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AIBU?

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to think it's rubbish to have parking rage at another school mum.

196 replies

noseynoonoo · 14/03/2012 09:55

This morning I was taking my chiildren to school. I usually park in a road that has parking on both sides so cars have to wait at one end whilst the line of travelling cars come through. Today I was travelling through whilst there was a car at the end. Towards the end of cars I saw a space and took it. Cue mum in car at other end flashing her lights and saying something to me. I'm no good at lip-reading but checked I hadn't parked over a drive way and all seemed ok. I got my children out by which time she was out of her car having a go that it was her space, that she had been waiting for it etc. I explained that I had not realised that she had the intention to park there and since she wasn't indicating there was nothing to suggest it. She expected me to put my children back in the car and drive off to vacate the space. She then said that if I parked properly we could both fit in (clearly not the case because her car was huge and there was just 2metres left) and then starting saying, 'It's people like you...'

Now frankly, I have had a rough few weeks and don't need the antagonism. There were other mums around and I felt embarrassed that she was trying to get me into an argument (I stayed very calm) and my children had to experience it. On top of that, we have children at the same school - we're going to bump into each other. I understand that she might have been stressed but surely IANBU to think you don't started kicking off to other school mums.

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TandB · 14/03/2012 14:45

And at the risk of drip-feeding, it was also a late Saturday morning in a car park that pretty much exclusively serves shops so the only thing she was likely to be in a hurry for was to buy more shoes!

MadameChinLegs · 14/03/2012 14:46

She didn't look like the car-keying type - very fancy car and cut-glass accent with expensive shades perched on tastefully streaked hair

That was all a ruse to make you think this....they are the worst ones.

Hope you had a great time in Cornwall say an insanely jealous Madame who lives too far away to drive there

OrmIrian · 14/03/2012 14:53

Oops! Not read thread properly . I thought we were still talking about school runs...

MadameChinLegs · 14/03/2012 14:54

Grin apologies.

Russianred · 14/03/2012 14:55

Mine are still too little for this to really concern me, but (fools that we are) our house is about 20 metres from the school gates. I never thought I'd be someone who got upset over her driveway being blocked or not being able to access my own house, but my goodness it is so frustrating.

I couldn't leave the house yesterday afternoon as two cars were either side of the house and then more parked opposite. There is one woman who hangs over our driveway every single day to drop the kids off and sits in the car for 15 minutes waiting for the gates to open (yes she could have come from delivering another child to another school some miles away, but I don't think so).

Debeez · 14/03/2012 14:58

Brace yourselves ladies. It's almost 3.

wandered on here from the other school parking thread

startail · 14/03/2012 15:22

Leaving earlier does not help!
DCs are not allowed at school before 8.50am.
This seems to be a deliberate ploy to make it totally impossible for any parent to get to work by 9am.

Lots of our Mum's race off to get to work as soon after 9 as they can.

This does not allow for walking miles back to their cars. No one works within walking distance of school unless they work at school, it's a tiny village.

mistlethrush · 14/03/2012 15:25

Leaving earlier must help - you can get one of the 'close' car parking spaces and therefore park legally and still close to school so that you can sit and read the biff and chip book with dc and then deposit them and only have a short run to the car.

MollieO · 14/03/2012 15:27

We have a carpark at ds's school. It worries me that the people I see in that car park are actually allowed on public roads.

Don't get me started in the dads (or one dad in particular) who thinks its his god-given right to park in the staff car park to drop his son off. Does it every day, despite it being mentioned in the weekly newsletter and despite the fact that it is less than 200m from normal car park to school playground (he is not disabled).

TandB · 14/03/2012 15:36

[graciously forgives Orm]

[Then gets carried away and starts embroidering story]

The lady in question was driving a 4x4 encrusted with illegally-mined diamonds imported by the inconsiderate Asian drivers mentioned upthread. And her children were eating Greggs sausage rolls and drinking fruitshoots. And one of them spoke in a local accent so she beat him while shouting "We didn't waste all that benefit-fraud money buying a house in a good cachement area and pretending to live there just so you could talk like that, Tarquin!" And then she parked her car and went on got on a bus with her buggy and refused to move for a wheelchair user.

