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vegan mum at kids party was rude?

399 replies

DoozerDrift · 15/04/2012 20:42

Took DS to a young child's birthday party at soft play today, and there was a vegan mum with her DC there. When it came to cake time, there was no vegan cake, so the mum gave her DC a chocolate lollipop out of her bag.

OK, her DC seemed happy with the situation and asked to hosts to check what was and wasn't vegan. So no problem there I don't think (although I'll bet my bottom dollar they'll rebel and live on bacon sandwiches when they're old enough to ignore their mum!) Grin

BUT AIBU to think that taking separate treats to a party is A) rude to the hosts and B) unfair to the other children at the party who might prefer what the vegan DC are eating?

OP posts:
pigletmania · 15/04/2012 21:47

By that time the child will be able to choose for themselves wether to be vegan or not op

Metabilis3 · 15/04/2012 21:47

@purple Quorn isn't vegan Grin

Jinsei · 15/04/2012 21:47

season, was that a vegan Biscuit?

rhondajean · 15/04/2012 21:48

Isn't it meta?

ReshapeWhileDamp · 15/04/2012 21:49

It's at 21.21, Calamity. When the OP is asserting her MN kosherability.

thisisyesterday · 15/04/2012 21:49

quorn contains egg, so no, it isn't vegan

Metabilis3 · 15/04/2012 21:49

@rhondajean nope. Eggs are involved.

exoticfruits · 15/04/2012 21:50

I don't see a problem. It only happens when they are small-later on the mother won't be around and the DC can choose for themselves whether they want to be vegan.

GrahamTribe · 15/04/2012 21:50

Quorn contains egg, which is why it's not vegan.

rhondajean · 15/04/2012 21:50

I didn't realise. So gla I didnt try to serve it to my friend...

I found in my veggie years it gave me a hippy tummy. And tofu sometimes.

PurpleRomanesco · 15/04/2012 21:51

Blush How ignorant of me. Of course Terry cock doesn't contain eggs.

curiositykitten · 15/04/2012 21:52

OP I actually completely understand how upsetting it must have been for you.

This one time, I was at a Mother & Toddler Group and I pulled out a bottle for my three week old baby. Of course, the mother sat next to me pulled out her tits and started to breastfeed her baby!! How dare she be so selfish? My darling-child started screeeeeeeaming because, of course, she now wanted the tit too! Luckily, she'd come prepared, and had two so shared them about with all the other poor kids who didn't have any.

Was your darling-child perhaps the one who threw a hissyfit at not having the lollipop?

PurpleRomanesco · 15/04/2012 21:52

Terrys

Kewcumber · 15/04/2012 21:53

I wish all party guests brought all their own food. Would make tedious catering of parties so much easier.

I think your OP is phrased worngly - what you meant was "AIBU to think childrne should not be vegan and should eat whatever they are given and lump it"

thisisyesterday · 15/04/2012 21:53

to answet the OP.

Yabvvvvvvvu!!!

we are vegetarian, and 2 of my kids can't eat egg/dairy so are basically on a vegan diet.
I often take extra treatrs to parties because it's fucking SHIT for my kids to be invited to parties where there is nothing they can eat.

I've sat and watch my 4 year old hold back tears when I've told him that actually, no, he can't have ANY of the treats on offer

What I do find incredibly rude is people who invite you to their party and make absolutely no effort at all to make sure all their guests have something they can eat.

and unfair to the kids who might prefer what the vegan kids are eating? are you having a fucking laugh? my kids go day in day out being told "no, you can't have that"
and you're worried that one or 2 children might have to be told one time that they can't have what someone else is having? even though they have the pick of all the other food?

snooter · 15/04/2012 21:53

Poor kid. At least it got a (probably nasty) lollipop.

rhondajean · 15/04/2012 21:53

Is Terry's Cock similar to Terry's Chocolate Orange?

PurpleRomanesco · 15/04/2012 21:55

It's not Terrys, It's mine...

TiggyD · 15/04/2012 21:55

I've been here ages too:

Pass passes for hedgehogs, Des O'Conner's secret ear, Stabbed by a pointy giraffe, Oral sex ruined my carpet, etc.

Metabilis3 · 15/04/2012 21:56

@rhonda well, that's not vegan either, so......Grin

thisisyesterday · 15/04/2012 21:58

oh and yes, i make delicious vegan cakes thanks!

PurpleRomanesco · 15/04/2012 21:58

Des O'Conner's secret ear?

Tiggy I beg of you, Explain this!

TiggyD · 15/04/2012 22:02

You must have missed that thread Purple.

Pixel · 15/04/2012 22:09

At least she took alternative food. At dd's 5th birthday party I had no idea that one of the little guests was vegan until her parents dropped her off and casually mentioned it before they legged it. Luckily it was a supervised party at a soft play centre so I was able to nip out and try and find --anything at all- something nice for her to eat. We were in a shopping mall so the only likely place I could find was Boots the chemist. Poor kid had very strange assortment of snacks!

WorraLiberty · 15/04/2012 22:11

Is Terry's Cock similar to Terry's Chocolate Orange?

I'd tap it and unwrap it

But to be honest, I don't want to find out Shock