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to think it's rubbish to have parking rage at another school mum.

196 replies

noseynoonoo · 14/03/2012 09:55

This morning I was taking my chiildren to school. I usually park in a road that has parking on both sides so cars have to wait at one end whilst the line of travelling cars come through. Today I was travelling through whilst there was a car at the end. Towards the end of cars I saw a space and took it. Cue mum in car at other end flashing her lights and saying something to me. I'm no good at lip-reading but checked I hadn't parked over a drive way and all seemed ok. I got my children out by which time she was out of her car having a go that it was her space, that she had been waiting for it etc. I explained that I had not realised that she had the intention to park there and since she wasn't indicating there was nothing to suggest it. She expected me to put my children back in the car and drive off to vacate the space. She then said that if I parked properly we could both fit in (clearly not the case because her car was huge and there was just 2metres left) and then starting saying, 'It's people like you...'

Now frankly, I have had a rough few weeks and don't need the antagonism. There were other mums around and I felt embarrassed that she was trying to get me into an argument (I stayed very calm) and my children had to experience it. On top of that, we have children at the same school - we're going to bump into each other. I understand that she might have been stressed but surely IANBU to think you don't started kicking off to other school mums.

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Pagwatch · 14/03/2012 13:15

I like that the opposite of racist is 'very right on super doopah mummy'

Those are the choices folks

TheRhubarb · 14/03/2012 13:16

If you are not racist then answer us this, why change your name?

And if you are not racist then why make a clear reference to their race? You could have whinged about them credibly on here without making the point that they were Asian.

If you really felt the need to share that observation, why? What point were you making?

But you won't answer these questions will you?

MargueritaaPracatan · 14/03/2012 13:20

Did that poster bandying the 'Asian' thing around - I can't even be arsed to look for the name, think we'd all be nodding our heads and agreeing with them? Or empathising or really what??? I mean, what?

That's naivety for ya, loud and clear.

PfftTheMagicDraco · 14/03/2012 13:20

Pag, where does one get these big fat racist glasses? I reckon I could get some and sell them on to the hipster market - they are rimmed with black plastic, yes?

PfftTheMagicDraco · 14/03/2012 13:22

MargueritaaPracatan - I'm not impressed because if they tried a little harder they could probably squash a few cars into the playground. They just aren't trying hard enough, frankly. Maybe the raised kerb is just too much like hard work, or maybe it's because there aren't enough Asian parents at my school... ;)

OhChristFENTON · 14/03/2012 13:23

That's two school parking threads I've read today, this one included racist comments and the other one included fatist comments.

who knew?

Pusheed · 14/03/2012 13:24

"I have no dubt you are a very right on liberal super doopah mummy"

I have been called many things here in MN and in the Real World - twat, cunt, idiot but being called liberal is a first :o

I have my own racial stereotypes (mainly to do with Scotish and the Welsh Wink ) but even I find it a stretch to tag a particular racial group with the label of being twat drivers.

MargueritaaPracatan · 14/03/2012 13:26

Pfft, yes, everyone wants the coveted head's office, and why wouldn't they?

ariadne1 · 14/03/2012 13:27

well I can understand her being annoyed if she had been waiting ages for a space and the some 'jill-come-lately' nips in infront of her.It is only human.i would have offred totake her kids in for her so she didn't have to park at all, I think.When we used to go to a school with parking like this, we used to park quite a way away and walk and avoid all the stress.

dontaskwhereIlive · 14/03/2012 13:30

If I'm a super doopah mummy do I have to have bunting in my car?

TheRhubarb · 14/03/2012 13:33

Yes dontaskwhereIlive but they must be flag buntings of all the different nations and you must also have CND stickers and lots of hippy flower stickers on your incense powered car.

TandB · 14/03/2012 13:49

Interesting point re: racism.

There is case law that says it is possible to commit a racially aggravated offence against your own ethnic group.

So by observing that the main perpetrators are white, any white posters are being RACIST!

In fact, I am probably being racist by referrring to their racist tendencies. And anyone who takes issue with my post will also be racist.

