For the past 3 years me, DH, DSis and her DH have been on holiday with our kids (5 of them in total,all under 10). The kids are a handful, but good fun and it's good the cousins get this time together. HOWEVER, the problem is my sis. I love her dearly, I really do but she is quite heavily overweight and every holiday she spends almost the whole two weeks spread on a lounger not doing much. Fair enough, that's what hols are for after all. But, inevitably it ends up being me who's chucking the kids in the pool, building sandcastles, running back and forth to get the drinks and ice cream. Up until now I've accepted this but in a bit of a heart to heart with her over a few wines last night she admitted that she kids on she's a 'hands off' mum (she does a lot of the 'leave them to it' thing) because she is ashamed of her size. I've always suspected this but she has always been one of these people who say 'size doesn't matter' etc. So, this morning I said to her, 'after what we spoke about last night, if you need some support, I'll help'. I suggested we meet to go swimming this week. You can't imagine my surprise when she went ballistic with me. Accused me of being naive, how can I think it's that easy etc etc and then had the cheek to accuse me of wanting her to slim for the holiday because I'm embarrassed of her appearance! This could not be further from the truth. I'm really sad today, AIBU to think she should try, if it's making her miserable?