To tell this mum to bugger off

[Midnightmoon]

or something along those lines.
I went to pick up Dd1 from school today, I had Dd2 in the buggy and Ds holding the back 'helping'. We were waiting outside and one mum came up to me and started talking. I had never really seen her before though I'd heard she was a gossip, I thought I'd give her the benefit of the doubt as I didn't know her. She had a Ds around the same age as mine and both Dss went off to the playground which is enclosed and we could see them both.
She asked me if I had the car, I said 'Oh No walking today, I'm on ML so we have been walking when it doesn't rain'. She asked where I worked and why I had to use the car. I explained that if I didn't use the car I wouldn't be able to reach the school in time to get Dd.
She asked did we have internet in our house. I said yes, she told me how evil it was.
She asked why my Ds was running around 'so much' (He was running just like her son and like most 2 year olds) so I said he was just playing. She said its because your son has ADHD. I just said well yes he has it but he was just being a normal child. I asked who told her that. she said 'oh around' and shrugged. She then blamed it all on Tv and sugar. Which her children don't even ask for anymore.
She asked where my Dh was. I said he was working. She said 'well if you are a single mum it's okay to share I won't judge and your kids are clean not like X's mum' I said I didn't want too know about X's mum and I wasn't a single mum so it didn't matter anyway.
She asked how old my Dd1 was so I told her she was five and she said oh you must of been young when you had her. She then went on to say but you had a Ds before that didn't you so you were a teenage mother.
I said that was none of her business. She asked if my Dh was the dad too all my Dc's then. I said yes he was and then moved away from her.
She tried too follow me and when she caught up asked
So what happened to your first Ds then, he died didn't he.
I told her too go away as I was not talking about my personal life with her.
She said Oh well it must be a hard thing to talk about. Should I get you a number for a therapist.
The children then came out so I collected Dd1 and Ds and left.
Dh thinks I should of told her to go to hell.
So should I next time?

You were very good I probably would have lamped her then blamed hormones. She is either a cow or on the social inept spectrum.

Hooo yes. Tell her that but sprinkle it with fucks.

What an insensitive cowbag.

Wow, that behaviour sounds outside the normal range to me. Not sure you can tell her to f off, but if you get caught in conversation and she over steps again I would very frostily, and with great dignity say "did you mean for that to sound so rude?" and then walk off with DCs.

Don't tell her to bugger off, tell her to fuck off.

Yes. Gossips are sad lonely people. You are sensible to steer clear.

Tell her to mind her own fucking business I know I know it's not that easy.

She'll only speak negatively about you to others anyway by the sounds of it, may as well give her a reason.

Your DH is right! Sounds like you've had a hell of a time with your little ones, who the fuck is she to come sticking her nose in in such a rude insensitive manner? Tell her to get her own therapist!

YANBU at all! God, she sounds a bit mental!

She sounds like a horror. I would tell her some totally outlandish lies about myself and snigger as she repeated them to others.

Absolutely what Astrid said. No, wait a minute, tell her to fuck off twat.

what a weird woman!

Yes you should just tell her that she is being exeptionally rude. I wouldn't lower myself to swear in the playground and it might backfire on you.

Are you saying that your 2 year old has already been diagnosed with ADHD?

Wow, she sounds really rude, like serious issues rude.

That is extremely peculiar behaviour. I would just avoid avoid avoid, no conflict but I'd be seriously avoiding. She sounds a bit, well, not right in the head.

You were polite and courteous in the face of a fruit cake well done.

Tell her to fuck off to the far side of fuck... She sounds just like someone i used to know nosey arse hole. The comment regarding your deceased ds would of made me violent, you are a saint

really, she sounds totally unhinged.

Doesn't sound like a gossip.
Sounds a little 'strange'.
Possibly best avoided?

Please do so if she imposes on you again, but try to keep away from her. What an insensitive cow! Hope you're ok, OP.

She sounds like a mentalist and therefore abused your good nature completely when you remained incredibly polite. Kudos to you, shame on her! Actually the more I read back over your post I don't know how you didn't tell her to fuck off to far side of etc.

Crazy as fuck, or with serious socialisation issues....

Next time she tries this, I'd tell her that she is making you feel uncomfortable and that you perceive her behaviour as very rude.

If she is just plain crazy then it won't make any difference, but if she seriously thinks this is an ok way to talk then she really needs to be told it isn't.

And well done on being so polite!!

Fuck off you nosy bitch is a complete sentence. (and is what I would have said, you have the patience of a saint and seem to have been very gracious, much more than I would have been with her)

She sounds unhinged frankly, rather than a gossip.
Avoid in future, strenuously.

i am shocked at what strangers will asked