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to still be crying over my cat 3 days after it was run over.

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DollysDrawers · 05/04/2012 08:26

I know it's just a cat. I know that, thank God, it wasn't a child. I know I'm 'being a bit pathetic' as my very nice friend tells me. BUT he was my little pal and I loved him and I'm gutted that the kids and I saw him being run over and that the car didn't even stop. The children are devastated beyond words and a bit traumatised too. I had to go and pick him off the road. Thank God it was instant but we loved him and I miss him. Sad

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DeepPurple · 05/04/2012 08:28

Awww how sad for you all. YANBU to be upset.

everlong · 05/04/2012 08:29

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boschy · 05/04/2012 08:29

of course you are not BU - poor kitty, poor kids and poor you.

WhatWouldFreddieDo · 05/04/2012 08:30

YADNBU Sad Course you're upset - I don't think it's pathetic at all. So sorry, especially as you all saw it AND the b*** didn't stop.

So (((()))) and sweet tea and talking about it with your kids.

Garliccheesechips · 05/04/2012 08:30

YADNBU

Horrible and traumatic experience. And the cat was a family member.
And if the kids are upset, doesn't it follow that you will be upset because they're upset?
Your 'very nice' friend, isn't, IMO.

Liskey · 05/04/2012 08:30

Of course not! Their not "just" cats their part of the family and its only natural to grieve!

CailinDana · 05/04/2012 08:30

Did your friend really say you were being pathetic? What a nasty thing to say! Has she never had a pet? They're part of the family, it's totally normal to mourn them when they die. In fact I would think it was weird if you weren't upset when he isn't even dead a week. I cried my heart out when my little cat went missing for two days. I was glad to see her come back though I did curse her dirty stop out ways too :)

Dustinthewind · 05/04/2012 08:31

You are not pathetic at all, one of the things about pets is the unconditional love between you with very few demands, I will miss our elderly fluffbag when he does and it will take a lot longer than a week to stop missing him and grieving for him.
If you want to talk with other cat people who will understand exactly what you mean, post in 'The littter tray' section.

Animation · 05/04/2012 08:31

Perfectly normal I would say.

I was surprised how much I cried when my cat got run over. I must have cried for a full week.

NarkedPuffin · 05/04/2012 08:31

Your 'very nice' friend isn't being very nice at all. He was a living creature who was a part of your life, not a an object that's replaceable. Of course you're still very upset. I'm so sorry you saw it happen.

((Hugs))

Sparklingbrook · 05/04/2012 08:32

Oh Dollys that is horrible. It would be awful if you found your cat had been hit by a car but to actually see it. Sad

It will take longer than 3 days to get over it.. Hugs to you and your DC. x

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DollysDrawers · 05/04/2012 08:32

I've had him 18 years since he was tiny so he's been with me prior to DH, the children and half of my friends! He was very handsome too!

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Dustinthewind · 05/04/2012 08:33

And yes, it's not a child but that isn't relevant to your situation. It's not as if it was a choice between cat or child.
Your friend was being unpleasant and thoughtless.

NarkedPuffin · 05/04/2012 08:34

18 years? What kind of person would you be if you weren't still very upset three days later? Stupid friend.

MissMogwi · 05/04/2012 08:34

You aren't being pathetic at all. How horrible to lose your pet and to see him run over as well.
Any 'friend' of mine that said I was being pathetic over such a thing would get told to go forth and multiply.

Threeprinces · 05/04/2012 08:34

No YAcertainlyNBU, unless you've had a cat you'd never realise how much a part of the family they can be. I and my kids would be exactly the same.

We have two cats, one of whom was on death's door suddenly a couple of years ago but thankfully recovered. All the time he was in the vets on a drip we couldn't help thinking about what if? And it was a devastating thought as he's always with us.

The friend who said you're being a bit pathetic clearly hasn't got pets. And the fact that you all saw the poor cat run over is really traumatic. I really feel for you all.

Jolyonsmummy · 05/04/2012 08:35

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LumpyLatimer · 05/04/2012 08:36

I would be crying weeks later. My purr baby is my best pal even if she does shred my toes every morning

You poor things, I'm so sorry Sad

puds11 · 05/04/2012 08:36

my rabbit died when i was 12, im still sad about it at 24, so no i dont think your pathetic at all! (maybe i am though!)

Sparklingbrook · 05/04/2012 08:37

18 years. Shock That's a very long time.

bishboschone · 05/04/2012 08:38

I would be absolutely devastated if I had seen it happen . I adore my cats and they are very much part of the family . How awful for you and your kids . I had a horse from age 11 for 25 years . When I had to have her put down ( shot , horrific) . I was in peices. A ' friend ' kindly pointed out it was just a horse .. Hhmmm , we don't see each other much now , I just couldn't get over such cruelty when I was so upset anyway .

EightiesChick · 05/04/2012 08:38

Your friend has not been nice at all. The death of a much loved pet is going to be upsetting for quite a while. Don't feel in any way 'pathetic'. I am really sorry. Sad

melika · 05/04/2012 08:40

YANBU it is very sad and traumatic. Best cure is get another one soon.

helpyourself · 05/04/2012 08:40

Your friend isn't being nice and YANBU- 18 years is longer than most relationships.

In time you will be grateful to have had him and his end was so swift- but it must be very painful now.

Cutelittlecatlover · 05/04/2012 08:42

Yanbu at all, sorry for your loss Sad

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