Not to make my children change out of school uniform after school

[gingerfrizz]

I've never made them and they've never bothered, and it seems to be the same with many of their friends too. With 5 kids it saves on washing too.

The 3 youngest girls will happily play in the garden or go on playdates after school; the only time it's been an issue is at softplay where they have to take ties off for H&S reasons.

The elder 2 girls will go out with friends after school or if home, will either do homework or slob around and don't seem bothered, often won't even take shoes or blazers off.

Odd, or the norm?

I would feel very uncomfortable wearing my work clothes at home, and I always just asumed my sons would rather be dressed in jeans & T shirts at home than school clothes. We have always had pets so school uniforms got covered in dog hairs from rolling round floor with dog if they did not change.

dd yera 4 takes her tie of and changes into trainers/skates rest of uniform stays on and just fresh every moring

my DD stays in her uniform to hang around the house or play outside as she has a full clean uniform everyday, if we were going somewhere particular i would change her if we came home first, my mum used to make me and my 3 sisters change straight away but only because didn't have enough uniforms to last all week without washing everyday xx

Gingerfrizz Everything on and worn properly.

I just don't care about clothes or washing enough to care tbh

I really don't get this "lazy" thing tbh.

If your uniform is ££ I can understand why you'd want your dc to change out of it in the evening, esp if they're going out to play. Our uniform is bog standard grey/white stuff ex M&S plus a school logoed sweatshirt. Cheaper than the other stuff I buy and we have plenty of it. DD1 stays in it and if it's clean, it does another day. If she muckies it up after school then no problem, no difference between a dirty school jumper and a dirty civvy one. DD1 is a fairly tidy person so trousers/sweaters can last a few days. DD2 otoh will be a clean jumper every day type I think.

I don't change my clothes when we get home. Does that make me extra lazy?

My friend had SS involved, and they told her it was neglect to not change your children after school and she got a telling off for it!

DD always comes home with the contents of her lucnch displayed on her jumper (she can usually keep cardigans clean for longer) she is 5 and ds 7 so as they are not usually out and about after school except for after school clubs and occasional visits to friends. I change them if they are playing in garden unless their clothes are already v dirty (what would the point be of getting another set of clothes dirty?).

I only put them in pjs if they are getting changed anyway as I don't see the point of multiple costume changes per day (they are not Madonna).

I could not care less if that is considered lazy. I consider it hideously wasteful to have 2 showers a day and I have plenty of washing without adding to it.

When I was at high school and wearing a hideous (and expensive purchased from a special shop) bottle green uniform then yes I changed as soon as I got home. Today things are different.

Everything is neglect once SS become involved, best to avoid it.

blackaffronted - blimey that is hugely excessive and so big brother! How things have changed - What about when people had about three sets of clothes and that included sunday best. That is such a warped view of 'neglect' I am shocked. Smelly, unloved, dirty, that is neglect....

LeQueen you'd probably loose your children for answering back, they don't like that.

My dd changes out of hers immediately whereas ds couldn't care less. If they are still clean without yoghurty/snotty/painted sleeves I tell them to save their jumpers for the next day but that is very rare. I can't wait for the warmer weather when jumpers are cast aside and they just need shirts and bottoms. I struggle to keep them in clean jumpers and have resorted to spot cleaning with baby wipes before now :o

There were obvioulsy other issues, but that was one on their list that shocked me! Childrens rights or some such. Also, having toys stuffed under the bed (not in boxes) was another thing she was pulled up about. Seems so petty!

As I said best to avoid them altogether but then the likes of you and I could be beating our children daily but because we live in a nice big house and attend a nice school we'd never be caught out. That's ceratinly the impression I get.

bigmouthstrikesagain -I don't see the point of multiple costume changes per day (they are not Madonna.

Quite!

There's no absolutes here though are they? For SS to suggest it was neglect to allow your children to stay in uniform is ridiculous.

The reasonability, or otherwise, of the situation depends entirely on what your children do after school, how old they are, how cheap (in comparison to their other clothes) the uniform is, how mucky they are when they come home from school and how much washing you are prepared to do. There's no single circumstance that makes it right or wrong.

If SS get involved whenever a dc isn't changed out of uniform of an evening, most of our children would be in care now it would seem.

I suspect that a) it isn't true or b) there was more to it than that.

If LeQueen doesn't change her children then I'm sure I must be ok

As for childrens' rights, my eldest 2 are 11 and 14. If I made them change they'd probably have a go at me about their rights then! Seems I can't win.

After all, a mother's place is in the wrong.

My son is 11. The first thing he does is fling take off his uniform within 5 minutes of getting in, gets into comfy joggers and is off out on his scooter till tea is ready. He wears it again if it's clean or not if grubby or creased. He does get a clean shirt every day.

Used to make them change when they were younger, but being they have fresh shirt every day, not really bothered now.

Would definately make them change if going elsewhere, playing out etc.