Is "I need a bit of time away from my dcs" a horrible thing to say?

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Someone on another thread has announced that no parent (even those with PND) should ever need time to themselves and it's a horrible thing to say if you do . . . wondered what others thought.

(apologies for the thread about a thread, not sure if there's a rule against it )

Imagine the sheer horror of realising you'd got nobody apart from your DH, though

I personally am prepared to take the risk of thinking 'who the hell are you?' in 10 years' time. DP appears to be a very nice bloke on the occasions I do get to see him. I shall look forward to the opportunity to get to know him better . In the meantime, there are lots of other relationships I also need (in that shuddersome parlance) to work on as well.

Well, it's normal to need a time-out. It's called recharging the batteries....

I like to have time away from my dc, and also plenty of time away from DP. It's one of the things I like about going to work. Lots of legitimate time away from family.

I have quite a list of things I'm planning to do once youngest dc hits 18, it's an ambitious list of many things I find a bit hard to do with 3 dc, and I don't think there'll be time to sit gazing at DP wondering if I still know him. But then I don't see why it's necessarily a problem if you do spend 20 years bringing up kids together and then go your separate ways - why not? If you find you don't have anything in common any more? People change, it's not always a disaster to be a different person at 50 than at 30, with different needs and dreams.

Yeah but it's not like you can forget about your kids once they hit 18 cos they're the ones that are gonna choose me bloody care home! So I do question that type of 'oh they're only on loan' type of thinking.

My mum constantly used to say to me from about 14 'you're an adult now, you can make your own decisions', dunno if that was some sort of reverse psychology she was trying to use but it didn't work as I took it literally and rebelled in a big way. I definitely will not be choosing my parents care home, I'll leave that to my sisters who they have done far more for as adults.

I hope to really be hands on for my kids their whole life not just the first 18 yrs, especially when they have their own kids. I won't just 'leave them to it' like my parents have done with me.

But on topic, time away from anyone you spend 24/7 with is healthy. I'm a natural introvert so I really relish time alone every now and again otherwise my head would explode.