to ask my children to go and play intheir rooms for 5 minutes

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I know I am, but they are being so constant, and I am starting to get really irratable which is totlaly unfair as they are being lovely but I just need 5 minutes without them whitering at me.

so I have asked them to go and play in their rooms and now I feel bad, we have just wlalked in the house though, we were out for the whole day yesterday and monday and I dont have their boundless energy, I am a bit knackered and just need a cuppa.

YANBU at all. How old are they?
A good way a friend uses is by telling the children that "Mummy needs a time out" Makes herself a cuppa and sits in another room/garden to drink it and tells them to call her ONLY if it is important or an emergency.

they are 5 and 8, and that is right I do need a time out, I am being really grouchy and they are doing nothing wrong.

YANBU... You don't say how old they are but they almost certainly don't need your attention 24/7. We teach them all kinds of things as they grow up and 'independent play' is a very important one. You are a mother, not a children's entertainer. Enjoy your tea

Yanbu at all its ok to be a bit irritated by them especially if they are wittering on , i used to take myself into the kitchen close the door make a they did learn to leave me alone ,

I wrap mine up and throw them
In the garden for 5 minutes hours they love it and I can see them from the kitchen window, a good chance to have a cuppa and do the washing up in peace

YANBU

I often ask my DS who is 8 to go and play in his room as I need some quiet time. He understands, he doesn't take offence, or think I don't love him or anything.

It's good to teach children to respect other people and that sometimes other people need time on their own.

my dc are 4 and 6 and I expect them to play in their rooms for an hour after lunch most days that we are home.

YABU for only asking for 5 minutes :)

My two are playing now. I'm listening but not involved. How long will this last?!?

I thought you were going to say toddlers! At 5 and 8 I would absolutely expect them to go & play on their own while I had a cup of tea. Even when dd was smaller (say 3 or 4) I did the same as Iwanttogetoff's friend - explained that I was feeling cross/sad/grouchy/off colour & that I needed X minutes peace to have a cuppa then I could be happy mum again.

I used to issue dd with the wind up cooking timer so she could see how long she had to wait before asking for anything else though 9 times out of 10 by the time it went ping she was happily engaged in playing & carried on for ages.

If you never get them to play independently, thats why you're so fed up. They don't need to be entertained and observed every minute of the day.

Actually the times I felt guilty weren't the times I nicely asked for 5 minutes peace but the times I didn't and was driven to the point of saying 'WILL YOU JUST STOP WITTERING MINDLESSLY FOR FIVE MINUTES BEFORE I GO OUT OF MY HEAD!' That's when you have to feel like a bad mother

They are old enough to play on their own for a little while. Why not explain mummy needs some quiet time so please go and play in your room for a bit. They will probably say "ok" and trot off to play.

Everyone gets frazzled. Good Luck
My ds1 & ds2 are 3yrs 5mths and none of that works for me. (yet). Ds2 has Autism and needs constant supervision for now.

dd2 is a witterer (is that a word ) she just doesnt stop talking , i still do the kitchen door sometimes as i need 5 minutes silence ,

YABU to only ask for 5 minutes

UANBU
Mine have just been thrown out on their bikes because DH and I have reached Horrible History tolerance.

I've got the same ages as you op & I send them upstairs
They usually find something to play with pretty quick, it's good for them!

Takver the cooking timer thing is a great idea. I must remember that one
Unfortunatley I have had a few of the shouty moments and I felt awful after.

I am lucky enough to send them to playschool twice a week and work on Wednesdays and Saturdays. Sad half of my "me" time is working

If it helps dd will be 10 next month and these days I make her come out and walk the dog with me so I actually get to talk to her rather than getting a fleeting glimpse as she flys past with friends/on way to clubs/etc

well they went off lovely and I have had my cuppa, so peace is restored. witterer is definatly a word, and if it isnt it should be, dd1 will actually just say the same word over and over again if she hasnt got anything to say, will give me a run down of every program and advert she has ever seen and never shuts up.

Came to thread late, so glad you had your cup of tea. You are clearly a nicer mum than me - my DS caught that tone in my voice, that slightly high-pitched just-about-to-lose-all-patience tone, a few minutes ago and said 'Mum, perhaps you should have a nice quiet cup of tea? I'm just off to my room to play for a bit...'. I can hear the Star Wars series of movies being re-enacted in his room (he's got as far as 'Attack of the Clones' so far) and my blood pressure is slowly but surely returning to normal. Love that boy.

thats MY dd her latest obsession is Batman and Dc comics and she just reels off facts about batman im like please i love you lots and lots but will you just shush Glad you had your cuppa we all need 5 minutes

Whenever I needed a time out I would hide in the loo, although not until my DDs were old enough to play safely in the playroom unsupervise. Before this I offered a treat of 30 mins of CBBC whilst I made my tea and sat in the kitchen.
YADNBU
Now mine are teenagers I have to beg them to come out of their rooms.

we had to take the lock off our bathroom

its was one of thos IN the handle iyswim and after having to kick the door in three times we decided we had to get rid of it....

I have a special egg timer called the "no questions egg timer" I will not answer questions when the no questions egg timer is in play. I will talk and be talked to, but NO QUESTIONS!!!! It's brilliant!

I don't use the egg timer for anything else to raise its importance to that of a god.