to go mad at this dad who is about to drop my daughter off - need quick responces

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My dd best friend at school has the 2 slackest parents NEVER see the mother not even sports day etc and the dad is ok.
Anyway I do alot of running around with best friend and really go out of my way taking her to activities etc (really for the girls sake not for the parents!)
Anyway I just found out a couple of days ago from dd that when the dad recently took both girls to the cinema he just left them - they are 7!!
I told my DH to deal with it (they are sort of friends/aqaintences)
Anyway both dads just dropped girls at brownies and dh spoke to the dad who said he waited outside and read his book but was there.
I am not sure this is true but even if it is I think really he should be in the actual cinema with them as you never know who's about?
AIBU??
now the dad is heading over with my dd from brownies so what shall I say to him?
Knew my bloody dh would cock it up!!

I think 7 is too young too - 10 would be ok with me. I think they should have run it past you first really and seen what you were comfortable with. I think they made too many presumptions.

yes yes but op thinks they slack parents
so tbh what he'll was she thinking
in fact op is slack choosing to leave dd with known flakes
was op off gallivanting?

Scottishmummy - I agree. I asked that further up thread and haven't had a reply

Well as long as she wasn't reading a book, I'm sure she can be forgiven.

willful neglect?

And it's easy to get time off work to go to these things, is it?

I may get 13 completely undeserved weeks off (see the other thread that is annoying me this evening), but I cannot get to bloody sports day.

I cannot go to any event during the day. I would imagine for the same reason as ER...

7 is too young to be left without adult supervision in a Cinema imo.
I don't blame you for being cross about it. No point in saying anything else though, until your dd goes somewhere with him again, then make it clear you don't want her to be left anywhere unsupervised.

As for the sports day thing, I always try my best to attend School events, as it means alot to my dc's. If I can't, then I feel really bad about it. I too would think it strange to never see the Mother at School events.

Oh and to answer the original question, I wouldn't be happy if someone left my seven year old unaccompanied in a cinema, because he would be really annoying for the rest of the people trying to watch the film!

Fluffy - it means a lot to my children too. What do you suggest I do - give up my job?

outside the door of the room with the seats, like in the foyer? or outside the building on the street/car?

Endoplasmic - no of course not, but many School events are in the evenings/weekends too. Most people don't work 24/7 do they?

as I said I've never been to sports day
never mind the precious moments mammies can tell me how crestfallen my dc looked

Very few school events out of school hours at my boys' small village primary. There is very much an assumption that mummy doesn't work.

Fluffy - what would you have suggested I do then, last night, as single parent with no family support, when there was an event at the school to which children were not invited?

most school events in school time
PTA clique meet during day,then moan no working parents participate
there is some Saturday morning events (2/3 year)

Op-YANBU about leaving 7 year olds in the cinema alone, I too think it is too young.
I would do like Fluffypillow suggests.

Okay setting aside the 'sports day' dig and reactions...

It wouldn't have occurred to me to ask whether the parent was staying with two seven year olds at a cinema...would have assumed they were...!

And would have been shocked to find out otherwise.

But that's just me!

Learn something new every day!

But if you knew they were "slack" wouldn't you ask?

is that to me? No, it still wouldn't have occurred to me that anyone would be 'that slack' with a seven year old.

I would now though.

Putting it this way - not on the basis of them not turning up for a sports day. I guess it would depend on what other 'evidence' there was.

When my children were 15 and 13 I took them to an early evening screening of a U film, got their tickets for them, popcorn, sweets and drinks, and went for a meal with my partner in the restaurant next door to the cinema. My children had been taking themselves to the cinema via the tram for more than a year with their friends, albeit in the daytime. I told them to ring me when the film finished and to wait in the foyer for me. Instead I got the irate manager on the phone, berating me for leaving my children as it was against Vue's policy to allow under 16s to an evening screening without an adult present.

My stepdaughter was "fiddled" with by a man in the cinema when she was about 7/8, and she was sat next to her dad at the time.
My daughter went to the cinema when she was about 16 with some friends, and the girls behind started making a lot of noise and laughing... when my dd looked behind to see what all the noise was about she saw one of the girls urinating on the floor.
I've been in the cinema with a friend with only two other people at the screening, so anything untoward happening would not necessarily be noticed.
So unpleasant things can happen in the cinema and I don't think that two 7yos should be left unsupervised....