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To think this woman should pay more attention to her own appearance.

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lurkinginthebackground · 09/04/2012 00:32

Took my mum and 2 dds out to NT event for Easter.
It was cold and involved traipsing around a NT property, doing the Easter Egg Hunt, exploring the adventure playground for clues and then looking at the "gardens".
We didn't go into the stately home as it was £14 just to see the gardens plus £2 per child for the egg hunt.
Anyway "the gardens" turned out to be no more than very large fields with grass and the occassional set of trees.

We were all dressed in coats and flat shoes.
DD1, who is 15, pointed out a woman who had quite literally eyed her up and down starting at her feet, then worked her way up until she finally looked at dds hair and then pulled a not too happy face! dd2 verified that she actually did this!
My dd was wearing Pineapple shoes, baggy jeans, a rose coloured sweat top and a Superdry coat. Her hair was French plaited at the front then tied in a ponytail. She also had very subtle make up.
I tried to laugh it off and told her that the woman was probably admiring her.
She said no mum, she didn't do it in that way,
Anyway the woman looked ok from behind, albeit in a cardigan,Ugg style boots and NO COAT (shudders) but when she turned round had a face to turn the prettist of things into stone.
She looked very old to be a mother of the small child she was with (6,7ish).
I then told dd not to worry as she aws hardly any sort of fashionista.
Secretly I looked at this woman and thought "take a long hard look at yourself, you really are not in any position to throw stones are you?"

Not needing advice just cannot believe that a grown woman would do that to a child. Get a grip you silly cow.

OP posts:
Devora · 09/04/2012 00:49

She looked very old to be the mother of a 6/7 year old? Perhaps it was me Grin

WorraLiberty · 09/04/2012 00:50

I think you're the one who needs to get a grip here op

Because of a look....really?

Poulay · 09/04/2012 00:50

People are quite entitled to look.

ravenAK · 09/04/2012 00:50

Are you sure dd hadn't just said something inappropriate in a clear, carrying voice?

Just I find that's usually why people look askance at ds from a distance.

They can generally tolerate his pineapple shoes & subtle make-up...Grin.

NiceHamione · 09/04/2012 00:52

But why say pineapple shoes and a SuperDry coat? No need. Just very odd

TunipTheVegemal · 09/04/2012 00:52

I saw an old-looking woman with a three year old the other day. She also wasn't wearing a coat.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 09/04/2012 00:53

You sound rough as a bears arse like a bit of a scrapper.

TheNightIsDarkAndFullOfTerrors · 09/04/2012 00:53

Were you at Woburn? Perhaps she was the Duchess and she was disdainful of the plebians who pay for the upkeep of the place?

Sour face and no coat makes sense, but UGG-style boots? Perhaps not.

Salmotrutta · 09/04/2012 00:54

I hope you gave her what for Tunip?
With boxing gloves.

LibrarianByDay · 09/04/2012 00:54

Are you sure your DD did not eye this woman up and down and pull a not too happy face at her Ugg-style boots and cardi? Although where they would have picked up that sort of behavior is anyone's guess.

NannyPlumIsMyMum · 09/04/2012 00:55

lurking I'm sorry but you seem to have some mental health issues.
Your post is angry ,rambling , irrational and a tad paranoid .
I hope you feel better from this soon.

GilbertandGeorge · 09/04/2012 00:55

Perhaps it was the juxtaposition of the french plait and ponytail?

Salmotrutta · 09/04/2012 00:56

That was my thought too Librarian - people sometimes get back what they give out.

lurkinginthebackground · 09/04/2012 00:57

Thenightisdark-Good point but no we weren't at Woburn and no I won't be paying for the upkeep of the place again. Far too pricey to look at grassy fields with a few daffs throw in!!!

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DeepThought · 09/04/2012 00:59

sorry but am still snorting at pineapple shoes
I would look askance too

TheNightIsDarkAndFullOfTerrors · 09/04/2012 01:02

Deep that link should come with a warning!

lurkinginthebackground · 09/04/2012 01:03

Ok- Pineapple shoes as in Pineapple Dance.
Trainer type shoes, not some sort of fruit shoes, though I can see the funny side now.
Thanks mners you have made me see the funny side after all.
Perhaps it was the thought of spending nearly £20 to err look around a field and fiend some eggs that made me a bit irrational.

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GilbertandGeorge · 09/04/2012 01:04

I have just snorted at that link and am trying to be quiet in bed!!

Metabilis3 · 09/04/2012 01:06

I went out today (well, yesterday) in a cardigan. And in ugg style boots (fake man-made ones). And I certainly have a face for radio. :( I didn't go to a stately home though.

iscream · 09/04/2012 01:08

Your dd may (probably) took the woman's look the wrong way.
I remember in school a girl came up to me and aggressively announced she was going to get me after school for the "dirty look" I gave her or her friend, (I forget now). I actually did not have my glasses on and probably was squinting, as I had no idea who she or her friend were and certainly had not ever given her a "dirty look".

The face could have been anything, a muscle spasm, whatever. You never know.
I doubt she'd be making faces at your dd though, your dd sounds like she was decent looking, why would that concern this woman?

TheNightIsDarkAndFullOfTerrors · 09/04/2012 01:13

I know what Pineapple is and I am glad to see that older children still covet it. I put in four evenings a week and all weekend as a teen, dancing, and didn't own a single Pineapple item because after all the dancing fees / shoes / costumes, the budget was seriously depleted.

At the age of thirty I bought a Pineapple vest-top which I barely wore and my 11 yo now wears and loves wearing it to class.

Rhinosaurus · 09/04/2012 01:17

I'm more interested in how you got a teen to go out with mum and grannie, visit a stately home, and go on an Easter egg hunt?

I can imagine the response my kevins teens would give if I suggested it. Share your secret!

Babylon1 · 09/04/2012 01:22

Oof!!! Get a grip love!! Grin

TheNightIsDarkAndFullOfTerrors · 09/04/2012 01:24

My 11 yo was great at Woburn for the Hmm faces especially when she quizzed the guides about HOW the abbey had, well, been stolen and then became a house. We had to whizz round.

"But these children don't look any different to us. Why should they expect to own all this land and these paintings and this house and be so privileged? What makes them so special?"

All said in front of staid suited and pussy-cat-bowed bloused Thatcher lookalikes who were in every bloody room.

Metabilis3 · 09/04/2012 01:38

@thenight great name Grin Save us from the scary things. Grin

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