So, I actually know I'm being unreasonable, but I don't know why, please come and kick some sense into me...Keeping toddlers in full time childcare when on maternity leave with the second, why?

[realasitgets]

I've just realised I probably go a bit cats bum faced about it when people tell me they keep their toddler in full time childcare while they're at home full time on maternity leave with the second.

I know continuity is important etc etc..But I also know many f/t working parents who have dropped childcare down to 2 or 3 days rather than full time while on m/l/.

Why do people do this? The only reason I can think of is to keep the nursery/c/m place open. But I think I'd rather pay for it and not send them full time than be at home without them

Flame away!

OP, you stuck your beautiful baby in childcare???

I mean, you took her out when you got pregnant, but what about before that? Can't belive you did such a damaging thing. Haven't you read the research that a baby is better off with its parent during those early months. Second best is granny.

Shakes head at poor parenting skills of OP.

Ahem.

Didn't one of those studies say that grandparents were fourth best. Second best c/m, third nursery, fourtrh gps.

Have I dreamt that? Have to google now..

Ultimately it doesn't matter...Mummy is first best!!!!

Can't believe the OP is judging others when she has done somehting so damaging. Imagine all the precious moments she has missed!

I feel very very sad for her child.

Sorry, you've lost me.

Unless you have a very understanding employer you can't take your DC to work. But you can keep your DC at home when you're not at work? Isn't that it? When did this become a SAHM/WOHM thing?

What's right childcare wise differs from one family to the next depending on their needs.

So someone does different from you? Doesn't affect you. Doesn't matter.

Manners are a different matter altogether though. Affect everyone and cost nothing. Didn't get much of those coming across from the OP.

You do know that was probably actually Matthew Wright himself?

" people who do this already believe that being at nursery is as good as, or better, for toddlers than being at home with their families is."
[Shock]
you mean you've only just come to the realization that childcare can offer more than mummy staying home? Surely most parents consider the basic definition of a "good" childcare situation to be "as good or better than home" and search like hell to find that situation?
I hope this is a wind up.

Oh it's because they've realised that they will never be the wonder-mummy that you obviously are, OP, so it's better that their poor children are in childcare rather than with them. Also, they obviously don't have the same natural maternal urges that would make them want to keep their children with them, bizarrely... goodness knows why they bothered to have them.

That's what you want to hear really, OP... you're the best - they're not and will never even come close for their poor parenting. You think it, you know it to be true in your tiny little judgey mind.

Wish I could get full time childcare - our nursery makes us pick them up in the evening ;)