my friend gets a real bee in his bonnet about so called middle class neglect and parents "outsourcing" all their parenting to teachers, nannies, nursery etc.
this week his gripe was that children go to school without knowing how to use a knife and fork and his aunt who was a headmistress at a primary school said to him that without fail every year there were a number of children in reception who couldn't use anything other than a spoon to eat.
AIBU to think this really isn't a big deal, my DD1 is just 5 and is still getting to grips with a knife, I tend to still cut a lot of her food up for her, I do lay her a knife and fork at mealtimes but she tends to use the fork a bit like a spoon. I haven't particularly pushed the need to hold her knife and fork properly on the basis that she will get there eventually...she can use a knife to spread things like butter on bread, the fact she isn't using both her knife and fork competently yet really isn't something I lose sleep over.