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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to be slightly uncomfortable with my friend posting a video of their 1yo ds in the bath on fb?

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 20:34

Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable about this? He is v cute and you can't see any of his bits, as he is in a baby bath seat thing. But I still felt a little weird about it being posted on the internet. AIBU to feel this way? Should I voice my feelings to the parents?

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 21:55

LentillyFart, yes it is real and yes I am v stupid. :(

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 21:56

That face is a little too sad though, I'm not really that upset. I've always known I'm stupid so it's normal. :)

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Salmotrutta · 01/04/2012 21:56

Overlooked by who Gem?

Have you reason to suspect your neighbours?

formerdiva · 01/04/2012 21:58

Gem, I'm saying this nicely. You have issues. There is nothing wrong with a naked child. It's natural, it's normal.

Now I'm going to bed before this turns into a "pedal round every corner" thread.

formerdiva · 01/04/2012 21:59

peado, not pedal. Bloody iPad!

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 22:00

I don't know my neighbours. We had the paddling pool out one day and the kids couldn't wait to get in it and got in nude. The mum of 1 of the other kids asked me if I knew my neighbours and I said no and she said we'd best be careful, we don't know who's looking. So I thought that was how everyone felt about it. I'm being enlightened now that it's ok to post pics of your kids in the bath on the internet and let them run around naked on the beach. I did not realise this was ok before.

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 22:00

Thanks formerdiva. :)

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TotemPole · 01/04/2012 22:01

diva, those bloody pedals get everywhere.

LoveHandles88 · 01/04/2012 22:22

I will not put pics of my dc on the internet at all. When they're old enough to decide for themselves what they want plastered of themselves, they can.

Salmotrutta · 01/04/2012 22:30

Just wanted to add - I do not use facebook or any other social networking sites.
I sometimes share the odd special photo (e.g. weddings) via e-mail, to certain family members, but that is it.

However, this is not because I think a paedophile lurks on every corner BUT because I dislike the idea of "instant" postings/opinions/messages on social networking sites that can be viewed by many people.
Once you have posted something - even if you then delete after second thoughts - it's in your digital footprint.

BerryCheesecake · 01/04/2012 22:56

YABU

SaveTheEmpire · 01/04/2012 23:21

My dd recently sat up unsupported for the first time. I was delighted and reached for my phone to take a pic of her (and only her) to show dh later. Unfortunately, we were at a baby group and I was swiftly told in no uncertain terms that photography was forbidden

waited til the photo police weren't looking and took a few snaps anyway

But that is properly bonkers.

perceptionreality · 01/04/2012 23:25

YABU - how silly.

Getbusywiththefizzy · 01/04/2012 23:29

I put an old picture on FaceBook of MYSELF naked as a tot in a baby bath outside (purely because a bee landed on my nose just as Mum took the pic and it's hilarious).

If a paedophile wants to get aroused by kids, he can get aroused by pics of them in shorts and a t-shirt. OP, am a bit worried about how easily influenced by others words and opinions you seem to be. Surely you could work out for yourself that seeing a baby in a bath or paddling pool is normal and fine? Not being nasty, it just seems strange that you couldn't/can't.

AwkwardMary · 01/04/2012 23:36

Odd post on the back of your earlier "paddling/spanking the kids" one.

TheSecondComing · 01/04/2012 23:46

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MadameMessy · 01/04/2012 23:57

My uncle just put up hilarious ones of me and my sister and three of our cousins in the bath together we're all sitting down so you can't see anything. But they are lovely pictures to see, I never would have if they weren't on the internet, and even though we span 3 continents now, we can have a fairly instant giggle at the pictures all together.
Don't make something of a picture if there's nothing to be made of.

As a teen, I worked with pixiphoto btw, and apparently the naked rule was up to 23 months

Spero · 02/04/2012 00:15

I was in the park a few summers ago and a little girl was running around without her top on. ok, she wasn't that little but she was clearly a CHILD, she had no breasts, it was hot, she was running around, she was free and happy, it was a joy to see her.

There appeared to be a complete absence of men in macs wanking furiously at the sight of her but there were two mothers sitting nearby, with two miserable toddlers strapped into prams who were spitting absolute venom and saying it was 'disgusting' and 'shouldn't be allowed'.

I WISH I had had the courage to say something to them about their stupid narrow mindedness and maybe suggest their own children would have been happier running around with a few less clothes on, but they were frankly scary so I didn't.

I think it is desperately sad that people have these strange ideas about naked children. They are not sexual. They are children. I let my daughter run around showing her bottom to the world because I wanted her to enjoy some freedom before she too gets taken over by this insane sexual prudery masquerading as 'common sense' which seems to have taken over the world.

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Gemtubbs · 02/04/2012 07:58

Getbusywiththefizzy, I am too easily influenced by other people's words and ideas. I am being influenced now and see that there's nothing wrong with kids in the bath on the internet and that I was just being over worried. But, if I came on here and said "I just put a video of my ds in the bath on the internet" and all the mums on here told me that I shouldn't be doing that, I would take the video down. I guess that I just want to be acceptable. I'm sorry that I ever brought it up.

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Gemtubbs · 02/04/2012 08:02

Awkward Mary, why is it odd? I was absolutely disgusted by that and it still makes me feel so sick. I was told about a documentary about people on death row, a murderer described his own abusive upbringing. His father would discipline his kids by putting a sack over their head and getting their brothers and sisters to whip and beat them. If the other brothers and sisters did not do it, they themselves would be beaten by the father. Nobody with that childhood can grow up normal. I bet a lot of people on death row had abusive childhoods.

This is just an innocent video of a baby happily splashing in the bath, and now after chatting on here, I realise that there's nothing wrong with posting that on the internet.

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Happenstance · 02/04/2012 08:05

Well my parents are on facebook so i have all the embarrassing photos on the internet, doesn't bother me in the least, people seem more interested in laughing at my dads freddie mercury tash than saying anything about me poseing it up infront of the camera at the age of 18 months.

lovebunny · 02/04/2012 08:12

you are quite right to be concerned. its an intimate situation which only a family need see. shows how far society has degenerated that you got such a negative response to your original post. however, i wouldn't tell the parents. there are few people of discernment left in the world, and posting their precious baby on the internet is enough to prove that they are not in that number.

Spero · 02/04/2012 08:25

So if we had all been posting in the lovebunny vein, you would agree with her?

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Gemtubbs · 02/04/2012 08:45

Maybe yeah.

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Gemtubbs · 02/04/2012 08:48

Saying that I now think that there's nothing wrong with it if people want to post videos of their kids in the bath or let them run naked on the beach. It's up to them. I won't be posting any videos of my kids in the bath, because I don't think it's necessary and maybe I should let them be old enough to decide for themselves what personal photos/videos they want people to see. A lot of people are saying that they have posted pics of themselves as children on line and see that it's ok. I think that it's a little different to decide for yourselves as an adult looking at the past, rather than parents posting pics of their kids who are too young to make a decision for themselves.

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