to NOT want a cleaner?

[OrkaLiely]

it seems to be very common on MN; paying another person to clean your house. Why can't the adults in the house do it between them? And once the kids are old enough to hold a duste,r teach them to help out as well.

I'd hate someone else in our house cleaning up our mess. It sends a bad message to children too. And no-one in this age of dishwashers, washing machines, vacuum cleaners is too busy to do it themselves.

McHappypants if you are in SW London google oven clean and ask for Mario - he's fantastic.

oh my at Mario the oven cleaner

Mario the oven cleaner - check.

www.mangasm.com/shop/autoblow

perhaps get him this LeQueen lol

If you're happy to pay for it, you can get anything at a price

I tried to manage without a cleaner for a year when we moved house - I ended up spending my weekends cleaning. New cleaner started 2 months ago, and I'm able to watch my son's football matches, and still have a clean bathroom.

No different than paying a decorator, car mechanic, or indeed buying clothes from a shop. You could do it all yourself, but you have to draw a line somewhere.

Actually I managed to do stuff with my kids despite not having a cleaner , it is possible to do both you know.

blushingcrow, i can manage both.

however there are many people who if facing finacal problem would also manage...however if they feel happy and can afford a cleaner, why not

I'm sure it is possible, we just dont want to have to do it

I don't care if they have a cleaner , but it's implied on this thread that us poor plebs spend all our time cleaning and do nothing with our children or our lives.

LeQ that is genius. I wonder if she'd mind keeping my new shoes on for the duration, kill two birds and all that....

Ynbu not to want a cleaner. But yabu to judge other people and have the audacity to say that it sets bad example. The £10 a week I pay for my cleaner is the best money I spend all week. It means I don't have to spend half my weekend doing the cleaning myself. Carry on cleaning if it makes you happy. I'll be on the sofa with dp and a bottle of red

Hope that's a bottle of red each ;)

Very few people have cleaners who do absolutely everything. Ours comes close - changes bedding, tidies up toys, puts paper work in the office, takes glass jars to the bottle bank, puts washing in the machine, washing on the line/dryer, irons and cleans. I am still never short of little tasks to give DS to do and I still need to load the dishwasher at night, take the bins out/in, feed the cats, feed us etc so I don't feel he is missing out in any way. There is also the garden to take care of which we enjoy doing (although do have a gardner for one day a month too to do the bits we do not like so much.

DH and I both grew up in families which did not have cleaners. I grew up in a house with a coal fire which needed to be lit every day even in summer for cold water so there was dusting and vacuuming to be done every day as a result and I did my share without resentment. How you are brought up as a child has (IME) little direct bearing on how you are with these things as an adult. You can still learn to take care of your possesions etc. My bestfriend is very house proud and attributes this to how dirty her mum's house was.

My DH used to have a cleaner/housekeeper every day before we met and has always made it very clear that he does not clean. He is perfectly entitled to make that choice same as he can re-plumb a bathroom perfectly ably but chooses not to. Dh and I both changed jobs/working hours last year to spend more time with DS (each other too but more DS) but works a half day more than he otherwise would specifically to pay our cleaner so that he can spend quality time with DS and not half-hearted time with DS while he is also trying to get housework done.

And the thing about having a cleaner is the mess gets less and less so you stop worrying about someone else being in your house to clean your mess. I'm also a lot better able to welcome pop-in visitors whereas previously that would be my worst nightmare!

I can work bonkers hours, leaving home at 7am, returning at 9pm six days a week. I'm buggered if I'm spending my one day off a week cleaning and ironing.

My cleaner gets a decent wage for a fab job. And she changes my bed, hangs the washing out, irons, cleans the oven, cleans the windows.

And I'm single with no kids. It's bliss bring able to afford her!

And the thing about having a cleaner is the mess gets less and less so you stop worrying about someone else being in your house to clean your mess. I'm also a lot better able to welcome pop-in visitors whereas previously that would be my worst nightmare!
This alone does it for me! I work fulltime and travel also so my weekends are fo rme and the family!
Thus my cleaner comes in on a Friday for two hours , and cleans Kitchen, bathrooms, strips the bed's and it is worth it's weight in gold!

I don't want a cleaner, but I'm not sure why I should care if other people do

YANBU to not want a cleaner - it's your choice

YABU to be surprised that other people want cleaners.

We outsource all kinds of things.

I could make bread from flour and yeast and stuff - but I prefer to pay someone else to do that.

Exchanging money for services is not exactly a new idea.

IMO it sends a good message to children - cleaning is a valuable job that is worth paying money for.

I haven't cleaned a toilet once in 7 years OR made my own bed! put that in your pipe and smoke it!

I don't have a cleaner and don't want one.

But I don't care if others have cleaners either. However I personally think it is good for children to do some tidying or cleaning every week.

I work 55 hrs per week as a childminder my Dh works about 40hrs plus travel

I would rather spend time with my dh and children at weekend rather than clean and iron

PLUS my children are in their GCSE years now and have a revision guide to stick to which is 4-5 hrs per day 6 days a week so i dont expect them to do anything other than small jobs till end of june

I dream of having cleaner, loathe housework.. If someone can afford it why not.