To expect my DP to buy me a Mother's Day card on behalf of 8 month DD

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My DP rang Thursday to see if I wanted him to get me a mothers day card for my mother while he was in the shop.

I said yes please, so he said, "right then 2 mothers day cards". I said "No, 3..."

"What?"
"Well you're getting me one as well, aren't you?"
"But you're not my mother!"
"......!"

Arrgh, Face-Palm!

So I'm not expecting too much tomorrow as my first Mothers Day as a Mother. I'm actually really hurt and upset by this... He says she's too young to appreciate it. I say, but I'm bloody well not! Hmph

So actually I don't care if AIBU because I'm upset, and may well just show him this thread.

Grump.

YANBU OP. Of course he should buy/make a Mother's day card!

I can identify with having a velcro baby too. Both mine were the same and it is completely exhausting. I don't think you're being a martyr at all, just a responsive mother.

Wretched - I feel for your. Same attitude here - he's been in the spare room since week3. Admittedly if she is having a prolonged cry at night he will offer to walk her around the house, but doesn't do any of the normal awakenings.

Well DD woke up cheerful at 5am, I got up with her at bout 6am (we played in bed together for a bit), he got up just after 7am. Just seen him signing a card now, and I've left him with the baby while I go get showered - she's already crying for me....

Definitely a velcro baby - thanks Mishy

She won't get over crying for you unless she is allowed to get used to being with him - It's not like he's a baby sitter, she's his daughter! Does it not make him feel awful that he has spent so little time with her she thinks you are the only one worth being with?! Practise is the only way he can fix that...

Last night was like a comedy sketch... We had been out shopping all day and dd2 unfortunately sleeps a lot in her pram or car seat, so yesterday evening she was all wide awake and wanting cuddles, feeds and general attention. Unfortunately I was also trying to prep for mothers day lunch (for his sodding family) and get two loads of washing dried and put away. I was up and down the stairs like a jack in the box because he cannot keep her quiet for more than five minutes without calling for me.

I asked him what he thinks I do with her when there is no one else in the house but he had no answer for me! It's annoying because he used to be a lot better with dd1 but that was seven years ago and I think his baby interest has seriously depleted!

Oh dear Wretched.

Do you think it's a kind of "learned helplessness"? My DP is sooo more competant at some things than me, but when it comes to DD he kind of gives up because he knows I'll sort it for DD's sake..

Anyway - I've had a card, and an apology!

(and I've promised to get him a Father's Day card as well)

Wretched-let him keep calling for you! Does he shout 'Muuuuuum' too?