To not agree with MIL that DD (6) should be responsible for naming the baby when its born?

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Just that really. Consider some of the names her toys have - snowy, twilight, cuddles, pinky, clucky and other such delights and tell me I am not being unreasonable.

I have no problem with her contributing ideas - indeed the list currently includes

bubbles
Joanna (name of best friend at school)
Mrs X (name of her much loved reception teacher)
Granny (because it would be nice to call baby after MIL)
or simply Baby

But I am not sure she should have the final say!!

Lawks, no! YANBU. I was most reluctant to allow ex-dh to take charge, let alone ds1. I seriously feared that if he got anywhere near the registrar, ds2 would come back officially named Stanley. Which was a deal worse than ds1's intention to call him after the cat.

Peaches Geldof anyone? I was told that was how she was named.

I'd suggest that MIL should change her own name by deed poll to a name chosen by your dd.

No way would I let anyone but me and DH name our baby (together). She's winding you up surely?

YANBU. I hope MIL hasn't voiced these opinions in front of DD!

If MIL is so keen to let DD choose a name, tell DD that she can pick a new name for Granny, any name she wants, and MIL will be more than happy to be referred to as X (insert ridiculous/totally sensible but inappropriate name here)...

My niece, 3 at the time, suggested I called DD poo poo

She wasn't offended when we chose a different name though ...

x-post with coppertop, great minds and all that!

MrsTP, aren't the other children's names just as silly?

Oh, I don't know. At least you can guarantee they'll be the only child in their class with that name! Your MIL is hoping you'll agree, then she can secretly coach her DGC to name the new baby after herself, without looking too egotistical...

Why on earth has she come up with this op?

DD has come up with some very interesting names for this baby due in July. mostly along the Barbie films / Disney Princess line, so no, just like my DD is allowed input, but does not get to choose. Fortunatley she only comes up with girls names so my boys name is safe if she gets a brother

Tell her she can call them whatever she likes when they are here. My friend's toddler currently favours "poopoohead" for her twin baby brothers.

(BTW, I think Mrs Vestibule has sussed out what is really going on here.)

YABU

Bubbles is a perfectly lovely name, why on earth would you dismiss it?

No, seriously your mil is barking. Children can be responsible for naming pets, other DC's names should be up to the adults. YANBU.

My 3yr old SS suggested we call our puppy Aeroplane.

I'm not convinced children are best placed to name anything with more intellectual capacity than goldfish tbh.

Apparantly she let DP name his sister at the same age. (DP was a very sensible lad though and his sister is called Jessica known as Jess)

Bubbles is great, I had a cat called that!

No of course YANBU - the end result could be very interesting :)

YANBU. Although DH and I let DS2 pick DS3's middle name. DS1 and DS2 have their grandfathers names as middle names and we weren't sure what middle name to pick for DS3 so in the end so we asked DS1 and DS2 to think of a person each who was important to them. DS1 picked a girls name and DS2 picked a boys name so they both became the middle names for DC3 and as he was another boy, DS2's choice got used. We wouldn't have done it if either of them had picked something awful though.

actually the name is made up by me as no desire to out myself but hte fact remains its equally sensible with a pretty abbreviation

I think she's trying to influence the naming. Probably secretly saying that certain names are wonderful so your DD may choose one of those. Its naming by stealth!

Ignore, ignore, ignore!

DS1 chose DS2's middle name
Luckily he was going through a Thomas phase, so its a sensible name. When we had DD he had moved onto 'Cars' and wanted to call DD Mater.

If my DD1 had had her way, DD 2 would be called Cheesy now. It later became the name of one of our Guinea pigs instead.

Middle name only, and it has to be a sensible one.

SHe helped as when we were talking about names she keep saying one ( she was 2 BTW)... Then when dd2 was born dd1 came out with a nickname that has stuck and 3 yrs on its used by just about everybody !!!

I know two families who allowed their children (3 and 5 at the time I think) to name their next children. One is ok but one of the 4 dreaded names you hear everywhere these days, the other .... ummm... no.

I'd never relinquish the fun of choosing a name for our baby to a child!

Oi, Scarlett when I was five I named my goldfish William. I was a very serious 5-year-old .

Not that advanced though. It took me 20 years to work out that when William came back from the neighbours about twice the size after the holidays he'd died and been replaced rather than being fed special food as my mother said.

OP this is the same mother who insisted on making my wedding cake but kept carving up the tiers because my 7 year old nephew kept asking for slices.

Two weeks off my wedding I told her if she did it again I was going to M&S.

What 7 year old likes rich fruit cake anyway? He was just a greedy little git and she thought he was adorable.

Ignore your MIL unless your DD suggests William for a boy.

is this your mil's way of getting to name your baby by suggesting to your 7 yr old strongly the name that she wants? I am all for siblings being involved but naming - no way.