AIBU: I don't want my cleaner to bring her child to work

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The cleaner has brought her child (age 6) into the country in the last few days and she is not yet registered at a school. She has brought her to work, in my house, today without asking me first. The child has been coughing away. I have three children and I don't need them getting ill. The child is well behaved and has just fallen asleep on the couch. AIBU. I just don't want any more bodies in my house.

that's totally your projection, imagination - and twisting
to suit the view you've become fixed on.

The OP doesn't say anywhere, not once, that she thinks the child should have been placed immediately in school without bonding with her mother.

Incidentally it's also worth pointing out again that nobody knows how long the mother and child were apart for.

How is it patronising to help somebody struggling with the language and the system?

It is the OP's business that the child is in her house.

'I have given loads of feedback about the standard of her cleaning. I spent time with her sister explaining the school system in London as I knew my cleaner was thinking about bringing her child to the UK.'

Well that bit about loads of feedback about the standard of cleaning is contradicted by the bit where she says she just noticed i wasn't up to scratch at Easter. ('I noticed over Easter, when I did the cleaning myself, that the house has not been being cleaned properly.')

But on to the school thing. The OP mentioned it twice. She knows the child hasn't been registered in school apparently (says so in her OP), and spent a considerable time discussing school stuff with the cleaner's English speaking sister (says so further down). Presumably if the child was in school then she wouldn't have been in her home coughing? She seemed a lot more concerned about the coughing than about bonding with the mother (not mentioned once by the OP btw), and a lot more concerned about the permission to be in her home than any other factor. School attendance would have meant (1) no intrusion of more bodies in her home and (2) no coughing by the child in her home.

God what a horrible thread I'm surprised too by the nastiness shown by posters I'd previously thought highly of

For what it's worth op, I don't think YABU. She should have asked first, I have done several minimum wage 'menial' jobs and I wouldn't have thought it was ok to just bring my children along with me, I dont think that meant people were looking down on me or judging me

There are always threads on here about people dropping their children off without asking, children inviting their friends in, neighbours children inviting themselves in whenever they want, the majority response is usually YANBU to be pissed off, tell them to bugger off its your home (or something along those lines) so I don't see how this is any different. Yes it might be a one off due to exceptional circumstances but surely then the cleaner could have asked or at least explained that rather than just assuming it was ok

And if she's coughing and has fallen asleep she does sound poorly, poor little thing should be at home, and yes I do think its rude to bring an ill child into someone's home without checking first work related or not

(and before anyone says anything I'm sure the cleaner needed the money and couldn't afford to take the time off, it's shit but happens to a lot of people and you just have to manage somehow)