or ungrateful to think that a present of 2 nights B&B is a thoughtless present.

[LizziePizzie]

Please don't get me wrong here, it is at a VERY nice posh spa hotel, but here in lies the problem. My husband and I are going to have to pay for food and any spa treatments. Its like a brilliant present but with a financial burden attached to it. We are being forced to spoil ourselves when we would rather just save money.

We wouldn't have chosen to spend money on ourselves in this way at all, but now booked, (over mothering sunday weekend so an excuse to spoil me!) we are looking forward to it!

What a bizarre thread. Take enough food from home to the hotel with you (non perishables) and a bottle of baby oil. Sorted.
How inconsiderate of someone to treat you in this way. They should be ashamed of themselves.

When I was younger my brother but me a goldfish - no tank, no food, no gravel, no weed - that's thoughtless. (I'll swap you the whole lot for the weekend away if you want.)

Did you expect them to pay for the spa treatments as well?

Dozer - thank you - at least someone sees where i am coming from.

I am only trying to point out that it is a double edged sword of a present. Can I not be ungrateful and look forward to it?

If it's in the countryside go for walks, or explore nearby villages. Get cheapish pub suppers rather than paying hotel prices. Use the gift in a way that works for you.

I know loads of people would love this gift. I am grateful, I am just sounding out my thoughts here - I thiought that is what this was for?

Sorry Lizzie but AIBU is not the place for a gentle muse - you have asked if YABU and have been told yes. Actually I do understand what you mean - its like people spending £££ on my kids at xmas and somehow they still don't have the things I want for them. You are grateful but feel like the money could have been better spent. As I said before, go and enjoy the elements of it that you can and write a thank you note!

How strange, odd, OTTpresent for a couple to give a couple! Are they going too?

So you'll also have to organise childcare too.

Ingratitude is always an accusation on MN!

I sort of get what you're saying OP. I once had a boyfriend who wanted to treat me to a night in the Dorchester but instead of having a meal there, take me for a kebab instead. Ummmm, sorry to sound ungrateful but no

Many of these places have a set menu price so you could eat in one night and out another. Maybe someone would be happy to buy you a voucher for a spa treatment in advance of bday etc and a package usually includes access to pool etc anyway.

We went to a very posh spa hotel and use of the pool and sauna/steam room was included; you could have a very nice day just using those. We waled into town and went for a cheap pub meal in the evening and brought a bottle of wine back to the room so the weekend didn't cost much extra. There's usually a gym too if that's your sort of thing.

Yes YABU and ungrateful IMO.

Lizzie, can you not use the pool/gym/sauna? I thought most spa hotels let you use the basic facilities and you just pay extra for specific treatments.

Ungrateful - yes!

I tell you what - I'll take the gift of your hands and will happily pay for dinner and spa treatments

MrsCampbellBlack I got there first - and at least offered a goldfish in return.

fair play to you for not having a hissy fit when folks didn't agree with you

lol - If I could give the present away, well... maybe! :o

The present is from my DH friends, the grandparents are looking after the LO and the hotel is in the middle of the country.

Part of the reason for this post is my DH reacted a lot more than I did when we found out it was just B&B.we have been sitting on it for 9 months and only had 3 more months before it expired to cash it in.

AnyFucker - I do think people are being harsh - but I an old enough and ugly enough to cope with the replies. If I couldn't, then I wouldn't have posted in the first place!

I think YABU to be honest. You really don't have to go to the spa, there's still a point to being there ie relaxing. The spa is boring anyway.

Saying you'd prefer a city break is just ungrateful. That's not the point of presents. Don't go if it's such a hassle for you.

could you sell it ?

you know a city break would have a lot of (possibly more) of these "added costs" too, don't you ?

when my kids were younger I would have given my eye teeth for a night or two of child free shagging and relaxing

YANBU.

I get your point totally, going will cost you money so that would put me off anyway.

You can say 'you dont have to use the spa/pay extra for treatments etc etc'
What is the point of a spa hotel then? id rather stay home in my own comfy bedroom for the weekend [with no kids]

YABvvvvvvvvvU
What a lovely, thoughtful gift. I bet the giftee would be very hurt indeed if they read this thread.

Oh and actually I do think it is a pain to get a gift that requires you to spend money and if you eat in the restaurant etc it could easily get £££.

Ignores AnaisB and her goldfish