To be very scared at the details of the Universal tax credit?

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I had no idea.

I've been away from the UK, and just saw the actual proposals/rules on another thread.

Its bad right?

I imagine there is another thread on this so if there is, sorry ...I can't find it! :)

my dd didn't decide to be disabled bay.
no one does

anyways I am meeting with the adult sw this week, should be fun, will ask her more respite as if I need to work that is my only option.
BUT even if I got that(I won't) what do you do if you get a job, and then your disabled person is ill?
the other week dd had 4 days of with a cold,
now a nt 16 yr old no probs, a disabled one, not fun and needs constant care, what job would just let you have time off just like that and still pay you?

Well Baypolar now I know where I'm going wrong I should live a stress free life and everything will be fine.Wait a minute I have a 17 year old DS who has ASD/ADHD and LD's and am going through therapy for severe childhood abuse that I had buried for over 30 years I didn't ask for that to happen.You need to get your head out of your arse love its not always that simple.

Exactly Seven, hence you should be helped by the state.
I have no qualms with that and support you all the way.

oh ffs that is a crap thing to say

Fucking hell.

Okay, wallow in it instead.
Different strokes for different folks.
Right, time for my evening coffee enema.
Sayonara!

Do we get extra brownie points for managing to lose one of our little resource suckers? It was probably our fault for not feeding her properly.

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OP (I have only read the first couple of pages, I imagine by by p. 18 it is the standard benefits thread. So sorry if this has been mentioned). You may not be eligible for benefits anyway, as you are not 'habitually resident'. I'd check carefully before returning to the UK if your return is based on needing benefits.

You ran away whoopie fucking do good for you, I assume from that it was a different type of abuse there are lots of ways of being abused in case you didn't realise. I don't wallow in it for your informatiom if I did I wouldn't be fucking dealing with it now.

dotty she said it because she wanted to be spiteful.
She then fucked off.

Please dont take her seriously. Anyone who makes statements like that is a damn fool and all her talk of empathy is bollocks.

She wouldnt know empathy if it kicked her up the arse (if only)

ah, so bay would love me cos dd is brain damaged through no fault of her own and I got disabled too.

I think I shall have a coffee. But the normal method

I don't know, she's put me right off my coffee.

Right now she is bent over with a tube up her arse

dotty ignore it. some "people" just like to hurt.

it does proove what we are against though, Idiots like that who have no idea what the fuck they are talking about but say it anyway.
god help us

Sevenfold, you're a carer, you won't have to work.

Ignore her Dotty, she clearly has empathy issues and if her unpleasant childhood story is true its left her unable to empathise with others. Thats pretty sad.
But its a form of total control to protect herself. I feel sorry for her.

Totem, the Govt havent understood that some children require 2 Carers. I do nights, DH does days. Thats why he works 17 hours a week. Given I catch up on sleep when am I (and those in the same situation) supposed to work to make up these 24 hours. DH cant. He works all school hours.
As it is, redundancy looms again. Then what? What job can he do for school hours in these times when theres 3 million unemployed?

I am a carer totem and I have to work.
I care for my DC and my OH.
My DC is on low rate DLA (fine by me)
My OH is on high and mid rate but because I earn £20 over the allowed rate for carers allowance I cant claim it (also fine by me).
So despite having caring responsiblities for two people I am not offically a carer.

I suppose if OH gave up work altogether and I gave up work to look after him I might be classed as one but then what kind of a life would we have?
There are plenty of people on these boards who have had to do that and would love to be in the position me and OH are in right now. Managing to keep a grip on a bit of normality and carry on working. Even if its only part time.
We still pay tax.
We are still seen as contributing. Unlike some of the poor gits on MNs who are treated like scum because they are in a situation, not of their own making, where they get lumped in with every scrounger and faker the Daily Mail cares to produce.

KalSkirata, if the level of caring requires you to be awake all night then surely you would be exempt too?

Or in our case two carers between three disabled kids.
We'll both be obliged to work 20 hours a week.
The kids' needs won't change. The frequent requirement to be in 3 different places at once won't change. We'll still have nobody else to care for them whilst we are supposed to be working - family can't help due to their own working commitments.

So what the hell are we supposed to do?

KalSkirata it isn't just about fitting a job round school hours though, there is holidays, inset days, appointments, sickness, the list goes on.
I know you know this