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To ask our nanny to not take the children to Greggs for lunch once a week?

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headfairy · 13/02/2012 23:27

Dh thinks I'm being precious, the first time it happened I thought "oh we'll, it's just once, it's a treat" (apparently they LOVED it - nanny's capitals, not mine) but she went again today, the third week in a row. The other meal they had today was beans on toast so not exactly bad but hardly the peak of nutrition heights.

Dcs are 2 and 4 btw.

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ladyintheradiator · 14/02/2012 20:47

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headfairy · 14/02/2012 20:47

linerunner packed lunches? Besides at 2 and 4 mine are a few years away from secondary school. Ds isn't even primary yet.

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LineRunner · 14/02/2012 20:52

You will be sending your DCs in at age 15 with mummy's nutritional packed lunches?

Actually, you probably will.

Bogeyface · 14/02/2012 20:53

LineRunner, my eldest 2 had/have packed lunches, as will the others when they get there.

Apart from anything else, lunch costs about £3 a day at DDs school and there is no way I am paying £15 a week for one childs lunches when i could do packed lunches for all 4 of them for that!

LineRunner · 14/02/2012 20:54

And this not about not caring about food, now, is it?

It's about a bit of perspective.

And you'll do what you do anyway. I didn't start the thread.

silverfrog · 14/02/2012 20:54

yes, I definitely will. because no school can cater for dd1.

I would love to sign her up for school meals. but it cannot happen.

dd2 will be eating the school meals - menus for which I can access, along with ingredients, on a weekly basis. I also have meetings with the catering staff termly, to ensure they can cater for ehr dietary needs.

I still fail to see your point, tbh.

Bogeyface · 14/02/2012 20:55

You will be sending your DCs in at age 15 with mummy's nutritional packed lunches?

WTF is wrong with that LineRUnner?!

LineRunner · 14/02/2012 20:55

Yeah, I can do sums.

LineRunner · 14/02/2012 20:57

Autonomy. Not having the piss ripped out them. Letting them have once a week a school dinner, even if it's not a perfectly crafted medly of organic vegetables and pulses.

I dunno.

It's not a world crisis, is it?

crashdoll · 14/02/2012 20:57

LineRunner Children don't "get fed" at secondary school. They choose and buy their own lunch. If you bring up your children to have a healthy attitude towards food, they will make good choices when they have the freedom to do so. I used to buy giant cookies and packets of crisps but also had tuna salad sandwiches on wholebread and jacket potatoes with baked beans too. Being too lax is as bad as being a food nazi.

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headfairy · 14/02/2012 20:57

I don't see why caring about your children's nutrition makes you such a bad person.... Didn't do Jamie Oliver any harm did it?

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crashdoll · 14/02/2012 20:58

Btw OP, YANBU. They're little and don't need Greggs once a week.

crashdoll · 14/02/2012 20:58

And you sound like you have a good attitude towards food OP.

Bogeyface · 14/02/2012 20:58

I have just asked DD if she has ever had the "piss ripped out" of her for having packed lunches and she said "No?! (in a WTF kind of way)" she and her friends have a mix of packed lunchers and dinner buyers and there has never been an issue so she says.

I rather think you are projecting, dear!

LineRunner · 14/02/2012 20:58

I have two teenagers.

HTH.

silverfrog · 14/02/2012 20:59

especially when they are still toddlers, headfairy - that is the biggest crime. wanting your small children to have a nice, balanced diet.

weird, huh?

LineRunner · 14/02/2012 21:00

It's not having packed lunches per se, it's the perceived autonomy.

Bogeyface · 14/02/2012 21:01

I have one that has been all through secondary and one who is in it now and neither of them have a fecking clue what you are on about Line :o

silverfrog · 14/02/2012 21:01

I've had 2 teenage stepchildren.

one had nutritional packed lunches, because she turned her nose up at the shit her school srved. she seemed to survive just fine, tbh.

the other had lovely lunches at school. and they were lovely too - proper food, and yes he obviously made some choices, but it was very hard to avoid eating a balanced meal.

as it was when I was at school, tbh. secondary school does not necessarily mean eating shit, you know.

Bogeyface · 14/02/2012 21:02

We are discussing this thread and neither of them give a toss, lunch is lunch to them, and this whole "percieved autonomy" bollocks if over thinking it waaaaaay too much!

silverfrog · 14/02/2012 21:02

oh, well, if it is autonomy you are after - dd1 gets to choose what I cook her for lunch every day already. she is 7. she also chooses what goes into her snack box (mix of fruit, 'treats' and the odd (home baked) biscuit/cake)

if that is all you are worried about, i failt o see why lunch sent from home is so evil

Bogeyface · 14/02/2012 21:04

Silver, I agree that it doesnt mean they eat shit once at school. But there is a co-op on the road near school and every morning it is full of school kidss spending their dinner money on crap. DD admitted to doing it a couple of times when her dad gave her dinner money when I was in hospital but she didnt do it again as she was RAVENOUS by about 2pm :o:o

But alot of kids do it every day :(

LineRunner · 14/02/2012 21:07

I Bf mine, I made them home-grown and home-made organic vegetarian purees and meals, I was part of the campaign to ban hydrogenated fats in foods aimed at children.

Of course it's massively important.

But my teenagers are learning their autonomy now. And I can't ban them from choosing what's on offer at the school canteen. They know the food values and the costs. They have to make their choices now.

Oh, and a lot of their friends chuck their packed lunches in the bin and buy the canteen chips anyway. Sad, but it happens.

It's complicated.

coffeewhitenosugar · 14/02/2012 21:12

I was once told beans on toast is a nutritionally sound/complete meal! and on the healthy eating wheel in school nutrition lessons the other day the school nurse put pizza in the middle as it contains bread, vegetables and protein

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