Men that won't / can't cook

[Bennifer]

Am I unreasonable to think it?s a little strange that there are men who either can?t or won?t cook, and also that they are supported in this by their partners.

I have to admit to having a personal angle on this. As far as I know, my 33 year old brother has never cooked a meal in his life. He lived at home until he was 21, and then moved out with his partner. In the past when I?ve asked him about it, he has jokingly said that when he has picked up a knife to chop an onion, his partner has taken it off him.

I can see the logic to this if one partner is a SAHP, for example, but neither of them is. His partner works long hours, and weekends, so rather than him cooking the meal when he gets home, he waits until his partner gets home. This can mean that they don?t eat as healthily as perhaps they could, because when you get in at 7 or 8, with no food, it?s tempting to get something quick and easy.

Is this a little strange, or am I unreasonable? I know it?s none of my business really.

If you can read you can cook.

I don't think i know any men who can't cook. Whether they do the cooking in their relationships is another matter but they all learnt to cook looking after themselves at university.

I agree, anyone who can read can cook. They simply don't want to. I am like that about car engines but when I was on my own I managed. None of it is difficult.

If (person of any sex) don't want to cook, fine. I don't really care.

As long as they don't expect others to be their galley slave.

If you have a DH who won't simply refuse to cook for him.

What iscream said. A good girlfriend of mine has always loathed cooking and avoids it as much as possible, so as a result when we socialise we go out to eat, or she comes to mine and I cook. But she would never expect me to cook for her or assume that I was going to.

What is irritating is when it becomes gendered. I can't stand the 'Oh, my husband is useless in the kitchen' thing or the equivalent male attitude of can't cook, won't cook.

And this: 'But I am really irritated by grown adults of either sex who cant cook and especially those that seem proud of it!'

You wouldn't say I can't wash and be proud of it- cooking is as basic as that.

I know 2 people who don't cook- both women. Kids tea is opened packets of ham, breadsticks cut up fruit etc. and yogurts. Both will wait until Husband comes home to 'eat'. Both major eating disorders.

With men it seems to be laziness.

Being able to feed and look after yourself is basic human necessity.
My tosspot ex was too entitled to even know how to switch the cooker on as he was far too important and it was the woman's job to 'look after her man'

A man not being able to or wanting to cook would be a complete deal breaker for me now...

LightsOnNoOneHomeTue

Funnily enough, there is no correlation at all between men being unwilling/unable to cook and being able to eat for England
Hear hear.

My problem is that so many people assume they will do the cooking because they are the women even if they dislike cooking as juch as their male partners do. Total deal breaker for me If a man said 'I won't cook'. Even if all he could serve up was pig swill I'd still eat it until he improved instead of 'no, no silly man, let me do that'