To ask our nanny to not take the children to Greggs for lunch once a week?

[headfairy]

Dh thinks I'm being precious, the first time it happened I thought "oh we'll, it's just once, it's a treat" (apparently they LOVED it - nanny's capitals, not mine) but she went again today, the third week in a row. The other meal they had today was beans on toast so not exactly bad but hardly the peak of nutrition heights.

Dcs are 2 and 4 btw.

wails now I neeeeed a cheese and onion slice! I lived on them when pregnant with number 2... only thing that didn't make me sick.

It is probably a good thing that I am on the other side of the Atlantic from the nearest Gregg's... my kids would look like Glaswegian refugees in no time...

I knew you had never been to one. Tell the nanny not to go, either tell her what to cook each day or give her a list of approved foods.

Then most importantly on one your days with tge kids, do yourself and them a favour and take them to Greggs they enjoy it, it sounds like you give them a decent dit tge rear of tge time. Hell have a giant iced Belgium bun yourself too.

Ha - count yourself lucky you don't have my (ex-)nanny who brought them to McDonalds several times a week (despite me leaving home-cooked stuff that I made a real effort to make after a full day at work and a twice-a-night-waking son!) and trying to fob me off with stories that the staff at McDonalds just thought DD was cute and came and GAVE her the Happy Meal toys!

I would think once a week is ok but if you aren't happy with it, YANBU to ask her not to - your children, you rules and you are paying her.

oooohhhhhh craicdealer that would be great :)

If she's only working three days a week personally I would prefer her to be the food nazi and allow me to be the one offering "treats"

Tell her they must have veg and fruit at their other meal. easy

Exactly sunnydelight, if you have a nanny for part of the week then you want them cooking decent meals and actually doing what they are being paid to do. On days out or as a now and again thing then fine but not every week.

I like to feel that on says off or the weekend I am not worrying about what to feed the dd's and we can go out for a pizza or something and they won't have already had their junk food quota for the week. I pay my nanny to look after them and that includes feeding them home cooked food.

YABU, I wouldn't mind once a week and I also think beans on toast is a nutritious meal, and is one of their five a day. On wholemeal toast and maybe with a bit grated cheese it's not a bad meal at all.

Kids have 21 meals a week. The Greggs pizza is only 1/21th of their meals.

Beans on toast is fine.

composhat great reply, thanks. I shall from now on get a bit of perspective

Ummm ok thecook - perhaps I should ask her to give them the odd line of coke too as we're obviously disgusting people because we can afford a part time nanny I don't think that because I can afford to pay someone to look after my kids in our home (FYI waaaay cheaper than a nursery) that it's carte Blanche for her to give the kids all kinds of unhealthy things. I have been pulled up for being a bit precious and I'm happy to accept that, so please take those chips off your shoulder and butt out.

A greggs sausage roll is like an inappropriate one night stand with the stereotypical bad guy.

It seems like a good idea at the time, you enjoy it and it hits the spot but it leaves you feeling guilty and just ever so slightly dirty...

Pizza slices arn't bad, but I don't like the onion in the sauce.

And so fucking what if the OP can afford a nanny. Some people are just so bitter!

There's onion in the sauce.... There's definitely some witchcraft going on at Greggs because ds can spot an onion at half a mile and won't touch them!

Agree wrt nannies, it's just another form of childcare. It's not like I'm employing a uniformed Norland nanny to push my dcs around in a giant Silver Cross while I do luncheon at my club. I have a nanny because I work shift work and unpredictable and anti social hours....'nuff said.

Is there anything nicer than an iced ring doughnut? Honestly, really, anything at all? I could eat one pretty much right now - supermarkets just don't come close and as for these new stylish 12 doughnuts for £10 no way! Give me 5 for £1.20 in Greggs and a gingerbread man for the little un!

Yes, you are being precious

Headfairy I hate to break it to you, but they don't give our happy meal toys with "just a coffee" at McDonalds.

Nowt wrong with having a nanny if that's what you choose, though would like to know where you live, CIA round here nannys are definatly much mote expensive than Nursary!

As for the Greggs thing - I flippin love Greggs food and it's much better than lots of people give it credit for being. Once a week isn't going to do your DC's any harm at all. My DS goes to McDonalds with DH every Wednesday (if he's good) and also loves the occasional greasy spam fritter from the chippy, but he eats healthy balanced meals the rest of the time so I don't see the problem. (prepared to be flamed for that!)

At the end of the day though OP it is your house and your rules and while I do think YABU about Greggs as a whole YANBU to expect your nanny to abide by your wishes. If you don't want her taking the kids there tell her, you are their mum and it is your and nobody else's job to decide what sorts of food your kids should be eating.

Ok, I'm going to get flamed now but I agree with the OP. Greggs is fine as a treat now and then, but if she only works 3 days a week and is taking them every week then that is 1/3 of the days she has them ( can't you tell I've got maths O level!)
I also have a nanny and she will take mine to McDonalds as a treat, usually in school holidays, but only after checking it is ok with me. Sometimes we have taken them there recently and I'll ask her not to.

Apologies for my terrible spelling in my last post! Stupid phone!

Pro we're in Surrey, nurseries cost about £75 per child, per day. We pay our nanny £100 per day. Plus dh doesn't get home from work until 7pm so he wouldn't be able to do nursery pick up (I work til 10.30 every evening)

toddlerama you're right now I think about it, but I don't think my kids were the recipients of the happy meal..., ds claims he's never eaten there.

Thetokengirl I think your attitude is very sensible and don't see why anyone should flame you for that.

DD (4) kept asking to be taken to the sausage roll shop. "You know the one by CM's DD's school" - I had absolutely no idea. Neither did CM. This went on for months, with requests to please please please go to the sausage roll shop/cafe all summer long.

Until one day we were walking down a high street (not our regular), and DD starts excitedly shouting THERE'S THE SAUSAGE ROLL SHOP, jumping up & down - & pointing to the Gregg's across the road

YABU - it's only once a week and actually their sandwiches are quite nice. Order her to steer clear of the fruit shoots though

Thanks head fairy - wasn't thinking about the 'per child' cost if Nursary care, you are right it does work out better to get a nanny for more than 1 DC! (Will have to keep that in mind.)
Also, ignore people flaming you about your views on Greggs stuff - like I said in my first post I personally love it (as a treat) but if you don't then don't be made to feel bad about that. A nanny is your employee and you are their boss (in effect) so they should abide by the rules of your household just as anyone else would abide by the rules of their workplace.

YANBU. As an occasional treat it OK, but not once a week, every week. I won't be happy with that. Saying that a Greggs pizza slice isn't all that bad as far as treats go. well there are worse things!