To think you should be able to sue your mum if you weren't breastfed

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and have suffered health consequences that could have been prevented by breastfeeding?

I was a vulnerable mother with PND caused primarily by my failure to breast feed.

But I'm better now and can laugh at the sheer stupidity of idiots like you OP.
Find something else to do.

It does op, you can have your opinion thats fine, but does not mean it cannot be nasty which it is. Wanting to sue your mother who has done her utomost best to bring you up, who may have had issues bf and put you onto formula so that you can survive to write this sorry op is just nasty, if its not what is!

Yes. You are being nasty. You are also showing yourself to be ill informed and ill educated. I would be ashamed to be your mother.

And TT is checked in our hospital. DS's was not spotted until 5wks. And then it took 3 different HCPs before they agreed with me as it was posterior. As are the TTs my other 3 have which were never diagnosed.

Richocet Thu 15-Mar-12 21:40:06

"Seeing as less than 2% of mothers have an actual medical reason why they can't breastfeed, perhaps the rest of you should be diverting your anger at the health professionals that have failed to support you."

The statistics may not be 100% accurate here. Dd was 7 by the time her disability was diagnosed, 10 by the time we met a health professional who knew enough about it to inform us that this would have caused her inability to breastfeed- obviously her failure to thrive will not be down in any statistics as medically caused, and if I had given up breastfeeding it would not have gone down as for medical reasons either. There may well be other children out there like her, with undiagnosed conditions causing breastfeeding breakdown.

Besides you never answered my question: should dd sue because I persisted in breastfeeding and made her end up malnourished, or should she have sued if I had given formula and kept her out of hospital?

Absolutly nuts theres no way you could even prove lack of breastfeeding caused the problems.
As if people dont feel bad enough for not doing it we have people like you.

Can I ask why you didn't pump instead, cory?

By the mw's button?

Thanks for this thread op its just made my guilt at not being able to bf my 12 week old even worse.

And when i say failed i mean i did everything skin to skin, demand feeding, expressing, saw bf counsellor, had tongue tie checked, took fenugreek etc etc etc at the end of the day my boobs didnt get bigger, harder, painful no changes while pg, after or now.

yes ff was a choice for me as it was that or let him starve but again thanks for pointing out how easy bf is

HV, GP and paed failed to diagnose.

MWs checked at birth.

Don't know what the question was referring to.

I think everyone I know was FF! Friends,
Parents, partner ect.. And I have never ever heard anything as stupid in my life!

Of all the parenting decisions that might potentially screw up your kids, do people REALLY think that breastfeeding/not breastfeeding is going to be the dealbreaker? The list of things that might potentially require my baby to need therapy or medical treatment when he's a grown up is long, and how I chose to feed him as a baby is way, way down. He accidentally ate ketchup the other week (he's nearly 12 weeks old), I don't think breast v's bottle is really the issue for him.

I mean fgs, way to pile on the pressure, as if having a new baby isn't enough of a struggle/ordeal/emotional nightmare, you want to threaten women with the prospect of being sued if they don't manage or want to breastfeed? What kind of heartless cow are you?

S'ok Figgy. Come and join us over here on the 'failed bf-er lazy mum' couch. Have a .

Why is it any of your business why cory didn't pump instead?

Why are you so obsessed with what others do with their breasts?

this thread is absolutely ridiculous. My brothers had better get on with sueing my mum. They were twins born a bit premature. One was still in the hospital for several weeks after the other was at home. The half hour train journey might have made breastfeeding them ever so slightly difficult. But of course breastfeeding is the only important thing as far as you are concerned.

Oh and my DS included! Am I ashamed!? Not at all!

figgygal there was a very recent report i saw on tv that mothers guilt on Bf is escalalting and the researchers have realised that BF isnt as simple as made out , Bf is hard It sometimes doesnt work for a variety of reasons , please let your guilt go you can not carry it around forever ,

I hope she does Ariel

I bf for a week but suffered PND and found it really hard so expressed for a week before finally saying I couldn't do this anymore...My mental health was at risk if I continued which would have been worse for DS. He has no health problems and is a very happy boy...Formula didnt effect him at all

All the harm I have ever done to dd has been on the best medical advice (persisisting with exclusive breastfeeding, healthy exercise despite dodgy joints, forcing her to push against the pain). There is no doubt that she has been physically harmed and considerably more than your average baby who has just had a bottle. But if she sues, I would find it hard to forgive her.

What kind of society do you want? One that every member is constantly pitted against everybody else, accusing them and trying to get at them whenever they fall even the slightest bit short of the ideal standard.

What else could they sue for? Failing to force me to walk to the shops every day, thus laying the grounds for my obesity? Failing to make me eat broccoli? Failing to make me get top marks in my maths test?

Figgy - I had a similar experience with DS1. Tons of support and the general conclusion was that I had a low supply and a very slow let-down, with a baby who was too impatient to persist. He was mix-fed (with very little breastmilk) for about 4 months.

At the risk of someone shouting "anecdotal" he is now a happy, healthy two year-old who does not appear to hold it against me.

DS2 has been an entirely different experience. He has fed well from the start, although I am a bit anxious about my supply over the last few days - he is suddenly getting very frustrated and I am being able to pump much less.

There are all sorts of variables and sometimes a particular mum and baby "team" just won't be able to make it work.

I really don't get the whole guilt thing. I haven't had my baby yet and I do want to breastfeed. But if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, it isn't like I'm going to starve the baby or anything. He will still get fed!

In any case, of course you can't sue your mum. It is her body. It doesn't belong to you. Nobody has any rights to tell anybody what they must do with their body against their will.

This thread has made me do angry!

Same there is enough pressure on mums as it is without small minded horrible people making you feel worse.

I bf dd1 for two months and ds1 for a day. I was so miserable abut dd3 having the gentic condition i had I simply couldn't, sorry wouldn't even try to bf her. Kill me now :(