To stop TTC in March to avoid a Christmas baby?

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According to the due date calculator on MN, my next due date (if we were to conceve this month) would be 23rd December.

We started trying for DC2 a couple of months ago and agreed we'd have a break in March. I feel a Christmas birthday must be a bit rubbish for a child. But then I do want a baby as early in the academic year as possible. Also, once you're on the ttc train, it seems a bit weird to get off for a month...

WWYD?

YANBU I have a Christmas birthday and it's absolutely shit. Don't think I've ever had a cake!

But on the other hand nature/conception is not something you can take for granted so you can't assume you can control when it happens! Although I wish you plenty of luck of course!

DS was due 25/12, born a week early, 18/12. It's worked out fine, we get him t gifts rather than just one, (the jewish side of the family just get him a bday present obviously).
Being in the PN ward that close to christmas was a bit grim though.

No, sounds like good planning, we chose when would be good to have a baby and aimed for that, took 5 m but worked out great (am a teacher and wanted mat pay to start after summer hol)
Use the month to do fun stuff with no pressure - enjoy!

When we first started TTC I was concious of star signs and all-sorts but 10 months on I won't be stopping!

I agree that a Christmas birthday is not ideal but my concern was more around what support services would be like around the holiday period for birth, post natal etc... I know that it should be the same but I work in the NHS and am constantly reviewing stats about outcomes at weekends and out of hours which do not give me confidence!!

In desperation though we are continuing TTC as sods law says it will happen when I least wanted it to but my EDD would be about 5th Jan so not quite Christmas!

Do whatever is right for you, your family and the new baby :) Good Luck!

I've never really considered birth days when TTC, I'm more of a "whatever will be" person really. It was only because we took so long to conceive DC1 that I got knowledgeable about my fertile times (though I weirdly didn't conceive within a time I thought I was fertile!)

I had a Christmas due date last year. DD was born early on December 6th. It was absolutely LOVELY having a newborn at Christmas, and it felt very very special indeed. I would carry on TTC.

My brother was due the end of February and arrived at Christmas time - you can't plan it all down to the finest detail.

That being said, YANBU to try and plan the family that you want to have. Have this month off if it will make you happy :)

YANBU. Dd1's birthday is in December and it's a pain in the arse. I have a frequent rows with DH over justifying the expense of big presents and birthday parties right before Christmas.

She doesn't seem to mind, though her birthday is early December. She might feel different if she had to share her actual day with Cristmas day. From a budgeting POV it's crap for us.

We did the same so in my eyes YANBU.

Next time round I will ensure no chance of July/august or late Nov to March birthdays.

Or weekends. DD's brain injury occurred on a Saturday and I was told off the record had the labour happened during the week I would have been emergency sectioned. And as I'll be c sectioned next time I can avoid weekends just to counter any smart comments about not being able ti choose the day of the week your baby is born!

Good luck

I have a Christmas baby and it is horrible for him, especially as his brothers birthday is right in the middle of the year. It makes Christmas more expensive and it is always so hard organising a birthday party at that time of year.
It didn't even occur to me to stop trying in March (I only came off the pill in February and was amazed that I fell pg so fast) but with hindsight I would have avoided it.

slowburner sorry to hear that but that is my concern above all others. I hadn't thought about the August and Feb rotations though...

I have two DCs with birthdays within two weeks of each other in November and December. We always celebrate in the family, but may choose to have their birthday parties later in the year or postpone a big present if it makes more sense to buy one later. I'd just carry on and let fate take its course.

That just compounded the issue impatient one, junior doctor dictated I would be induced, four hours later DD born with massive brain damage due ti oxygen starvation. Prior to induction a two hour trace showed no movement a fetal distress, could all have been avoided, we asked fir section, she said no and never came back latr to see what had happened.

:( slowburner

We'd only been ttc DC2 for about 6 weeks when I vaguely realised that conception in March could lead to a Christmas baby. I briefly considered taking a break but then dismissed it thinking that it probably wouldn't happen anyway...

DD was born on 23 December that year

She is now 3 yrs old and as yet not bothered by the proximity to Christmas of her birthday, but that may change.

my mum's birthday is on Christmas day. She hates it. Everyone I know who has a birthday in mid december/early january hates it.

We stopped ttc in March as well

Both myself and DD's birthday is on 1st of december. I've always loved having my birthday so close to christmas, it always feels special being able to put the tree up on my birthday :) I hope DD feels the same! She'll only be 1 this christmas so we'll see in years to come :)

I have a December birthday, so do my Mum and my DC3.
I don't get the big deal tbh. I did have to be organised with my Christmas shopping as he was due on 23rd December but it wasn't a major problem. We put aside money for birthday celebrations in other months or include birthdays into our Christmas savings so it's not as if all spending comes at once.
I also have a late August bank holiday baby and had no problems there either.

Oh and my birthday is early January, everyone doubles up presents with Christmas everyone is too skint and tired to go out and it sucks!

Both of my children were born on 19th December and we have never had a problem keeping their birthday's seperate from Christmas.

Hi my ds was born on 27th dec (due on the 18th dec) in the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter. However its not ideal and I do worry his birthday will get forgotten with all the xmas new year goings on. The one plus side is that he will never be at school on his birthday and me and his dad and other family members will most likely be off work to celebrate. A lot of our family have moved away but always come for christmas so he will see them on his birthday.

We are considering having a summer celebration whlst he is so young as we want to buy him some toys before he is 1! We will suggest if family want to come and buy him something they can do instead of for his actual birthday. This will probably benefit them too with xmas being an expensive time for most!

I stopped TTC to miss December and January - I know a lot of christmas babies who hate that they dont really get much of a birthday and while we were in no rush to concieve I didnt see any problem really

I think you're very sensible. When I when to the doctors, pregnant, he got out his little wheel and said, "Right, you're due on Dec 25th!" All I could think was, "How stupid were we?!"