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To knock on the door of every house we overlook to find out who sent this?

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anchovies · 17/04/2012 08:38

Dh found a note hat had been put through the door last night/this morning:

"To the pervert!!!

Just to let you know we can see you. you're lucky my wife would rather get the police involved otherwise I would hit you. if I catch you perving again I will be round to knock you out and shut your dog up when you let it out at night"

Whoever has sent it (assuming it is someone we overlook) has walked a long way round to post it and would have had to work out where to post it.

I wouldn't have thought it was meant to be for us except we are the only people around here with a dog.

So am planning on knocking on every door this morning to find out who is threatening to knock someone out. Bad idea?

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scrablet · 17/04/2012 09:55

I was sent an anonymous letter once re letting my cat sit on my window sill(ground floor) at 11.00 at night. The letter started all concern and ended with what a rubbish parent I was and how sorry they felt for my children.
My DH tore it up and threw it out, now I wish I had taken it to police, just for a log, altho' to be fair have had nothing since.
Roundabout way of saying, take it to police, don't door knock yourself, you could make things worse.
Tis a rotten thing to happen, and I bet your adrenalin is flowing so you feel the need to DO something. Let this feeling pass if you can, then decide what plan of action you and DP think will most benefit you.

ChaoticAngel · 17/04/2012 09:58

shit himself in the foot

OP agree with pps, take it to the police. At least that way it's on record.

IAmBooyhoo · 17/04/2012 09:59

i'll bet it's someone getting the wrong house. even so i would go to the police because if the person thinks that their 'pervert' lives in your house they could come back again angry that their not hasn't been heeded (as in the real pervert wont know to stop perving).

Frontpaw · 17/04/2012 10:07

Poor you! I wonder if anyone else nearby got a similar one? It sounds like a wind up, honestly!

I would take a copy to the police, just so they have it on record. There is probably a local odd-ball writing letters as a hobby.

LentillyFart · 17/04/2012 10:08

A (sometimes) (not loudly) barking dog does not = pervert. Get a grip nancy and read the thread properly

Nancy66 · 17/04/2012 10:12

Lentilly - I read the OP's post - the letter mentions a noisy dog.

If it didn't I wouldn't have said anything - ergo it's relevant.

SweetGrapes · 17/04/2012 10:12

Bucharest are you my neighbour??

Any conversation that starts with 'you know that bathroom window of yours' can't end well!!

manicbmc · 17/04/2012 10:15

Why would you believe these oddballs about the dog and not the pervert comment in the note, Nancy?

If it was more than the occasional bark, surely other neighbours would have said something?

StripyMagicDragon · 17/04/2012 10:19

Take it to the police and get it sorted out, they should know who it is since you've apparently been reported.

NoOnesGoingToEatYourEyes · 17/04/2012 10:19

I doubt whoever wrote it has been or will go to the police.

It just doesn't ring true that they would decide to do that and write a note anyway.

But I think you should go to the police, the note calls someone in your house a pervert, threatens your DH and threatens your dog. You don't even know if it's a man or a woman writing the note or if the 'wife' mentioned in the note even exists.

If someone is starting rumours about perverts then you'll have some idiot thinking there's no smoke without fire and believing it. There was a man in our local newspaper who had notes about him pushed through all of his neighbours doors, calling him a pedophile and accusing him of having videos of underage children. He did have videos, but of his own children, fully clothed and taking part in a martial arts competition. Turned out to be one of the other parents who objected to him filming his own children and starting a malicious campaign of lies to get back at him. But some of the neighbours believed the notes and the police had to give him some sort of official notice to explain he was innocent of all the accusations. The woman who wrote the notes was let off because of previous good character.

And will you be worried when your DH goes out, that someone will be waiting to attack him? What about when he is late or nips out to the shop without telling you, will you be scared about what might have happened to him?

And what about the dog? I'd be worried that someone would harm mine while she was outside, you read about these natters poisoning pets or hurting them somehow.

I wouldn't feel better until I had reported all this to the police and I think I would ask the other neighbours if they had received any notes of their own too. This same note could have been shoved through every door or they could be writing different ones to different neighbours but keeping quiet about it for whatever reason.

I think you should take it seriously and report it as harassment as quickly as possible now. People who write notes like this often continue and can make life a misery for the people they are harassing.

stifnstav · 17/04/2012 10:19

I once complained to my husband that the neighbour at the back of us was standing in the bathroom staring out at me constantly and that it was giving me the creeps.

Turns out I could actually see the outline of a shaving mirror on their windowsill, which to me looked like someone's head. So glad I didn't send a note, or my husband round!

I am also a bit surprised that I didn't think anything of the neighbour's perfectly round mirror-shaped head.

HandMadeTail · 17/04/2012 10:20

Nancy, the OP mentions a dog. There is no mention of whether it is noisy or not. In fact, even the threatening letter does not mention that the dog is noisy. The letter just includes a threat to the dog - there is no complaint about barking or barking up the wrong tree, for that matter

stifnstav · 17/04/2012 10:22

For what its worth, I'd report it to the police. Its odd and its threatening.

Nancy66 · 17/04/2012 10:23

'shut your dog up when you let it out at night'

suggests a barking dog

what else could it mean ?

stifnstav · 17/04/2012 10:24

It refers to shutting the dog up, which means its making some noise. Or someone's dog is.

GinPalace · 17/04/2012 10:24

Handmade what does 'shut your dog up' mean then? could mean shut it in the house, but more likely to mean the usual when someone says shut up!

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anchovies · 17/04/2012 10:26

Nancy - I'm really not too worried about the dog comment, more concerned that my dh is going to be "knocked out"! Thanks though!

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Nancy66 · 17/04/2012 10:28

..anyhow DON'T turn detective just go to police - chances are other people have had notes or it's happened in the past.

BadSkiingMum · 17/04/2012 10:32

Sorry, but I read that as a bit more sinister regarding the dog.

'I will be round to knock you out and shut your dog up when you let it out at night'

To me that reads as 'I will be round to...'silence' your dog...' eg. potential harm. :(

villagegossip · 17/04/2012 10:33

So is your DH a pervert then anchovies? What has he got to say about it?

spammertime · 17/04/2012 10:34

Isn't it more likely that while your dog has been doing whatever dogs do at night, your DH has been gazing into space but from the point of view of weirdo's wife, has been gazing at her?

Anyway, report to police!

spatchcock · 17/04/2012 10:34

I read 'shut your dog up' as kidnap it in retribution for the perving.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 17/04/2012 10:36

yes I think they are threatening your dog.

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anchovies · 17/04/2012 10:37

Pretty sure my dh isn't a pervert! He certainly didn't seem too fussed about the note anyway.

Blimey about the dog comment! Perhaps I will be going in the garden with him to keep an eye on him after all :(

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HandMadeTail · 17/04/2012 10:40

Thats what I read, as well, spatchcock.

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