To not agree with MIL that DD (6) should be responsible for naming the baby when its born?

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Just that really. Consider some of the names her toys have - snowy, twilight, cuddles, pinky, clucky and other such delights and tell me I am not being unreasonable.

I have no problem with her contributing ideas - indeed the list currently includes

bubbles
Joanna (name of best friend at school)
Mrs X (name of her much loved reception teacher)
Granny (because it would be nice to call baby after MIL)
or simply Baby

But I am not sure she should have the final say!!

ffi trixiebelle named peaches Just saying no yanbu maybe a middle name at a psuh but give her a selection or you may have baby fairycake ,

Pick your DD's most preposterous suggestion and tell MIL, straight faced, that this will be bump's name.

See how fast she back-tracks on the 'let DD choose' suggestion :)

A new one a new one..... when she was in bath she said

mummy I heard a new word at school today and I think it will be a lovely name for baby if its a girl.

What is it darling?

Vagina mummy

Please please please can I tell MIL we will be christening the baby Vagina Bubbles

Pretty please (may even get a birth announcement card made up especially

Do it!

But please, please have your camera on you when you do so we can see the look of horror on her face.

Even better, get DD to make the announcement so she has to coo "That's lovely sweetheart" before she starts apologising for her stupid idea

Oh amazing! Vagina Bubbles, so cute!

Until recently I would have completely agreed that giving toddlers naming rights over their siblings was the dumbest idea known to man, but when asked what her new sister should be called, my god-daughter (aged 2 and a bit) suggested Amber. And Amber she is. It really suits her and was far preferrable IMHO to what her parents were thinking. So it can work out. Occasionally. All the same, I don't think YABU.

When my middle bro was born, I got to choose his name - from a shortlist of two.

I chose the one I was able to remember.

DD's soft toys are called

Doggy
Puppy
Monkey
Pony
Catty
Bear
Elephant
Rabbit

I can see where such a naming responsibility would lead...

I reckon your MIL is pushing for this because she reckons she will be able to influence your dd and therefore get her choice of name for the baby...

how much longer until the baby is born? we let ds1 choose the bump 'in the tummy' name while I was pregnant with ds2 so he got to choose a name that was used for a while, then we got to choose the 'out of the tummy' name

He chose Ro-Ro (after his favourite song at the time - row row row your boats...) - ds2 was known by this name for 5 weeks and 6 days - until the day on which we had the appointment to register his name and had to make a choice. By that time I was quite fond of it and would have been quite happy to use it as a second name or maybe Jethro as a nod towards it. But instead ended up with Edward as a middle name - I burst into tears at the registry office as I just didn't like it and I still have no idea why it is his second name! I also suddenly realised that i wanted ds2 to have my surname as a middle name too but dh didn't want it on the basis that we hadn't used it for ds1 and it wouldn't be fair for one to have it and one not). Poor old registrar offered to leave us for a few minutes to sort ourselves out!

Sorry, slight diversion. But if you can persuade your dd to come up with something that is suitably gender non-specific, (assuming you either don't know or don't want everybody else to know!) it was quite nice - and helped ds1 to develop a bond with his little baby brother beforehand as he had a name that he had chosen IYSWIM and everybody used. (It took months for the name to stop being used and still gets used occasionally even now, 4 years down the line for ds2!)

Pfft- we have cuddlies with very similar names here!

My DC1 wanted to call DC2 "Baby Onions"

Really? Am I in the minority? We allowed DD1 (2.3) to choose DD2's name (3 weeks old) It was nice.

Ok, she was just given two names (that we came up with) to choose from because DH and I couldn't decide

YANBU. I think (hope!) many people are living with having made this mistake:

In 2010:
27 people did in fact name their child 'Baby'
4 chose Candy
5 chose Flossie
16 chose Peaches
7 chose Pebbles
7 chose Petal
83 chose Pixie
89 chose Precious
88 chose Prince
144 chose Princess
6 chose Rainbow
31 chose Spike
13 chose Trixie

Older children should be included in discussions but never given the final say imo (unless they hapen to hit on one you love)

For my 2nd, my then 4 year old wanted Lucifer, Chip or Lumiere for a boy and Malleficent or Snow White for a girl (stupid disney films!)

My eldest (9) at the time did actually name DD - he ran in from the playground when we were on holiday and I was pregnant saying "I have a name for our baby". We loved it and used it. DS1 and DD have an almost freaky bond however so it was quite appropriate (DS1 kept on and on about wanting a sister at a point where we had definitely "finished". Turned out I was pregnant with DD!). They also looked so alike at birth that I can only tell which is which in photos by what they're wearing.

Dnephew was allowed to name his brother. He chose Sam. Given that he christened the cat 'Tyrannosaurus Rex' I think the baby got off lightly!

When I was 16 I met another 16 year old with an unusual name (can't remember now but thought it was awful nonsense), I said "oh that's unusual" and she told me that it was her 3 year old sister's choice.

Don't trust children. I let them name rabbits, and I got a Ginger Ninja and the other has a different name every other day.

My old neighbour has children called Bubbles and Jumbles.

Maybe the sibling should have picked the names instead of the parents in that case!!

My 2 eldest were 3 and 4 when number 3 came along. They wanted Poppy for a girl and Sam for a boy. Guess what books we were reading at the time?

They nearly got their choice as DD2 did get Poppy for a middle name.

yes. you will HAVE to tell mil the baby's name is vagina bubbles, if only to enjoy her cats bum mouth.

Vagina bubbles I love it

I was 6 when dsis was born. My mother foolish romantic hoped I would name her. I chose Snow White. She is called Marianne. YANBU.

Yanbu, dd1 wanted to name dd2 when I was pg. The names she wanted was sparkles for a girl or dog for a boy. Thanks but no thanks dd! You name your baby yourself.

DD named 7mo old ds as dh and I couldn't agree on a name. He's named after a ninja turtle.

maybe your MIL wants your DD to be involved in naming the new baby to make your DD feel included.

I would write all of the suitable names on a piece of paper and put them in a bowl. get DD to pick out the paper and thats the name of the new child.

But of course you are the mum and if you want to write Molly on every peice of paper in the bowl then you are going to get the name you want and the involvement of DD.

think of all the christmases to come when DD1 says to dd2 'do you know how you got your name....?'

We had a short list of 3 names that we just couldnt decide from. So we did let DS1 choose from that list.

So - yes - he did choose the name BUT it was from a very specific list!