I promised DH he could name the baby. Now I've changed my mind.

[JakeyMom]

When I was pregnant with DS1 I had my heart set the name Jacob. DH hated it and used to come up with all these alternatives but I had my heart set and I promised him that if he let me call DS Jacob he would pick the next DC's name. I PROMISED.
So fast forward and I'm pregnant with DC2 and naturally DH has been considering names. He was under the illusion that we would be having a boy and had already picked out the name Adam which I was fine with. However, it turns out we're having a girl which has totally thrown DH off course.
He's now decided he wants to name DD after his GRANDMOTHER(!!!) as she brought him up. It's an AWFUL name for a child (Blanche) and I just can't bring myself to agree. The name makes me shudder, it reminds me of coronation street. I've told him I hate the name and it's disgusting for a baby but he won't budge on it and is digging his heels in. AIBU to go back on my promise for the sake of our DD?

He's probably just winding you up!

"I had my heart set"

"He's stubborn as hell"

Maybe you have problems (such as being selfish and inflexible) that go beyond any child-naming issues.

"Oh darling, we blanch vegetables, not babies!"

Gosh yes, ridiculing the name of the woman we raised him is obviously the way to go.

YABU, now you know how he felt with your DS.

I quite like Blanche.

DH is trying to persuade me to let him choose the name of the baby we're expecting if it's a girl, and I can choose if it's a boy. No way is that going to happen!

over 300 messages and the OP legged it right at the start why are we still here?

YABU - a promise is a promise and I think you were a bit mean insisting on naming your son a name your DH hated

Stop Press.

A name some people like and some people don't shocker.

Not like it's Medusa.

Medusa?! Now that's an idea!

Theresafire, my DS2 is James Douglas . Only problem was that I then had DS3 and had used up Douglas so gave him an emergency name that I don't like much now (planned to use the short version but the long one has stuck).

Ps I like Blanche too (also fan of Katherine by Anya Seton).

YABU, you made an agreement and if he is serious then you should stick to it.

I like Blanche and I think a little girl with that name would turn out to be quite cool and ahead of the pack at school.

Where is the OP? Sooo tempted to PM her and tell her to get her arse back here

Do it karma! Do it!

I hope she comes back with an update, once the baby is born. Would love to know how this pans out.

I had a similar situation with the naming of our DCs. DS1 was born without us having any name list prepared and DP wanted to call him Kit ! I pushed for Daniel and got my way in the end nearly got fined for late registration.

We found out the DC2 was going to be a girl and DP decided that he should be the one to name her. His first suggestion was Coco and I hated the name, made me think of the clown. I suggested Collette and Coco as a derivitive, he hated Collette. We had several arguements discussions and downright stupid interesting suggestions - Canti!?!

The name DP finally settled on was not one I liked much and I really struggled to come to terms with it, but had no real argument against it. She's now here and has that name, I gave her a second name and overall I'm liking it more and more.

So OP, if you're still reading. I think YABU in considering rescinding on your promise to allow your DH to name your DD, but you have some time on your hands to come up with either a viable compromise or a second name that she could adopt if she wanted. You will find that whatever you call her will make sense when she is here.

BTW I think Blanche is a great name!

YABU

My DD is called Blanche - a beautiful name. I never wanted to choose a popular name.

Marianne it might be about to enjoy a revival!

I like Blanche.

YABU, you should have considered his feelings with your DS.

This is ridiculous! Naming a child is not about point scoring against each other! That's just horrid and doesn';t bode well for how you are going to co-operate over her upbringing.
You were wrong to inflict a name on your DS that your husband hates.Did you really want your DS to be named something his own father despises? I suspect your DH is winding you up but if not, then you need to talk as adults not silly kids, about whether he values his daughter enough to name her something her mother loves.I'd go for Blanche as a middle name,
(Not keen on it myself, It makes me think of belch, but that's just weird me!)

oopsi

using
"about whether he values his daughter enough to name her something her mother loves"

the OP didn't
value her son enough to name her something his father loves

and to TBH (in these circumstances)I can't think of a greater value being put on a child than being given that name of someone you truly love, in this case the woman that brought him up to be the man that the OP loves.

Oopsie I'm by the suggestion that the OP calls into question whether her DH values their daughter! That's very manipulative and underhand. If OP values her DH, she needs to learn to live with whatever solution they find and neither of their DC need ever know that either parent was ever anything other than delighted with their names.

I think you have to stand by your agreement.
Blanche makes me think of the Golden Girls. hth.

Hmm I think I quite like it.

Soupdragon, it was a joke.