to feel uncomfortable about my sister drinking whilst pregnant?

[thatisall]

Actually uncomfortable is an understatement, it really upsets me.
My sister is pregnant with her 3rd child and has smoked and consumed alcohol throughout her previous two pregnancies.

I have never smoked and although I know its terrible for unborn babies, I don't feel I can pass comment on it, as I have never experienced a smoking addiction. The alcohol however is a different matter.

I know some people have the odd drink during pregnancy, but I didn't drink at all: can't she at least keep try??
I probably sound high and mighty saying that, but my sister isn't having the odd glass, she is getting 'fall over' drunk!!
She has been told that her baby is dangerously small and the local ante-natal unit have taken measures to help the pregnancy continue and yet she drinks like a fish and smokes like a chimney.
The baby was planned, so it isn't a case of her not wanting him/her.
In my opinion her two dd's do show some of the symptoms of foetal alcohol syndrome and I am so worried about this.
Our mother is flaky to say the least and would never say anything for fear of rocking the boat.
Is it my place to say something?
I feel like someone needs to protect this baby?

I think what you've done is brilliant!

Well done OP. There is no magic wand but I really hope things start picking up for your sister and her family now.

And thank you HandMini and OP.

My Daughter's FAS was caused by her birth mother's drinking. I look at her often and wonder what her life would have been like in a parallel universe where that hadn't happened.

You may well have just saved a child from that.

Very unselfish posts by you shockers given that in that parallel universe your DD would be happy and healthy, but not yours to love in the way that you so obviously do.

I hope this intervention doesn't result in splitting up a family (am adopted myself) and that everyone gets the help they need.

the night is dark : that was and is my biggest fear.

Of course it is / was

Such a difficult position for you to be in.

Get some rest now thatis and be assured that your motives are pure.

thank you. x Im actually being accused of being a fraud (I think) on another thread. Its a bit upsetting and if it wash't for all the sound advice and support on here I'd probably be off. Not got a mn skin yet! lol

Are you? Well then it is definitely time to leave it for now. Sleep tight

You're right, it's weird on here at night lol x

well done OP, lets hope she tones it down a bit eh? xx

the one about mn scraps. Think its sorted now, but I had to reveal my 1st day username which i changed as too close to real name & because I monumentally buggered up my first ever post and got flamed :-S

There were 2 other OPs aswell and someone thought we were all the same person. One of them v upset and wanted site shut down for bullying.

Not an issue, I only mentioned it on here as it was mad that on one thread I was being called a troll and feeling like leaving whilst on this thread, people were STILL posting support

My first ever post was flamed too thatisall ahh. Awful MNetters!

The last time i went out properly out clubbing i was about 4months gone. My friends stood in front of me the whole time and wouldn't let anyone touch me. However, one particular friend would scream 'SHES PREGNANT' at anyone that came near to me.

pahaaa that's a good friend lol