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Original poster

to be slightly uncomfortable with my friend posting a video of their 1yo ds in the bath on fb?

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 20:34

Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable about this? He is v cute and you can't see any of his bits, as he is in a baby bath seat thing. But I still felt a little weird about it being posted on the internet. AIBU to feel this way? Should I voice my feelings to the parents?

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Chubfuddler · 01/04/2012 21:05

Have you been reading the Daily Mail? Or even worse, The Express? You seem to gave some very strange ideas which border on the prurient about naked children. Have a think about that.

ABatInBunkFive · 01/04/2012 21:05

bollocks

TheLaineyWayIsEssex · 01/04/2012 21:08

Yab more U reasonable than almost anyone on here ever

TheLaineyWayIsEssex · 01/04/2012 21:08

*unreasonable

cheesesarnie · 01/04/2012 21:08

only if the photo is indecent! omg seriously?how do you think we took all those 'embarressing' bath snaps pre digital.

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 21:09

It's just what I hear people say sometimes. I do in part blame the media for making people feel uncomfortable. I know guys that won't watch their kids go swimming or playing in the park. They feel as though people will look at them funny, or accuse them of being a pervert. A guy standing alone watching kids swim and play, just innocent. It's nice to watch children playing. But they feel like people will think the worst if they see that. It's very sad really.

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Stratters · 01/04/2012 21:10

No Mrsjay definitely not. Grin

cheesesarnie · 01/04/2012 21:10

oh and p.s when i worked developing photos it had to be pretty bloody awful to get passed on to police.

Chubfuddler · 01/04/2012 21:13

Get to know some different people then. The ones you know sound weird.

TheLaineyWayIsEssex · 01/04/2012 21:14

Think for yourself

Hth

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 21:18

Thanks TheLaineyWayIsEssex. It does. :) I wish that I could. I never even knew what a paedophile was when I was at school. Never heard of anything like it in my life and it never crossed my mind that anyone could ever view children in the wrong way. But suddenly, they were all over the news all of the time, and then I'd hear people talking about that you can't take pictures of your kids any more. I tried to take a photo of my ds playing at the soft play centre, we were literally the only ones in there and I wasn't taking a photo of any one else's child. I was told that I wasn't allowed to take pictures. Why wasn't I allowed to take pictures of my ds playing? Why am I not allowed to take pictures of my ds swimming?

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 21:20

I hear all these crazy rules about what is and isn't allowed these days and I get confused and don't know who to believe. And then I start to doubt my self about whether my friend should be posting videos of her kid in the bath or not. Of course I personally don't see anything wrong with it and it was lovely and cute to see him happily splashing in the bath, but I wondered what would other people think and then I felt uncomfortable. It's sad that I feel this way.

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cheesesarnie · 01/04/2012 21:24

it is sad gem but dont beat yourself up about it.Smile

swimming pool and soft play probably have no photo policy to protect other dc so even if you were only ones there they cant break the rules.

stop being so hard on yourself and try to enjoy being a parent.

how old is your dc?

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 21:29

Thanks cheesesarnie. :) We have ds4 and ds 7 months. You?

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TotemPole · 01/04/2012 21:35

How would you feel about embarrassing baby videos of yourself being posted on the internet?

I'm obviously in the minority. I wouldn't like images(embarrassing or not) of me as a baby put on the internet.

There's a big difference between showing visitors family snaps and putting them up on the internet where people can easily take copies. I don't mean for dodgy reasons. There was a time when a photo only had 1 or 2 prints and negative/original.

The concepts of privacy and personal life seem to be disappearing.

Salmotrutta · 01/04/2012 21:38

The world has gorn maaad!

Does anyone else remember the Julia Somerville (BBC journalist) story?

Film processor reported her (and/or her DH?) when they were getting naked baby bath photos developed? It was all thrown out of court IIRC.

Every child (practically) of my generation ran about in the nuddy on hot days/at bath time until we were about 5.
And nude baby photos were de rigeur.

Chubfuddler · 01/04/2012 21:40

The world hasn't gone mad. The kind of people stupid enough to confuse a paediatrician and a paedophile just have too much attention paid to them. That is all.

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 21:41

Do people these days let their kids run around in the nuddy on a hot day? Do you mean running around in public? I wouldn't let mine do that.

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Salmotrutta · 01/04/2012 21:47

Not in public places Gem Hmm - I meant garden etc.

I agree Chub - it's a bit depressing.

foreverondiet · 01/04/2012 21:49

Why uncomfortable if you can't see his bits?

TheLaineyWayIsEssex · 01/04/2012 21:49

I would, as long as plenty of sun cream on. Perfectly normal to be naked.
How awful to be brought up covered up constantly. A way to breed a more paranoid repressed generation

TheLaineyWayIsEssex · 01/04/2012 21:50

What is wrong with children being naked on a beach?
Should women cover up on the beach in case a rapist is nearby?

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Gemtubbs · 01/04/2012 21:51

Our garden is v overlooked, so I still would put clothes on the children.

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Mrskbpw · 01/04/2012 21:54

My friend posted a photo of her breastfeeding her baby the other day - both naked, in the bath. I have no prob with naked baby pics. And def no prob with breastfeeding pics. But I've seen waaaay too much of her now...

LentillyFart · 01/04/2012 21:54

I absolutely refuse to believe this is real. Nobody is that stupid surely? Are they?