Cowbag.

PfftTheMagicDraco · 14/03/2012 16:12

star - MILES? Since when did anyone on this thread suggest that you walk miles?

The suggestion to leave earlier is so that you can get a space closer to the school, so you can nip off quickly.

If you need to park further away, I would imagine that you may be adding a maximum of 5 minutes onto your trip, which is only added on the way back to the car.

Pendeen · 14/03/2012 16:34

"... Today I was travelling through whilst there was a car at the end. Towards the end of cars I saw a space and took it. .."

Not read all the replies but it seems odd to me that if she was at the end nearest the space why did she not simply drive to the space and park? To do what she did seems rather odd and almost guaranteed to "lose" her the space.

"... having a go that it was her space ..."

Crazy!

No one has "first bagsie" on a parking space on the highway.

molepom · 14/03/2012 17:55

On a plus note, those who do walk/have to walk do get a giggle from all if this (provided no one is hurt).

mankycat · 14/03/2012 21:15

My DC isn't at school yet but we live one street away from school they children who live in our street don't even have to cross a road it literally takes 3 minutes to walk.

However, I have a neighbour who drives there child to school everyday there is nothing wrong with her, she goes with child comes back 5 mins later. I have noticed 2 mums who do this in our tini tiny village. I wouldn't dream of starting my car to go such a short distance unless I was going into town, work or further afield straight after, I find it shocking!!

blackeyedsusan · 14/03/2012 22:36

I drive from one school to another the morning run is ok because people drop off children in the playground over a 10 minute slot. pick up is worse as everyone wants to be there at the same time. i much prefer to park further up the road and walk the dog poo slalom and glare at the woman who parks on the double yellow lines, most days.

FilterCoffee · 14/03/2012 22:43

YANBU. If you see her again don't be fazed, you have the moral high ground for not trying to bully another driver!

Morloth · 15/03/2012 07:54

molepom 'On a plus note, those who do walk/have to walk do get a giggle from all if this (provided no one is hurt).'

Hell yes, in London we had to walk, in our last place we had to drive, now I do neither, I trot him across the road, kiss him good bye and wander back into my house, smug in the knowledge that this is no longer an issue. The best part? He will be old enough to walk his baby brother to school for a couple of years before moving up to high school.

So it is entirely possible I will never have to drive the car to a school again! BLISS.

I am a complete hypocrite who has a good bitch about those crazy mummies in their 4wd driving the school runs, I figure this is OK because I was one for a year. Wink

noseynoonoo · 17/03/2012 17:02

Just a short update. Since the contratemps, I have noticed that that mum always parks her car in the spot I took earlier in the week - how very dare I?

Anyway, when I saw her on Friday I waved, smiled and mouthed 'Hello' as I drove past (I couldn't help myself). She clearly didn't recognise me which makes me wonder whether she screams at quite a few people.

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MustControlFistOfDeath · 17/03/2012 17:20

I regularly walk past the local school at chucking out time....you can almost feel the tension in the air with all the 4x4's jostling for positions a la kill or be killed Grin

busyboysmum · 17/03/2012 21:55

My son was injured by a selfish mum in a BMW who was parking on the pavement on the corner across the road from our school. We always walk come rain or shine and we are as far away from our school as you can get and be in catchment (1 mile only). He was walking past her car when she flung the door open onto his ear which tore and bled like you have never seen. I thought it had hit his head and was imagining brain damage so was soooooo relieved it was only his ear. The next day she turned up with her businessman husband and they came over - I thought to apologise or see how he was, no, it was to deny all responsibility and to say that he had impaled himself onto her door, it was not her fault at all!!!

MustControlFistOfDeath · 18/03/2012 08:52

busy Shock Shame on her, that's disgraceful. Thank goodness your DS was ok.

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