Fil ranting and raving at MY house on Mothers day

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Father in law has came to my house to collect my H to take him to see his mum(they live far).
He came through my door and started ranting and raving about how he dont treat his mum right (confused)! And how he has lost 4 grandkids and he doesnt care ?? And all this was because he thought my H didnt have a present to take to his mum! She swore and shouted infront of all my kids and slammed my front door and drove off!!
Of course my H treats his mum right-he has decorated her house from top to bottom over a 2 year period, lets her in our house even after divulging to my eldest daughter my H aint her blood father (none of her beeswax)!!
Am i right in thinking its time to cut my losses with my inlaws as they cause so much trouble in mine & Hs life?

And to point out he had bought her a gift

Mothers day seems to cause a lot of angst on MN.

What does he mean 'lost four grandchildren'?

When he drove off did he take your DH with him.

Personally, I have cut all contact with my PILs because of this sort of behaviour and some very nasty comments and I feel much better for it.

But my DH finds this hard and still wants a reconciliation between us, so if you do cut contact you may need to be prepared for your DH to not be entirely on your side.

They do sound horrendous. However it is up to your DH what he does. You don't have to see them though.

He didnt go with him and he is very upset about the way he was spoken to. His parents have caused major problems for about 2 years and at times can b very shallow. His comment about losing the grandkids was all about him thinking H hadnt bought his mum a present! My H told him to get out of our house. That man has ruined my mothers day by doing what he did as hes upset my kids also. I think my fil is shallow bleating on about a present- and should put things in perspective considering some mothers dont have their sons/daughters on mothers day and vice versa. My mum and i lost our 16 year old brother 5 years ago and my mum doesnt behave like that and my friend lost her mum last year so i find his ranting uncalled for, shallow, nasty and visious.

What did he do when he realised your husband had got a gift?

He sounds like he'd been building up anger and resentment towards your DH before he'd even arrived and was looking for any justification to let it out at him. Was he looking for an excuse to have a go? Nasty behaviour.

He didnt even bother to listen just kept ranting

I knew as soon as i saw this thread it was you.Mothersday is not all about presents ffs.

Well all he has done is make sure his son isnt with his Mother on Mothers Day,hes shot himself in the foot.Just relax,open a bottle of wine and be glad he doesnt have to spend the day with te=hem.

My mum would love more than anything in the world to have my brother on mothersday.Does she go ranting and raving with the injustice of it all.

Guna do just that rainbow2000

I hope bil said sod the present and you can tell mil exactly why.Keep your chin dont let them bother you.He has shown himself up.Pathetic behaviour

I bet it feels so good to have a moan on here.Teehee.You have bottled it up long enough x

It does me good yeah cos im so especially with the comment about the kids!

Sent the mil a text and by the sarcastisc answer i think shes in on it too! So the both of them can do one as far as im concerned. Text i sent below
I wont be coming to any family gatherings as Fil doesn't care if 'he loses all his 4 grandkids coz of this' (coz of what exactly a present!!!) which by the way he had bought. Its up to H what he wants to do but im not interested in people that talk about my kids in that manner. He also said that my H treats u bad??? -not sure how exactly u tell me? Who told Fil he hadnt bought a present? Fil was out of control and a ranting like mad . And by the way ur son is heartbroken by Fil actions and i dont want to see him upset anymore. It was a trivial thing to be ranting about on mothers day a day in which sum people dont have a mum & sum people have lost children.

And this is the text i got bak
Thanx 4 telling me u have realy maid my day

Oh and she txt H that Fil will say sorry when he calms down!-pffft wen HE calms down! Wtf.
And she said everyone says things in heat of moment-what heat of the moment he started it and what an awful thing to say about his grandkids. Iv decided i want nothing more to do with pil and iv told my H he can c them alone but me & the kids dont want to know anymore theyv gone too far now

Why did YOU text her? It's got F all to do with you. Let your H sort it out!

Erm of course it has got to do with her when her husband comes round shouting m swearing in front of her kids

mils husband husband obviously

Oh right so it has f all to do with me wen the fil states he doesnt want anything to do with his grandkids coz of a present!-read the thread again and ul c what it has to do with me

And this is the text i got bak
Thanx 4 telling me u have realy maid my day

Is your MIL illiterate?

I dont think this is just about a present though.You have had problems with them for a long time and your finally starting to have a say.Fil does not like this.They have dumped thier junk at yours.dumped the grandkids at yours when you already have your own to look after and make horrible comments in view of your dd.They belittle thier dds husband,thier baby a little innocent baby because she doesn't live up to thier expectations

Yep she does text like that.I've witnessed it myself

And whatever you don't tell anyone your posting on here cos theres post i don't want people to see cos it will open a whole can of worms with past people.Only you know my old name but my posts are recognisable.Love you lots.Hope things inprove for you xx

oooh er RL crossover