me becuase i've been asking him for 20 years not to.

Why does he think that his opionion (its time to wake up) is more important than my opionion (its time to sleep)

AIBU or is he?

lol @ Bobitt kind < not funny really >

I have to at the comment "isn't good to not wake you at 4:30 during the week"

isn't he good

I'd like to know how on God's Green Earth anyone manages to have sex at 9 o'clock on a Sunday morning with a child on the loose???

Really, I NEED to know. DH is very much a morning person, IYSWIM, but with 3 DSs, it's lookinh unlikely that there'll be any sort of a chance for the next 20 years!

So you go to bed at 11 and don't want to get up until after 9? seriously you need more than 10 hours sleep?

ami... when they are teenagers, it will happen

didldidi surley if i didnt need more than 10 hours sleep my body would wake up naturally refeshed, instead of draggin me out of a deep deep sleep?

who is he to say that 10 hours is enough?

surely i'm an adult and i'm allowed to say when i actually wake up.
if i wanted waking at 9 i'd have set my alarm clock

wake him up at 6.30 on his lie-in day. tell him that since he generously gives you a 2 hour lie-in, you are being really considerate and giving him one too.

OP, I'd knock him out if he woke me up. He wouldn't do it twice!

Sleep is sacred, can't be doing with all this 'sleep is for the weak' rubbish! If your DH want's to be a martyr and get up early then that's his business but no way should he be disturbing you!

There's 'sleep' that you need to survive and then there's 'recreational sleep' -sleeping as a hobby!

The whole point of a lie in is that you lay in unroll you want to get up.

Dh annoys me when he keeps waking me up, it make me even more tired having broken sleep

probatequestion but then i have to get up superearly to wake him and thats just cutting off my nose to spite my face!

ah but see you'd only have to do it for a couple of weeks. you've already endured 20 years. surely it's worth it???

or wake him up at 7 then, when you get up.

what time does he get up on his lie in?

well wouldnt that make me as bad as him?

i want him to respect my wishes, and i dont see how i could do that by disrescpeting his wishes?

if i wanted to wake him i'd be far more effective to wake him when i go to bed at 11... but then he'd just wake up frisky and we wouldnt get any sleep at all!

9.00 is his lie in.
he usually gets up at 4.30

Tell him that he has two choices - either he starts to respect your lie in or you start not to respect his... surely that's reasonable?

Just put some earplugs in and ignore him. Or just lie in bed chilling. Or lock the door. Or tell him bollocks.

I know which I would do

Am I the only one who actually quite likes being woken up for...ahem...'private' time?

OP, I think YAB a little U - surely DD wants to be up and about by 9am? You get a lie-in in comparison to the weekdays, and it's important to get some quality family time in when you're all together, not just sleep the day away when you get plenty of sleep anyway.

I'd get very angry if woken unnecessarily. Stuff walking around with a sulky face. Get angry and tell him that when sleeping on a weekend you never want woken again unless you have asked to be woken up. If he "always" wakes you up at 9 you haven't been getting angry enough.
I wouldn't expect him to tiptoe around quietly at 9am, presume the kids are up anyway, but I definitely wouldn't want to be woken up. Discuss it properly .

YABU if DC are quite small, really long lies at weekends can affecr getting stuff done / limited family time (if one or both partners work), also annoying if a frequent event and one person left to look after the DC.

You already get 2 hours more leisure time every eve and more sleep.

quills, you are making the mistake of projecting what you like onto someone else

these kinds of threads are full of it

it's very unhelpful

OP said she isn't happy about it...you make yourself as bad as the OP's pressurising partner when you come on and say "well I like it"

who gives a shit what you like ? Really. Start a thread about how you like being woken by a hand up your jacksy. It's not appropriate here.

Oh, but he is being unreasonable to wake you up for sex!

But where are DC? May be slightly less unreasonable if they are out at a class or something and this is only shagging opportunity in the week!

Sorry, but...... Makes her sound like Sooty.

OP, this is something that would REALLY fuck me off. I get up 45 mins earlier than anyone else in the house during the week, I expect a little bit of a lie in at the weekend. Whoever wakes up first gets up to the kids, that's the rule.

I fucking HATE being woken up for sex. I love sex, but not enough to sacrifice my sleep

SH, I know, it was kinda tongue in cheek

but it fucks me off when people come on a thread to say "well I like it...so what's wrong with you" (paraphrasing, but that is the inference)

it happens all the time, and it is not in the slightest helpful