To think you should be able to sue your mum if you weren't breastfed

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and have suffered health consequences that could have been prevented by breastfeeding?

And for the record.. I meant 'so' not 'do'!!!

sairy Don't let small minded ridiculous people like the OP make you feel guilty about YOUR choice! I decided after a 10 days I just couldn't continue Bf my DS. It was the best decision I made!

Richocet Fri 16-Mar-12 09:37:50
"Can I ask why you didn't pump instead, cory?"

Because I had been brought up to believe that if you fed on demand and had no problems with milk supply, there simply couldn't be anything wrong with breastfeeding. In other words, the health visitors must be wrong and dd would pick up naturally, because breastfeeding was natural and therefore it had to work. I was suspicious of any breastfeeding advice handed out by British midwives because of the low breastfeeding rates in this country; I didn't think they'd know what they were talking about.

I genuinely believed that giving anything (even ebm) through a bottle was bad because it would interfere with natural breastfeeding which was something I thought I had to succeed at, otherwise I would be a Bad Mother.

By the time dd got out of hospital, she was so weak that I had to syringe feed her expressed breast milk. I persevered and breastfed her (using the syringe and a bottle of ebm to get her strength back for the first months) until nearly a year old.

I think we can all agree I made crap decisions. But they did spring out of a genuine desire to be a Perfect Mother to my child- and, I suppose, never give her anything to sue about.

I have seen true neglect of little children and TBH being formula fed is the least of their troubles , I dont get angry at these sorts of threads i scratch my head and think if only they knew what goes on , they would just be glad a child is having milk ,

Well said Mrsjay

I just don't get why one person thinks it is ok to judge and insult so many others. I am not quite sure why people get so het up about it. First of all it is none of your business, second of all you are beginning to spout conspiracy theories and lastly you are coming across as a deranged, unpleasant woman with a huge chip on her shoulder and waaaaay to much time on her hands. Go away now.

Too true mrsjay

It seems like the OP has other unresolved issues with her mother

She has ishoos that's for sure!

Maybe a pshychiatrist instead of a lawyer

I'm thinking of things I could sue my mother for. My parents are better off than we are.

1. My mum went on some diets in the 1980s. This might have given me food ishoos and caused me to be a greedy fat chubber (despite being breastfed)

2. My mum didn't let me have clothes that were vaguely fashionable until the age of 13. I am scarred for life by other girls taking the piss out of my clothing.

3. My mum let me have fizzy pop on Saturdays and Sundays. I will probably get cancer or whatever from the aspartame.

Hang on a minute - why is it all about sueing the mother? I have two parents after all. Why does the mother get all the blame for everything? What can I sue my dad for? I suspect he has lots of nice savings accounts that I could get my greedy little hands on....

Definitely justforme!

And at least the OP has a mother.. Many go without. She's ungrateful as well as having all her ishoos!

My mum smoked when pregnant because in the 60's nobody realised how bad smoking was.

I think I should sue her for that.

Oh, did I mention she is dead.

OP - I am going to sue you for dental charges because this thread is making me grind my teeth!

I was planning to ignore this post but "Why didn't you pump?" tipped me over the edge.

I tried to BF. I had midwives, my mother, DH and eventually the HV all trying to help me. DS didn't want to latch, his blood sugar dropped and as he absolutely refused to eat he ended up in SCBU. We gave him some formula simply so he had something inside him. I continued to try to BF. I expressed every time I fed and gave him the EBM either by syringe or cup so as not to cause nipple confusion. He eventually learned to latch but wouldn't suck and instead would scream at me. I did this for two weeks by which time I was at the end of my rope, he was starving and I just needed some sleep. On the day I decided to stop expressing (my pititful supply) and just give him the formula full time I said to one of my friends that I would go out and dig up woodlice if it meant he was eating something.

Now back to the rest of the thread. Both my parents smoked around me, drank (to excess) while in charge of me, drove after drinking with me in the car, let me sit in the front with no booster seat, I had whisky rubbed on my gums when I was teething, was given tea (with sugar) in a bottle, allowed to drink Diet Coke and lemonade (was allowed real coke but I didn't like it) and ate biscuits between meals which has probably added to my eat-when-bored weight ishoos in later life. But I was EBF til 6 months when I was weaned onto the salt and sugar filled food my parents were eating but blended. So that's fine.

OP must have other issues with her mother.

YABU, OP. Get a psychotherapist instead: they charge much less per hour than solicitors and you'll probably get more out of it.

Oh, so we are having another day of this then. Is this going to be an item on The Wright Stuff or something?

Bf is a skill that has to be learned by both the mother and the baby, it does not just happen like that, if it were that easy we would have higher bf rates

I found it so painful. Gas and air would have been good.

Perhaps I could refer you to my best friend's DD's. One is a QC (good for the sueing) and the other is a cardiac specialist. (Maybe good for all the sicknesses you will develop.)

Mind you, neither of them were breast feed for even one second of their lives.

So how hard would you have to have tried to bf before accepting defeat to avoid liability? And how would I prove this? What if circumstances (such as prem baby, NICU stay, insufficient supply) meant that despite literally spending every waking moment for 10 weeks trying to feed/express, you ended up having to stop as you were struggling to bond with your baby because of it? What if this ended up being a major factor in you ending up with raging PND? Should your children still sue?

Light-hearted? Fuck off.

This post has to be a joke?! (Is the jig up?!)

No one could be that self-important (gosh op, what amazing insights you have on motherhood and such amazing empathy for other mothers! You should write a book.

Another good idea, why don't you start a campaign for more prison spaces for mothers who FF only? I can help you root them out in society, the useless, lazy, selfish brazen husseys.....

Sell crazy somewhere else, we're all stocked up here....

Formula is evil because it's "marketed"?

Erm, wtf do you think a Medela pump is? It's the #1 "must have" for all bf mothers and guess what toots? It ain't fucking free!