To want DH to take some paternity leave?

[Maffy]

My DH is entitled to paternity pay and leave, but says he cannot take any as he is too busy at work and is paid by results...

I am expecting DC2 and will have to have a CS within the week (due to problems and EMCS with DC1 2.5 years ago). I am scrabbling round for childcare for DC1 during the three days I expect to be in hospital, as DH says he needs to work for parts of those days, at least.

He didn't take any PL with DC1 and I just about coped, but I'm sure it will be harder with a toddler. I cannot really expect help from anyone else.

We are relatively lucky that we do not have a mortgage and could survive two weeks on SPP. AIBU to be annoyed and worried that I shall be be alone (usually 8am - 6pm) with two DC staight after leaving hospital for a CS?!

I would love some advice!

YADNBU. He is being incredibly unreasonable. I'm sure loads of new mothers find having babies and organising maternity leave a tad inconvenient too, but it's part of the deal of having a kid. Sorry but your partner sounds like a self-obsessed moron.

"He does not want a doula,"

Can't see what that has to do with him, frankly.

"but men never undertstand, do they?!"

Er, yes. Sounds like you have stereotypical views of men and have married a crappy stereotypical man. Well, you get what you think you deserve I guess.
It may help you feel better trying to excuse him, but you are actually being incredibly unreasonable in projecting your husband's moronic behaviour onto other men.