[Head explodes]

Fortunately, we don't have to get into all that with the "Asian families" poster as she just came straight out with the good, sraightforward, old-fashioned racism.

dontaskwhereIlive · 14/03/2012 14:04

Oh I can't have that therhubarb. Mine have cupcakes on. It's all pastel around here. I was thinking of a cake stand on the dashboard too and rather than incense I was hoping for rosewater.

Mind you, if it's hippy flowers or racism......can I have a pastel CND sign. Perhaps a nice sage. That would satisfy my super doopah leanings.

I do feel that that nice pastel colours and soft furnishings would help us all get along.

Hullygully · 14/03/2012 14:10

I have gone from pg 1 to pg 7 and it appears there is an Asian Factor crept in.

Is it a private school?

PfftTheMagicDraco · 14/03/2012 14:13

What if I park my car up on the pavement, on the yellow zigzags, blocking the way for everyone... BUT I also mow down an Asian parent with my car. Is that okay?

Hullygully · 14/03/2012 14:17

What if I park my car on a yellow zig zag outside a private school while I formula feed my obese baby and make a quick curry, and then nip to the supermarket and block two disabled spaces while buying fruit shoots and eating grapes as I wander very slowly round and break the self service till?

BeerTricksPott3r · 14/03/2012 14:20

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MadameChinLegs · 14/03/2012 14:23

I was trying to load a toddler, a baby and a stubborn buggy into the car the other day. A woman pulled up to wait for the space and, despite the fact that she could see me strapping children in and loading shopping, she felt the need to wind her window down and inform me that she was waiting. She then asked me if I could take any more time.

In all seriousness, I would have took the kids back out, back into their buggies and walked off. I may have been cross with myself for then being late to where ever I was headed next, but I have principles.

Grin

She might have keyed my car. Its a banger, so would probably improve it.

LittleAlbert · 14/03/2012 14:27

I suggest you just park on the pavement next time, it seems to be fashionable at the private school down the road.

PfftTheMagicDraco · 14/03/2012 14:27

Madame - yes. in those situations, the only thing to do is to leave the car again - there is no way I could bring myself to let her have that space! I know that is probably really spiteful, but still...

MadameChinLegs · 14/03/2012 14:29

Pfft, she started it

Childish, me?

PfftTheMagicDraco · 14/03/2012 14:31

I think I'd have to treat that question "Do you think you could take any more time?" as a serious one, and not the sarcastic taunt that it was meant as.

I'd consider it, tip my head to one side, and then answer, "yes!"

:D

OrmIrian · 14/03/2012 14:38

I think the most reasonable person (ahem...including me) becomes a little unreasonable when faced with the twin stresses of driving a car in a busy area and being short of time. Everyones's behaviour seems more irritating and you become convinced people are doing whatever it is to wind you up! And I will confess to mild teeth grinding when held up by someone planting 3 kids and a buggy in a car and blocking the road when I'm late for work, or even more when I'm late for school too. Sorry Grin
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The added problem is that being in a busy area tends to make you short of time..

TandB · 14/03/2012 14:42

Pfft - were you there? Grin

That is exactly what I did!

And then I folded my sling carefully and found an approproate corner of the boot to place it, which involved rearranging the shopping a bit. And then I checked both children's straps before walking the long way round to the driver's seat, getting in, putting on my seatbelt and then getting out again to search in the shopping bags for the Thornton's toffee I bought earlier. When I found it I held it up and smiled at her so she could be in no illusions that I was doing something important while she sat and fumed.

The really annoying thing is that she had children in the car so could presumably figure out that I wasn't going to be all that quick. There were also other spaces available a bit further away but no, she wanted that one.

Madame - if we hadn't been going to Cornwall for a few days and leaving that afternoon I probably would have got back out again, but I hadn't packed! She didn't look like the car-keying type - very fancy car and cut-glass accent with expensive shades perched on tastefully streaked hair.

TandB · 14/03/2012 14:43

Orm - this was in a multi-story car-park so no road-blocking going on. She just wanted my space!

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