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Original poster

to get this site shut down for bullying???

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 18/04/2012 00:33

Absolutely disgusted at the way I have been treated, will be making this as public as I can... came here with a real problem, have been accused of being a liar and basically being bullied... cannot believe this site is still here!

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thatisall · 18/04/2012 00:54

didisaythat. I posted a thread, a daft one about mums net scraps and used the word sarcy. The same person accused me of being a 'troll'. They probably think that I'm you; in fact they're probably reading this saying omg they're replying to themselves.

I've been on here just over a week and really as far as I can see, most of the time it's ok, some of the time its excellent and occasionally its shit. I found out on my first post that AIBU is not the place to go for help unless your a strong character (it was v scary!). It was so bad that I changed my username!! My post tonight was just a funny one so I don't feel too attacked or anything but had it been something personal, i might've been as upset as you.

I had a nosy (cos Im nosy) and found your post. I don't know what Crystal has said to have her comments deleted, but honestly you can't judge all of MN by one persons comments.

I got some amazing support yesterday and through to today. Try not to get upset about one person.

canitmaybe · 18/04/2012 00:55

I wasnt horrible either, and I think that trying to cause harm to this site, will only harm vunerable individuals who need support.

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 18/04/2012 00:56

Like I said, yes prob over-reacting but how would you be feeling right now, to come and bare your soul to strangers (which takes a lot of bloody guts) only to be accused of lying, then talked about on another thread... I just don't understand what was so wrong about looking for somewhere I didn;t have to be so goddamned strong for everyone else all the time.... like I said my mistake!!!!

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canitmaybe · 18/04/2012 00:56

Ive got a special Ive been flamed on mumsnet badge :)

thatisall · 18/04/2012 00:57

where is the other thread? what's it called?

scottishmummy · 18/04/2012 00:58

if you feel aggrieved contact mnhq,they will moderate

Starwisher · 18/04/2012 00:59

Did

Take some time out
Name change if you want a fresh start
Repost your situation maybe in realtionships as someone suggested
Avoid posting on aibu for some time
Enjoy :)

canitmaybe · 18/04/2012 00:59

didIsayoutloud, its happened to most of us, honestly, at one time or another, just forget about it, go back over your thread, and look at all the lovely comments, just mentally block out Crystalmaize ones.

bobbledunk · 18/04/2012 00:59

Just read it, so sorry you're having a hard timeSad Don't pay any attention to nasty comments, these people don't know you. All the bestSmile

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 18/04/2012 00:59

lol canit... Thatisall...that's you they're talking about? I am so freaking sorry for you Ican't imagine what the hell happened on your thread... is it still around to read? I hope that you're feeling ok about whatever it is, no one should be flamed like that... just can't believe it, I know I sound like a parrot but truly... :O

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 18/04/2012 01:00

It's called feeling hard done by :( in Am I being Unreasonable...

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canitmaybe · 18/04/2012 01:00

only no-one knows I have the badge, because I wasnt me when I earned it, I was someone else, and then I used to earn them almost weekly, bit like a star chart - 1 this week, 2 that week Grin

thatisall · 18/04/2012 01:01

oooh which thread????

My thread is AIBU to take pleasure in reading through a MN scrap? Which one are you talking about lol

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 18/04/2012 01:01

hahaha, I refuse to change my name, I have done absolutely nothing wrong!!

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canitmaybe · 18/04/2012 01:02

and really, can I whisper something to you (that wasnt a real, proper flaming either, it was more of a gentle toasting).

thatisall · 18/04/2012 01:02

Honestly mines not that bad because Im not talking about anything personal, but a past one with a different name last week, kinda was. Don't worry about it. keyboard warriors, or should I say keyboard warrior. You got some lovely responses.

PerryCombover · 18/04/2012 01:03

Can you get a site shut down for bullying? (learns something new today)

I hope you've withstood AI B U. It has a valued place for some recurrent issues.

Try another part of the site in future when you wish to unload or are looking for support. I read your thread and I wish you loads of luck with whatever is happening ATM. Must be hard to be you right now.

thatisall · 18/04/2012 01:03

canitmaybe, is that golden brown?

Starwisher · 18/04/2012 01:05

Ha ha canit!

I have a whole thread solely set up for the purpose of ripping the piss out of me on here!

canitmaybe · 18/04/2012 01:05

I dont know if its even golden brown, more just pale biege.

LineRunner · 18/04/2012 01:05

Well, Starwisher's advice is pretty good, really. And very well meant. And scottishmummy is right in that if you report to MNHQ, they will certainly have a look at the situation for you.

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 18/04/2012 01:07

Thank you for everyone's nice comments... you probably can't get a site shut down for bullying... like I said...over reacting I know... AIBU should just be changed to IABU.... sigh, thanks for your advice guys...

xx

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canitmaybe · 18/04/2012 01:07

right night everyone, try again tomorrow OP, but probably not in AIBU.

thatisall · 18/04/2012 01:08

canitmaybe not toasted enough that, shove her under again ;-) just kidding Didjustsaythatoutloud