to think she had no right to ask me if i was hoping it was a yes!!

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I was in the chemist buy a pregnancy test earlier. The lady behide the counter was taking ages. When I finally got there the lady behide me asked "are you hoping for yes" . I didnt quite know what to say, the shop was fairly busy. I just replied I wasnt sure how i feel.
TBH, I know how I feel, I am scarced and really dont think a baby is a good thing for us at all right now.
I would never abort a baby, but know we run huge risks of a child with SN. That added to current situation means, its really not a good thing.
If you have worked out who I am, please please dont out me :(

The test is negative but im late and feeling very sick :(

I would never ever ask anyone that question, would you?

Like a motherly sort of woman, someone who would make a lovely mother. The type of person you would love to see with children and babies.

Cotes please refrain from calling me names simply because i was young and perhaps inconsiderate in my well meaning. Its quite unnecessary and unpleasant

Pink I was thinking that. Someone who looks nice and friendly.

Still a bit thoughtless though!

The best I got from a chemist when buying a pregnancy test was "I hope you get the result you want."

YANBU she had no right to ask you, but I really doubt it was meant in a nasty way. She was a bit thoughtless, that's all. If I were you I'd try really hard not to be offended/upset/bothered because it's not worth it for a kindly, but thoughtless stranger in the chemist.

Maybe think over the things you've said without it thinking it through? There must be something, we've all done it...

I think it was quite intrusive , I wouldnt but probs didnt mean any harm

People are like that though, they want to connect and make conversations with other people. When I went in for my second ERPC there was a lady in the waiting room who was quite elderly and very sweet and asked 'are you here because of a baby?' It was a killer and DH asked to be moved to a different waiting room. But it wasn't her fault, she was just interested and trying to find common ground with us. Don't be angry OP, you may as easily as been thrilled that you were buying a test and wanted to share it with someone

Allthat, wasn't aimed at you, genuinely sorry if it came across that way! Sorry.

YANBU. I'm sure she meant well but I consider it to be completely unprofessional
and inappropriate. Hope you're ok btw.

I had to pick up a test for a friend the other week and i got a right funny look with three of my own kids and one of someone elses....

Ha sorry Back fire of inflection... See OP.. Prime example of misread intentions!

that last sentence was bollocks from a grammatical POV!

not every pregnancy is wanted 189,574 abortions where carried out in 2010

source

not every pregnany is created in a loving relationship.

if people want to make conversation, talk about the weather

As a third party - I can quite understand why you are a bit sensitive about this, OP. But on the other hand - the stranger was trying to be nice, make conversation etc. I am sure no malice was intended so fail to see why so many have to decry her motives. Don't people TALK to each other anymore?

Trois I think you should consider a break from mumsnet for a bit, as it's obviously getting under your skin and you're upsetting people wherever you go.

At the risk of getting my arse kicked, allgood I think she's not quite herself at the moment.

Anyhow, YANBU to wish she hadn't said anything. She is probably a bit lot mortified at saying something to you, I would have been!

Re. the cashier thing - I read a great book recently about some who spent 6 months working for Sainsburys. Do you know they are TOLD to engage with the customers - and can be sacked/marked down if they are seen not to do so. They have to try their bloody hardest to chat to the customer - though they don't know them, and really have no natural starting social queues....So when they make some inane comment about your groceries - their job/bonus could depend on that, and how you respond,

miss thinking the same myself.. Intended as kick in the bum rather than a kick whilst down.

OP imvho you were /are being over sensitive perhaps with cause, but as a wider note perhaps the incredulous-ness is cover for your SN anxiety rather than true upset?

What on earth goes on in your mind, troisgarcons? I've never in all my internet days come across anyone so completely lacking in human kindness or sensitivity.

Actually I am kind and I am sensitive IRL but I never cease to be amazed on this forum, and this forum alone with the level of hissy-fit-edness that pervades. She/she looked me the wrong way, she/she said something I dont understand.

I cant understand why the Op is having a complete melt down because someone spoke to them in public - about a public thing they bought over the counter.

"are you hoping for yes" is not akin to asking if shes been dangling from the chandeliers, dogging, swinging, playing Daisy - its a warm and genuine enquiry.