To not agree with MIL that DD (6) should be responsible for naming the baby when its born?

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Just that really. Consider some of the names her toys have - snowy, twilight, cuddles, pinky, clucky and other such delights and tell me I am not being unreasonable.

I have no problem with her contributing ideas - indeed the list currently includes

bubbles
Joanna (name of best friend at school)
Mrs X (name of her much loved reception teacher)
Granny (because it would be nice to call baby after MIL)
or simply Baby

But I am not sure she should have the final say!!

YANBU - what an odd idea. I have a friend who did this and her DD2 has a name that my friend, the child's own mother, isn't very keen on! Normal name but just not on her own list.

YANBU!!!!!
I know a Dora Maisy named by her older sister. Everyone asks if she was named after the explorer and the mouse, both of whom she hates.

YABU are stifling your child's creativity. Bubbles is a charming name!

By the way I have just asked my six year old for a nice name for a baby girl and she's suggested princess fluffy. Feel free to use if you wish to.

You're welcome!

If we'd let DD name her brother we'd have a DS called 'Ariel', like the mermaid. Or Percy, after the train (better than Ariel, but not quite what we wanted)

On of my friends sisters who were 6 and 8 at the time were told they could name the new baby. As the King had died a few days before they said they would like to call her Elizabeth after the new Queen which I think is lovely.

It is the same name as my DD but she was named after my grandmother who unfortunately I never met as she died 3 weeks after my parents married.

Foolishly I asked DS1's opinion on the 3 possible names we had in mind for DS2 (the name I liked, one DH liked and the name that neither of us had objected to but weren't fussed about). I was obviously hoping that he was going to like my choice but he actually preferred the third option (fair enough) and then proceeded to tell everyone that the baby was called that name (not so great, particularly as we hadn't told anyone we'd found out the sex of the baby...)

We went with it in the end and the name does suit DS2 but both DH and I were a bit grumpy that we didn't get our choices

YANBU - it's nice to involve older siblings but no way should they be trusted with naming the new baby!

Ds1 was 5y10m when ds2 was born. He'd spent the majority of my pregnancy making lists of baby names. On the final list was the name dh and I both wanted for him and ds1 was dead chuffed when we told him we'd picked one off his list - didn't mention we'd already chosen it ourselves though

"I'd suggest that MIL should change her own name by deed poll to a name chosen by your dd."

Totally agree with coppertop

While my then 3 year old DD was enthusiastic about helping to name our new baby, I never would have seriously let her. Mainly because all her dolls are called Daisy, Maisy or Daffodil. None of those would have suited DS. Your MIL is probably winding you up. Honestly, some people think they're hilarious.

DS (then aged 4) was very unhappy that we wouldn't let him name his brother 'Rake'. I told him that it was a gift that parents gave their child and one day perhaps he would get to give one to his own son. Still not happy.

My bob the builder fan DS1 decided we should call baby "digger" - why? Because we can't call him "Scoop". Other top favourites were: Clifford (the big red dog); Scooby and Brum.

We called him Daniel instead.

If it was left 2 my dd, it would be Peppa lol!

oh and my DD at 3 had two baby dolls. Both girls, apparently. One called Callum, and one called Bobby.

We have two choices for imminent DS2 - I'm slightly tempted to see which DS1 picks when he sees DS2 for the first time, although he does seem to predominantley use one of the names when talking about his forthcoming brother.

One of the names is a slight front runner to be 'the name' but I do like the other as well, it is just very unusual and I have a few wibbles about whether it might be seen as to 'try hard' (although it is a lovely old english name it is not on the ONS stats). Either way, both names will be used, one as first name, one as middle name + a family name as a second middle name.

DS has had the honour of bestowing the nickname on the bump - which will likely carry over to when he is born (as it did for DS1).

In your case, I guess that you MIL might be trying to name your baby by stealth by suggesting things to DD.

I agree that she shouldn´t get the final say, but I do think it´s lovely to involve her-perhaps that is all MIL is trying to do?

I was 8 when my brother was born. I was a sensible, serious child. I held out for Princess Snowflake, even when I heard he was a boy. YANBU.

Oh, thinking again, perhaps you can give her the 'final say' if you and DH can't agree between 2 different names.

tell your MIL the baby is to be called Princess SNowflake Trixibelle Frou Frou Beyonce. or something even more outrageous - look to Sleb baby names for inspiration.

Watch as she splutters away.....innocently tell her DD has decided the name. Keep a straight face.

Reveal the real name at the child's birth/christening/18th birthday.

oh and DD wanted to call DS1 (had he been a girl) "Doropy". SHe couldnt say Dorothy.

My 3yo dd has two dolls. Big baby and little baby. We like to go all out with our imaginations in this house. We also have Bear, Rabbit, Blue Rabbit -can you see a theme here?). A baby born here would almost certainly end up called 'Baby'. Which may not suit an infant for long. So no, I wouldn't let them have free rein. A list to choose the ones they like best maybe....

If Id let ds decide dd would have been called Fluffy-Pink.

Oh hell she's gone back to school this week so two names have mysteriously joined the list......

Chip or Kipper

NO NO NO please NO

If we let DS1 name any potential DC3, he'd pick the name of his very best friend who is Chinese/Korean and has a Japanese name. We are not any of those 3 nationalities. He has already named the new car after him. Maybe we should get a pet for him to name, as it's quite a lovely name.

yanbu, it is none of your mil's business

LOL absolutely not...

My cm wrote a list with DD and her other mindees when I was pg with dc2. It was hilarious, included such classics as;

Booby
BooBah
Sausage
Fish Finger
Umbrella
and Aubrey (think that was cm suggestion)

I still have the list somewhere....

YANBU. My Aunt (6 at the time) got to choose my Uncle's name. She was very into the Famous Five.... Uncle is called Timmy, not Timothy, Timmy. Enough said!